Anonymous: Isn’t it true that anal all time damages a girls butt? And wouldn’t doing the same thing all the time get boring?

No, that is not true. With lube and warmup, anal is perfectly safe, even practiced daily for years. There are couples out there who have been having anal sex only, regularly, for 20+ years with zero problems. The anus is a muscle, and using it properly can actually help strengthen it and develop good muscle control and tone. Regular anal sex can therefore give the illusion of increased looseness, but in reality this is generally due to the ability to consciously relax more easily and open up at will for easier sex. Similarly, the idea that anal sex causes anal prolapse is a myth. In reality, some people are prone to developing an anal prolapse and studies have found that it’s likely to happen for those people whether they have anal sex or not. But it’s very uncommon. In general the sort of injuries you might hear about from anal result from bad practices—sex without proper warmup or lube, resulting in a painful experience and potential injuries. If anal hurts, you’re doing it wrong and are at risk of injury.

As for boring, no. Because it’s not the same thing all the time, there’s all sorts of variety possible with anal and oral. It’s just the exclusion of vaginal intercourse. To many, that exclusion is something exciting and a turn on, not a limitation—either because vaginal sex doesn’t interest them, or because the absence of it from their sex life is an appealing fetish.

Anonymous: Good girl, now you just need to post some pics of that naughty DP dildo action.

misslutification: I wanted to know how it would feel in both holes, but now I’m going to ignore my pussy for a while and only focus on my ass and mouth. I’m excited

sissysuperhero: Now and then I hear from people who cannot believe anyone could enjoy getting fucked in their ass. They are confident it’s meant to be a one-way street.

Let’s look at the evidence.

1. The average rectum is exactly the same size as the average cock, and that the prostate is right next to it (G spot for bio girls). Why is this?
2. Some people can cum from getting assfucked without touching their genitals. This includes men, women, and gurls like me. Why is this?
3. Many of us who cum from anal also find that when we do, our ass produces creamy discharge like a pussy. Again….why is this?

Those three things could not be true if assfucking were unnatural, could they? We seem to have EVOLVED to enjoy assfucking! (Or for you born-again types, we were created that way.) Who knows why, but we have. So enjoy!!

Meli

Anonymous: I’m having a problem. My bf and I recently started doing anal only. I was getting into it and honestly I like anal, but my bf seems to be under the impression that AO means he can just flip me and fuck my ass. No foreplay, no warm up, just enough time to get the lube! I’ve tried to tell him it’s not cool, but he says AO means nothing but the ass. Can a girl get a little support here?

For almost everyone, especially starting out, anal requires warmup. That can be fingering, toying, wearing a butt plug while making out or giving/receiving oral, etc. Few people can or want to regularly go straight to a cock in the ass without any foreplay. It can work sometimes, or can be hot in fantasy, but most people need to warm up first.

Anal only, in the general sense, is shorthand for “no vaginal penetration”. Oral and other sexual activities not related to vaginal penetration are still very much a part of most anal only couples’ sex lives. Many will incorporate cunnilingus still, but some who exclude that will instead do rimming as foreplay. Everyone has a slightly different personal interpretation, and that’s fine, but there’s certainly nothing excluding anything but vaginal penetration from the concept.

You need to talk with him and make sure he understands that while you’re happy to be anal only with him and would like to keep doing so, you need some foreplay and warmup in order for anal to be enjoyable for you. You’re an awesome girlfriend who is willing and happy to do this with him, and if he’s not willing to incorporate foreplay—which, let’s be clear, is not some boring chore, but a variety of other fun sex acts—into your pre-anal routine, he’s frankly not someone who should be having anal sex. Anal can be awesome for everyone, but it comes with more responsibility on the person penetrating to ensure their partner enjoys it and doesn’t get hurt.

Good luck! I hope you’re able to work it out and continue having a fun anal only sex life.

black-oni-blog: Hello! is it bad that i care only for anal sex? i mean i don’t mind if my partner asks to fuck her vagina… but i think im addicted to anal!

theanallady: Of course it’s not bad.
You even indulge in some vaginal sex if the lady wants to. This is you being a good man, I believe.
But keep loving anal and introduce it to your ladies 😉

Refusing to have vaginal if you do not like it, however, doesn’t make you bad either, as long as you similarly respect others’ preferences and do not push anal onto someone who doesn’t want it. Everyone has their own preferences and limits and you just need to meet partners who are compatible with yours.

Anonymous: While my hubby would probably answer and absolute YES to being anal only I don’t think I can, at least not all the time. Yes it can feel a lot better than vaginal sometimes, but having to go to the bathroom after to push out his load just isn’t romantic. Otherwise there are all sorts of embarrassing complications next day. Do you all just live with this? I could just make him pull out but he hates that.

Most people likely push it out after and don’t worry about it—it’s just a fact of sex. Some couples work towards being able to do deep penetration so ejaculation can occur past a certain point where it’s unlikely to come back out, and just gets absorbed. Others leave it in the rectum or use a plug to keep it inside. The more frequently you have anal, the easier such things can get to deal with, too. If both of you do have some interest in anal only, I’d suggest trying it for a few weeks to a month and just see how it goes.

kinkymilf4u: I’m practicing anal only August!! I cannot wait for the festivities to commence tonight 🙂

Excellent! I’m sure you’ll have an amazing month.

Anonymous: Thanks for running this site. As a man, I feel nothing much at all when I look at a pussy, but i’m in love with everything about a womans ass. Loving all the questions here, and how this place make me realize its normal to be this way. Just want to find that special lady so I can show her how much better it can be for her too. Do you think many women are more open to the idea and can accept a man like me who just wants a loving relationship but without vaginal coming into play?

You’re quite welcome—that’s a big motivation for this site, letting people know that there are a lot of other people out there—men and women both—with the same preference and that it’s not a bad thing.

There are definitely women who prefer anal, and some who don’t get much out of vaginal, or actively dislike it, or are just turned on by ignoring it. A significant number of anal only blogs on tumblr are run by women. That said, women who actively want to be anal only are most likely a minority and it would obviously be hard when dating to find someone up front who likes and wants anal only.

The most common way anal only couples end up that way, in my experience, is first and foremost by just being a good couple that communicates well and is open minded to each other’s preferences. Careful introduction to anal if either partner is inexperienced with that has to be a first step towards anal only, and honest but subtle expression of a desire for going anal only if and once your partner really enjoys anal, starting with a short period of anal only and gradually going for longer periods.

Or you could do as some have done once you have sex with a new partner for the first time and just be up front that you only have anal and oral sex, not vaginal. But you would have to be very prepared for rejection, I imagine.