Ronald: We’ve been anal only for almost two years and love it, but when my wife’s sister found out, she made it a whole thing and said we were depraved. How do you deal with judgment from family?

Good for you and your wife. Two years of anal only is something to be proud of, and I’m glad to hear you’re both loving it. Keep it up, and don’t look back!

Unfortunately, judgment from family—especially when they don’t understand what anal only really means—isn’t uncommon. People tend to react harshly to things that challenge their assumptions, especially around sex. And when it comes from someone close like a sister, it can feel even more personal.

The truth is, choosing anal only isn’t depraved. It’s healthy, natural, intentional and intimate. You know that, because you’ve been living it for the last two years. It’s about connection, trust, and a shared sense of purpose between two people who know what they want. There’s nothing shameful about that. If anything, it’s something most couples could learn from—setting boundaries, committing to each other’s pleasure, and not just doing what’s expected by default.

When it comes to dealing with judgment, the best approach is calm confidence. You don’t need to argue or justify your choices. You can simply say, “This is what works for us, and we’re happy.” That’s often more disarming than trying to convince someone who’s reacting from a place of discomfort or ignorance.

You don’t owe her any further explanation if you don’t want to discuss it more, but if you’d like her to see your side, try to talk about all the positives and why it’s such a good experience for the both of you. Maybe she’ll back off, or maybe she’ll even become curious and want to learn more or try it herself. Those who are most outspoken against anal often are those who are secretly interested in it.

Being anal only isn’t only about what hole you use. It’s about what hole you don’t. There’s a discipline to it—a steady, committed refusal to let the pussy be part of your sex life at all. That includes sex with others, and it includes sex with yourself. It’s not “almost anal only” if your fingers still drift to your clit at night. It’s not “close enough” if you occasionally cave and let your boyfriend finish in your cunt when he begs. It’s only anal, or it isn’t.

This Is About More Than Preference

Some people try to frame anal only as just a kink, just a preference, just a phase. That couldn’t be further from the truth. This is a discipline. Like any discipline, it requires clarity, intention, and boundaries that are honored every single day. When a woman chooses to live this way—when she gives her body over to being trained, used, stretched, and loved only through her ass—she is asserting control over her purpose and pleasure in a way most people will never understand. She is not being deprived. She is being refined.

Why Denial Is Powerful

Vaginal denial isn’t a punishment. It’s the tool that makes anal only real. When you refuse vaginal access—when you shut it down, not just physically but mentally and emotionally—you stop splitting your attention. Your whole sexual identity becomes focused, centered, grounded in your ass. That’s when you start to feel the difference. Not just more stretch, but more depth. Not just longer orgasms, but a deeper surrender.

And that denial? It sharpens the desire. It trains your body to feel more through your butthole, to crave more, to need more. When you stop settling for “both,” your ass starts to awaken fully. And that’s when the real transformation happens.

It’s a Commitment You Renew Daily

The discipline of anal only isn’t always easy—especially early on. The temptation to “cheat” can show up in subtle ways: lazy masturbating, curiosity about “mixing it up,” pressure from partners who “miss the pussy.”

That’s why anal only has to be deliberate. You remind yourself why you’re doing it. You keep your plug in. You stretch bigger. You stay off your clit. You don’t rationalize “just a little” vaginal attention. Discipline isn’t about shame—it’s about integrity. It’s about living your values with your body, not just with your words.

Not Everyone Will Get It—That’s Okay

Some people won’t understand why this matters to you. They’ll call it restrictive, extreme, or even silly. But they don’t feel what you feel. They don’t know what it’s like to crave fullness, to feel proud of a gaping stretch, to know that your hole is always open and always ready for what it was made to take. You do. And your discipline is what makes that possible.

So if you’re anal only—or becoming it—don’t underestimate the power of your decision. You’re not just choosing a hole. You’re choosing a path. And staying on that path takes discipline, daily.

Anonymous: My boyfriend and I have been together three years, and we’re monogamous. We always do anal but never really thought about calling it ‘anal only.’ Is AO something that applies to gay men too?

Yes—anal only absolutely applies to gay men. In many ways, gay couples like yourselves have been quietly embodying the lifestyle long before it had a name.

Anal only isn’t about gender. It’s about commitment to anal sex as the primary form of penetration, intimacy, and release. With no pussy, there’s no distraction. Just the butthole, always and only.

For straight couples it can often take on an aspect of vaginal denial and rejection since there is that choice, while for gay men it can be more about a celebration of the inevitability of anal. Some bottoms choose to reject touching or using their penis and exclusively receiving anal and giving oral, but that can vary from person to person.

