dirtyndelicious: What are the pros / cons to being an anal only slut? Can you have an orgasm anally? Do you enjoy it more?

you-should-dp-me: I can’t have an orgasm exclusively through anal yet, but I’m trying! I enjoy anal more because it makes me feel like a true slut. Any old slut can stick a bunch of dicks in her cunt, but only a real slut can stay anal only. It’s a lot of extra work to prepare your asshole however the pay off is intense. I’d say that’s the main con of being anal only though, it’s difficult to be spontaneous. If I want to have anal sex or masturbate I have to carve out a large portion of time for prep. But if you’re patient and motivated then it can produce some incredible orgasms

Anonymous: I’ve been training my ass and can handle one fist already!! Should I keep going and try for 2??

Well, since you enjoy anal fisting, you clearly enjoy anal stretching and large insertions, so why not? As long as you go about it safely and without injuring yourself, go for it! Then you can answer the question for us of whether two fists are better than one.

Anonymous: I joked about having an Anal Only September with my long-distance boyfriend and we ended up actually deciding to try it… now I’m only allowed to touch my clit if I have a toy inside my ass and in two weeks I’m going to go pure anal only with no pussy stimulation whatsoever… I’m really nervous but also super excited… any tips?

Congratulations! A month of anal only is a wonderful way to experience the benefits of an anal only relationship without making a long term commitment up front. I’m sure you’ll love it! I like the idea of incorporating clitoral denial but easing into it over a couple of weeks, and I’d like to hear more about how this goes for you as you transition from being able to use your clit during anal play to going pure anal only.

I would suggest starting out with a higher frequency of clitoral stimulation during your anal play but working towards tapering it off as you approach the two week point where you will abandon it fully, in order to help with that transition rather than it being a sudden removal. Try, during the first two weeks, to get close to orgasm with as little clitoral stimulation as possible, and see if you can continue to push that more and more until you’re only using your clit the absolute bare minimum needed to cum.

Once you do go into the clit denial stage, whenever you feel the urge to touch yourself, rub your ass and your asshole instead. Finger your ass, use toys, do whatever it takes to redirect that urge to touch your clit to your ass instead, until it feels natural to go for your ass instead when you feel aroused. The urge to touch your clit is a habit, and it can be changed.

If you haven’t already, I would suggest joining the Anal Only Lifestyle Forum and creating a thread in our Challenges forum where you can post updates and receive encouragement from other users. Those who have done so find it helpful to maintain momentum towards their goal. Good luck, and enjoy!

Anonymous: The more I get fucked in my ass the more I realize how much I hate getting fucked in my cunt.

That’s not an uncommon result of moving towards more and more anal — while some women certainly enjoy both, many don’t get all that much from vaginal and as they discover anal pleasure they dislike vaginal even more. Before anal it may have been the best sex they’d experienced, but after, anal is so much better as to make vaginal seem pointless.

So, this is a great sign, because it means you’re discovering something so much more pleasurable. Undoubtedly, before long you’ll be going fully anal only, if this trend continues.

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As always, there is also the Anal Only Lifestyle Forum, with a community of over 700 members, and which you should absolutely join if you have not already.

Anonymous: I like to fantasize about girls who are anal only and who constantly keep their assholes lubed so that they are always ready for a good fucking. I wonder if any of your followers practise this?

I recommend women always wear a comfortable anal plug day and night instead, both to help maintain an anal focus and arousal, and to keep her ass warmed up and ready for sex (and because it feels good!). The plug will be lubed, so her ass will be as well (at least, to an extent). Carrying extra lube with you is important as well, in case you need to reapply any.

anonymousslaveamongstyou: I can’t wait to please daddy ?

distinguishedmentalitydinosaur: So, I have been instructed to fuck myself in the arse for 20 to 30 minutes each day as part of both anal training and denial. Today, whilst completing my daily challenge I had to stop twice as I felt as though I was on the edge of orgasm, even once I had finished my challenge my cunt and arse hole were twitching! I’ve never cum from just anal stimulation and this occurring made me so happy! However, as I’m not allowed to orgasm, I had to pause before I could continue…

This challenge is making me constantly dripping wet and has had me soak through clothing, underwear (when I’m allowed to wear it) and has left me waking up with a wet patch on the sheets, I’m such a desperate horny mess.

Anonymous: I follow this tumblr for some month now. I have started training my gf to anal pleasure with some toys, so she can associate anal with pleasure and yesterday she had her first anal orgasm (no pussy involved) :). Thank you for your tumblr and sorry for my english (not a native speaker)

I’m very pleased to hear that! Building that association between anal and pleasure is key, and the ability to orgasm from anal makes it a lot easier to go anal only if you so desire.

Anonymous: I recently bought a vibrating butt plug and am having an extremely hard time inserting it. I have been having anal sex for years now (not solely) but I just seem to be having a lot of difficulty. I want to surprise my BF with it but I have to get it inserted first 🙂 Any suggestions?

Aside from the basics of being sure to use enough lube and gently but firmly inserting it while relaxing and “pushing out” as if going to the bathroom, perhaps it’s the shape or size which is causing difficulty? If it’s particularly long, for example, it could take a little getting used to given its likely rigidity for the length.

Try easing it in as far as it will go, then relaxing your ass as much as you can and pushing it in a little more and repeating until it’s either in or you can’t take it any more, in which case, let it slide back out partway, and try again. Usually going back and forth like this for a while will ultimately let you get it in, but if it doesn’t, don’t force it. Try again the next time, and over time you’ll get there.