Claire: Hello, I have a question for you, but first I have to explain my background.

I met my first boyfriend nearly five years ago in college. I had a crush on him, he felt it, and dated me for a very long time. At first, I thought it was sweet of him to take so long before making a sexual move, but then I became worried that he wouldn’t be that much into me. I told him about it, then he looked very serious, and announced he had something important to tell me.

I imagined all sorts of stuff, and then he said he really loved me and wanted to start a relationship with me, but he only enjoyed anal sex, and not only that, but he didn’t want his partner to have any sort of genital stimulation of any kind at all, ever. He knew I was a virgin (I’m younger than him), and he promised that if I was OK with this, he would use his experience to be very caring and careful that I enjoyed it too.

I was very surprised, but mostly felt relief because I expected horrible things that would cancel our relationship. I thought I could try anal sex, and if it didn’t go well, we could always break up. Besides, I didn’t know anything about contraception, so it was something less to care about.

It went very well: he first taught me how to do blowjobs and how to clean up my ass, and he stimulated me more and more slowly so that I was comfortable when he finally took me. It didn’t hurt at all and I enjoyed it right away. It lasted about two years, then he asked if I wanted to move to his apartment, I did, and we stayed together two more years and a half.

When I moved in, our sex frequency heightened up dramatically and I had trouble following that, I told him about it and expected him to slow down, but instead he gifted me a butt plug, asking me to try to wear it as often as possible: it was supposed to make it easier for me to take his cock more frequently and to increase my pleasure. I was doubtful about it but did it anyway, and he was right, things went really well.

The next logical step was to get engaged and I know it was his intention, then his job required him to move to another city, but I still had to stay for my studies. He tried to get me to move with him, but I thought it was an opportunity to gather my own experience: he was the only man I ever knew, and I wanted to build my own journey for a while before getting married. He was sad about it but understood my point of view, and we’re still planning to get back together later.

So, now, my question is: how do you people meet? I didn’t realize it right away because it had become so natural to me, but most people don’t do exclusive anal sex, and I have no intention of changing this aspect of my sexuality.

Thanks for the question and for sharing your story! It sounds like you had a great introduction to anal only and I don’t blame you for not wanting to stop being anal only.

As for meeting people, it’s rare to find a central place that works reliably for finding a partner based on sexual preferences. Date like you normally would but it feels natural for sex to come up as a topic, be up front from the start, and accept that maybe not everyone will be into it but there will be many more guys who love the idea.

For more information, check out the section in our guide on Anal Only Dating!

There’s a revolution happening in bedrooms around the world—a shift from traditional sexual norms that’s empowering women in a completely unique way. It’s the fusion of two concepts: the anal only lifestyle and a commitment to lifelong vaginal virginity. This unconventional pairing offers a fresh perspective on female sexuality, allowing women to explore their bodies while preserving a significant part of their physical identity. This combination is not only appealing but potentially game-changing.

The anal only lifestyle is about more than just physical pleasure. It’s about redefining sexual norms and taking control of your body. It’s about taking the path less trodden, and for women, it’s about going straight to anal from the first time they explore their bodies, embracing a lifestyle that is uniquely pleasurable and deeply personal.

Now, why would a woman choose this path? The first reason is empowerment. Choosing to engage solely in anal sex and preserve vaginal virginity is an expression of control over one’s body. It is a deliberate decision to break free from traditional expectations of sexuality and rewrite one’s sexual narrative. In a world where women’s bodies are often the subject of societal scrutiny and control, this choice represents a reclaiming of power.

This choice also disrupts the conventional focus on vaginal penetration as the primary source of pleasure for women. Anal sex can offer unique, intense pleasure—an entirely different sensation that many women find far more satisfying. It’s not a ‘second-best’ option, but a legitimate and fulfilling primary means of sexual enjoyment.

Moreover, preserving vaginal virginity while engaging in the anal only lifestyle is a potent symbol of autonomy. It’s a personal declaration of the value placed on virginity, which has often been defined and controlled by societal expectations. This lifestyle choice is a woman asserting that she can be sexually active and maintain her vaginal virginity, a decision that is hers to make and hers alone.