Pam & Sam: I’ve been wanting to share some of my personal experiences and confirm a few things I’ve read here. I’m a woman, happily married with no kids, and over the last couple of years, my husband and I have discovered a fierce passion for the stag & vixen lifestyle.

Together, we dive into this wild world, exploring swinger clubs and tight-knit circles where we connect with other couples—and sometimes with multiple men. Sometimes my husband jumps right in, other times he prefers to watch me take full control. This dynamic has pulled us closer and added a deliciously raw edge to our relationship.

Not long ago, I took a bold leap from double penetration to double anal. At first, it was challenging, but it quickly became a game-changer. I never imagined we’d enjoy it this much. This new thrill lets me—and us—fully indulge in group sex action, and I won’t lie—I got hooked on double anal. Now, we’re enjoying it to the absolute fullest without me having to step into porn or expose myself publicly. It’s our private, dirty secret—and it feels fucking amazing.

He even wanted me—actually allowed me, call it what you want—to go solo with double anal while he watched a couple of times. He told me it was mind-blowing for him to see how I was completely owning all those men, stretching and filling my ass to the max. The way I mastered every inch had him utterly captivated. You can’t imagine how empowered and damn sexy I felt afterward. That raw, intense feeling of control and pleasure was intoxicating—pure power.

For us, this lifestyle is about personal growth and self-discovery, the thrill of voyeuristic and shared pleasure, and exploring sexual possibilities that keep our relationship vibrant and alive. It’s a journey that requires trust, communication, and openness, but the rewards are beyond worth it.

I hope sharing this encourages others who are curious or considering this path. Living boldly and loving freely has truly transformed us.

I love being a hotwife. There’s something wildly liberating about owning this role with my husband’s full support. Despite the steamy encounters with other men and couples, there are no romantic feelings involved—our love is exclusive, fierce, and rock solid.

Thanks so much for sharing, I’m glad that you’re enjoying this experience and have made the transition from DP to double anal. I hope that you are also embracing anal only as part of this transition and no longer use your vagina anymore. If you really enjoy DAP over time you may find yourself wanting to explore going double anal only!

With some content focusing on encouraging women to maintain their vaginal virginity if they have the choice and go straight to anal only without ever using their pussy, this can lead women who have already had vaginal sex to wonder if there’s a place for them in the anal only lifestyle. And the answer is: of course there is, everyone is welcome in the anal only lifestyle, you just need to commit to going anal only going forward. Anal only isn’t a prize for the untouched. It’s a choice, a commitment, and a mindset—and those are things you can embrace at any point in your journey.

What Matters Is Where You’re Headed

Maybe you’ve had vaginal sex. Maybe it was fine, maybe it wasn’t. Maybe you liked it at the time, or maybe you never did. It doesn’t matter. What matters is what your body and your mind are drawn to now.

Many women find that after discovering anal—real anal, not just a side act—they feel something click. A hunger that’s deeper. A stretch that’s more complete. A connection that’s far more intimate. Suddenly, the idea of going back to vaginal feels not just uninteresting but wrong. And for some, even repellent.

That shift doesn’t invalidate your past. It confirms your future.

A Different Kind of Purity

Pussy-based definitions of purity are outdated and don’t serve you. Anal only creates a new kind of purity—not one about “saving” yourself, but about fully embracing what you really want. It’s not about shame or restriction. It’s about intention. It’s about choosing to give your ass everything, and to give your pussy nothing.

That might mean closing a door you once opened. It might mean gently telling partners that you’ve changed. That from now on, your holes don’t share duties. The ass is for love, for sex, for life. The pussy is off-limits. Not forgotten—just irrelevant.

You’re not late. You’re right on time.

Building a Life on Anal

Being anal only doesn’t require a clean slate—it builds a stronger foundation the moment you decide to start. You plug in. You stop touching yourself vaginally. You start training intentionally. You reshape your identity around your butthole: how it feels, how it serves, how it fulfills you. And you stop apologizing for any of it.

For many, anal only isn’t just about sex. It’s about lifestyle. About discipline, devotion, and connection. About putting the past behind you—literally and figuratively—and letting your butthole lead the way forward.

So if you’re wondering whether you can still be anal only, the answer is simple: if you want to be, you’re already headed in the right direction.

Joslynn: I’m a trans woman and for about 2 years I’ve been trying to find the limit my ass can be stretched, almost every day. I can see I’ve definitely progressed, but I want it even looser. How do all the porn stars have such blown out assholes and are able to take huge toys, literally, 2 feet deep in their asses? How are they able to be very rapidly fisted? I know part of it is a lot of practice, but there has to be something else, right? What am I missing?