When it comes to the practicalities of sexual enjoyment and satisfaction, the anal only lifestyle delivers. Multiple orgasms are a reality for many women, and the feeling of fullness experienced through anal penetration is different but equally gratifying when compared to vaginal sex. The anal only lifestyle celebrates this unique pleasure and encourages women to explore and indulge in it.

Finally, there’s the distinct sense of shared adventure that comes with embracing the anal only lifestyle. The world of anal pleasure requires patience, trust, and open communication between partners, which can lead to a deeper level of intimacy.

So if you’re a vaginal virgin, don’t waste the gift that you have. Take the chance you are given and commit to staying a vaginal virgin and going pure anal only.

We hope you found this post insightful and inspiring. Your journey and experiences are unique, and we’d love to hear about them. Are you living the anal only lifestyle? Are you curious to explore it? Have you experienced something extraordinary, faced challenges, or discovered personal insights you’d like to share? If so, we invite you to share your story with us.

Liz94: I grew up in the LDS church with a strong belief in saving myself for marriage and preserving my virginity. So when I first heard about the anal only lifestyle, I was intrigued by the idea of maintaining my vaginal virginity while still having fulfilling sexual experiences. I never imagined that I would end up fully embracing the lifestyle, but that’s exactly what happened.

When I first started experimenting with anal sex, it was simply a way to preserve my virginity and satisfy my sexual desires. But as I learned more about the lifestyle, I discovered that there was so much more to it. The focus on anal pleasure, the deeper connection with my partner, and the increased intimacy all had a profound impact on me.

I soon realized that this was more than just a temporary solution; it was a way of life. After leaving the Mormon church, I was faced with the question of whether to continue with the anal only lifestyle or not. But after much thought and consideration, I decided to embrace it fully. The benefits of anal sex, both physically and emotionally, far outweighed any societal norms or expectations.

I was finally able to fully embrace my sexuality and enjoy the deep pleasure that comes with anal sex. I’m now a firm believer in the anal only lifestyle and I’ve never looked back. It’s been a journey filled with growth, self-discovery, and amazing sexual experiences. And I’m so grateful for this blog for providing a supportive community and a wealth of information to help me along the way.

A follow up from Ani, a vaginal virgin who shared her experiences in a traditional Russian community and who initially planned to lose her vaginal virginity upon getting married.

So I am again here! I wanted to post after losing virginity and to compare vaginal and anal sex 

Unfortunately it did not happen… Or maybe fortunately??? 

In the wedding night I was too nervous to lose virginity, I was afraid to cry because my parents were sleeping in the next room, so I asked my husband to go anal as usual. Next day we went with my husband for a wedding journey, and there I was again nervous to stain the hotel sheet with my blood, so the hotel workers might see my blood on the sheet. Also I think the main reason to be nervous is that I have been keeping my sweet pussy virgin too long and I have got used to stay virgin. I am not so afraid of pain, my husband is very kind and intelligent and he surely would be gentle unlike those men with whom I started anal sex. I guess it is more a psychological problem, because I have been waiting for this monent several years, but now when the moment has come, I am psychologically afraid of it.
However, I do not need to lose virginity, my husband loves anal sex much more than vaginal, and it is a good way for birth control too, so he does not demand to have vaginal sex at all. Before me he dreamed to meet a girl who at least allows anal sex sometimes, so he is very happy with me doing anal sex every day. Also I like to be “special”

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Ok, so here is the thing. My gf (got together around 6 Months ago) is very sexually sensitive. So when we got together she was a virgin. Of course at some point we had a romantic evening and started making each other horny (I had many sexual partners before her so I waited for her to be ready). We tried having sex very carefully but it still hurt her, so we did other things to orgasm. We tried desensitizing her by using fingers and even had vaginal sex once. But she is so sensitive that it is really hard for her to enjoy it and not find it painful. Then she suggested anal. We found out, that she can orgasm from just her ass. So I was on board and now we do the anal only lifestyle for three months. However, I found it weird… so I looked for other people with a similar situation. During my looking around I found the AOL scene. It was not hard to find as I already had an Anal fetish, but for me something is missing without vaginal sex (not to mention, that I really want children one day). So I ask, what do you think about my situation and how did you get into anal only?

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I’ve been pretty inactive for a lot of life reasons but I have some awesome updates!

1) we’re married!! Yay!! So happy to finally be a Wife.