Thanks for your question, Joslynn, and for sharing your goals. What you’re describing is something a lot of people who are deep into anal play wonder at some point: what does it really take to reach those advanced levels of stretch, depth, and responsiveness? You’re right that consistent practice is a big part of it, but there are definitely other elements that go into what you’re seeing in extreme anal performers.

First, body type and anatomy matter. Some porn performers simply have a more naturally relaxed pelvic floor or rectal elasticity, which gives them an easier time going deeper or looser. Hormonal status, body size, and even connective tissue flexibility can all influence this. That doesn’t mean it’s unattainable — just that some people may progress more quickly.

Second, many of the stars who can take massive toys or hands rapidly have put in years of very specific training. Daily or near-daily play helps, but longer-duration stretching sessions (think 30–60 minutes minimum daily with large plugs or toys, often multiple hours a day) are often a key factor. Many performers use incremental toy sizing systems, work up slowly over time, and frequently revisit sizes they’ve already mastered to maintain openness.

You might also be seeing the effects of temporary gaping and preparation — often, stars warm up with trainers or hands well before filming. What you’re seeing on camera isn’t always just what their body can do “cold.” Some also use enemas or douches not just to clean but to soften and relax the lower rectum beforehand.

Lastly, don’t underestimate the mental side. A lot of what allows people to reach those extremes is a deep mental connection to submission, surrender, or accomplishment, and training your mind to associate big stretch with arousal, not fear.

You’re already doing a lot right. Keep listening to your body, celebrate your progress, and don’t rush pain or strain. Some of the deepest, most blown-out girls you see in porn got there over 5–10 years — and with plenty of trial and error. If you stay patient and intentional, you’ll keep making progress.

VanessaK: I had a baby last year and haven’t wanted vaginal since. Is it normal to feel more drawn to anal after giving birth? It just feels more intimate and tighter. Has anyone else made the switch post-pregnancy?

You are definitely not alone, a lot of women find that their interest in vaginal sex and vaginal arousal declines after giving birth. It’s the perfect time to make the switch to anal only, and really cements the idea that your vagina is only for giving birth and not for sex. Enjoy it, and stay anal only!

For women living anal only, it’s not uncommon to occasionally feel a tug of curiosity about what you left behind. The vagina, once seen as central, is now dormant—untouched and unneeded. And yet, sometimes, a stray thought forms, a subtle feeling, a question: What would it feel like to use my pussy again?

The Legacy of Vaginal Conditioning

From childhood, we’re taught that the vagina is the center of female sexuality. Penetration, pleasure, periods, reproduction, loss of virginity—all routed through one place. It becomes the expectation, the symbol of sex, the assumed default.

So when you go anal only, you’re not just making a physical shift, you’re rejecting a cultural norm. You’re overriding decades of conditioning. And every now and then, that conditioning might try to whisper back.

That whisper isn’t proof that you’re not anal only. It’s proof that you’re undoing something deeper.

What “Curiosity” Usually Means

For many women, vaginal curiosity is less about real desire and more about:

• A reaction to external triggers (a memory, an old fantasy, a scene in a show)
• Hormonal cycles that create momentary sensitivity
• Psychological rebellion against the boundaries you’ve chosen
• A desire for something easier, especially if anal orgasms are still difficult for you

Ask yourself: Do I really want to use my pussy again? Or do I just want to feel something forbidden, different, or nostalgic? Often, the answer is clear: you don’t want to go back.

When Women Give In—and Regret It

Some anal only women do give in to vaginal curiosity at some point. And almost without exception, the result is the same: disappointment, disconnection, and deep regret.

They often say that it wasn’t anywhere as pleasurable as they had remembered, that it may have even been uncomfortable or painful, and that they can’t believe they broke their streak for something so disappointing.

The act itself is rarely pleasurable compared to anal. It doesn’t satisfy. And while it may resolve the question of “what if,” it almost always leads to renewed and even stronger commitment to anal only going forward.

But here’s the truth: you don’t have to learn the hard way.

That regret can be avoided. You don’t have to break your streak to know that your ass is where your real pleasure lives. Curiosity doesn’t need to be acted on. It just needs to be understood, acknowledged, and then redirected.

How to Handle the Feeling

1. Don’t panic. You haven’t failed anything by having a thought. Anal only is not about being numb. It’s about staying aware and aligned.
2. Redirect arousal through the ass. The fastest way to silence the whisper is to amplify what already satisfies you. Use a larger plug. Masturbate with a larger dildo. Have a long anal session with your partner. Watch your favorite anal only scene. Let your body remember where it belongs.
3. Recommit symbolically. Put a big butt plug in and journal. Remind yourself, not with guilt, but with intention, why you’ve chosen this path.
4. Talk to your partner or mentor if needed. Sometimes curiosity fades faster when shared and seen for what it is: a moment. Not a need. Not a desire. Just a passing wave.

You gave up your vagina for a reason. You know what your body craves. You know where your real orgasm lives. So when that old curiosity flares up, smile at it. Recognize it. And then let it go. Curiosity doesn’t mean turning around. It means you’re standing on solid ground.

And the only way forward is through your ass.

Anonymous: I’ve been lurking here for a while and finally decided to jump in because this place gave me the courage to speak up and maybe get some real advice.

I’m almost 30, pretty sexually experienced and adventurous. I’m currently in a relationship — stable, grown-up, and organized, just like I wanted. Before this, I was all over the place: multiple boyfriends, threesomes, and somewhere along the way, I discovered my absolute passion for anal sex. It’s become my biggest turn-on.

Now, here’s the thing. My boyfriend is super wealthy and spoils me in every way except in bed. He’s mostly into oral and vaginal, and no matter how much I try, he’s just not into anal. I’ve even tried to get him to experiment with it, but no luck. Meanwhile, I find myself masturbating to anal-heavy porn, recently even mostly double anal scenes — those drive me wild. I even catch myself daydreaming about being in those scenes, completely taken and stretched, and it’s honestly the hottest thing I can imagine. What’s wrong with me?

I’m seriously craving an anal-only sex life, but how do you convince him to open up to that? I’ve tried everything I can think of, but he’s just not there. And forget about double anal or group stuff — I don’t even know how to bring that up without killing the mood or freaking him out. Am I crazy for wanting this so badly? Should I just accept a stable but kind of boring sex life? Or… is it okay to explore this behind his back if he won’t meet me halfway? How do you balance wanting wild, kinky sex with wanting a steady relationship? Has anyone been stuck in this spot and figured out a way to have both? Or should I just end the relationship and look for what truly makes me happy?

I’m really torn and could use some honest advice.

Thank you for being so open. What you’re feeling isn’t “wrong” — it’s deeply human. It’s okay to crave more than what you’re currently getting, especially when you’ve discovered a part of your sexuality that brings you such intense, personal pleasure. Anal, and particularly anal only, can be deeply affirming, and wanting to share that with your partner isn’t selfish — it’s a desire for intimacy, connection, and mutual expression.

At the same time, your partner’s disinterest isn’t a personal failure either. People have limits and preferences, and while those can sometimes shift, they don’t always. The tough part is realizing that compatibility in a relationship isn’t just emotional or practical — it’s sexual too. And when there’s a deep mismatch, especially on something you’re passionate about, it can create a quiet ache over time, even if everything else seems stable.

You’re not crazy for wanting double anal or group sex, or even for fantasizing about it. You’re not broken. You’re a sexual person with vivid and evolving desires — that’s normal. But no matter how strong the craving, going behind your partner’s back isn’t the right move. It might offer a thrill, but at the cost of trust and long-term peace of mind. That doesn’t mean you’re trapped either. It just means the choice you make should come from clarity, not desperation.

If you haven’t already, try having an open, pressure-free conversation with your boyfriend. Not just about anal, but about what arousal means for you now — how it’s become core to your sense of self. He may not be willing to join you fully, but if he loves you, he’ll listen.

If he still can’t or won’t meet you partway — even just with a toy in a low-pressure setting — then you have to ask yourself: Is staying with him more important than living as your full sexual self? That’s not a decision anyone else can make for you.

Joel: Your post congratulating Vicky Sol was a great one! It’s important to thank all the anal focused stars. I’m a male porn star fan and I think a lot of them don’t get that kind of recognition. Of course we have to thank Giorgio Grandi. Without LegalPorno, 0% Pussy might have not existed! Some other ones are Mike Adriano who’s been anal heavy for years and now he has all these anal sites for great content. Markus Dupree has Vogov, not anal only, but it has anal in every video. Skip the pussy content, it’s some great ass fucking!

Absolutely agree — Giorgio Grandi and LegalPorno played a massive role in pioneering the “0% Pussy” concept and pushing the boundaries of what anal scenes could be. Mike Adriano deserves credit too, not just for his signature style but for building whole networks of anal-focused content that have inspired so many fans and performers alike even if they aren’t anal only. Even just having consistent anal in every scene and a strong anal focus is a step in the right direction, though we want to see fully anal only as the end goal!

Anal porn is an art form — and it’s the stars, crews, and fans who’ve helped it evolve into something deeply worthy of celebration. Let’s get more people committing to anal only.