2) I’ve graduated! Also yay!! I do have a job for now at an awesome company working a helpful role for a very traditional boss. He has been a wonderful mentor so far.

3) I was originally planning on losing my virginity when my wedding was consummated, but since we both want kids we did some fertility testing before the wedding. It turns out I’m unlikely to conceive from sex, and would need to do artificial insemination anyway. After some talking, my husband had decided I will stay anal only and a Virgin! 😱

4) my husband has decided we will pursue treatments and try to get me pregnant this year! we are doing lots of research on pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding, working vs staying home to figure out what the best options are for me and my particular situation. I’m so lucky to have him.

I’m overwhelmed but excited by all the changes. It was a huge relief and turn-on to have my husband completely ignore my pussy on our wedding night; I’ve cum extremely sparingly the last year or so but I’m wet everyday.  I’ve never felt more happy and devoted. ☺️ 

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I’ve always known that I wanted to save myself till marriage. I tried anal for the first time at 18 years old, it didn’t hurt like I thought it would. We use lube and it burned and i guess that’s when I started to just use my spit. I’ve gotten better at anal since then and it’s great. I’m still trying to get used to being pounded for a long period of time ❤️

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Cassie: Hey, I’ve been wondering lately how I can stay anal only and I wonder if you have any ideas. I’ve never had vaginal sex and I don’t want to, I love anal and being anal only because it’s what I’ve always done and I like how it feels and makes me feel and it’s natural and best for me plus I don’t get pregnant but can have sex all the time still.

But I’ve met some guys lately who have really been pushing me to do vaginal and to lose my virginity and I really don’t want to but I really like the guys too. I’d like to stay with them but do just anal. Is there a good way I can convince them that anal only is better?

Stand up for what you want. If being anal only is what you want, don’t let a guy pressure you into doing something that you don’t want to do. If you want a long term anal only relationship, a guy who wants vaginal from you and doesn’t respect your desires isn’t a guy you want to be in a relationship with anyway.

All relationships have give and take, but it’s also fine to have your own needs and requirements and hard limits, and if being anal only is important to you, it’s perfectly sensible for vaginal sex to be a hard limit in your relationship. Be up front about that with partners and if they respect it, great! If not, there are many other men out there, some of whom will share your same desires and love that you want to be anal only!

At just 12 years old, Devan Merck was diagnosed with a rare condition called Mayer-Rokitansky-Küster-Hauser syndrome, a congenital disorder that affects the reproductive tract. In Merck’s case, she was born without a vaginal canal, cervix and a malformed uterus.

Merck, now 23, underwent a hysterectomy at 13 years old, and later had reconstructive surgery, using tissue grafts to create a “man-made” vagina.

They say that success comes when luck is met with preparation. Devan has all of the former, and none of the latter; if I were lucky enough to be born with a special trait like no-vagina, I’d turn on the camera at 12:01am on my 18th birthday and just watch the money roll in. I don’t think this woman realizes just how profitable her situation is – if you heard there was a video out there of a woman with no vagina having anal sex, wouldn’t you pay half the money in your checking account to see that?

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Maria: Hi, i’m Maria, independent woman, 32y old. Just wanted share my opinion why anal was the first and only option for me. Firstly oral sex is something that is not really appealing for me, first when you have oral its not a mutual experience at the same time, one is giver another is receiver. I never liked the idea of oral, so never considered having it. Ok so what’s next? Vaginal, as a women who wants to stay single independent and without family is it the most appealing sort of sex? Not for me, i see to many problems with it. Birth control, condoms, menstruation cycle etc, first time pain and bleeding. Too much to think and worry about, what should be source of joy. So whats left? Right. Anal. While having anal sex, it’s mutual exercise which brings joy to both partners at the same time and you don’t have to care about all the stuff that i mentioned about vaginal sex. Pure freedom. I’ve never tried oral or vaginal and i doubt I will ever try.

Great reasoning for why anal is the best form of sex and vaginal in particular interferes with the purity of anal pleasure and its benefits. Oral sex can be an enjoyable addition to anal, however, and can compliment it, not necessarily as an independent act but as something supplemental. Analingus can provide relaxation and warmup before anal sex, and fellatio during and after can provide additional lubrication, arousal and cleanup for anal. Cunnilingus doesn’t need to be a part of an anal only life and often detracts from it.