Message: How Do I Stay Anal Only?
Cassie: Hey, I’ve been wondering lately how I can stay anal only and I wonder if you have any ideas. I’ve never had vaginal sex and I don’t want to, I love anal and being anal only because it’s what I’ve always done and I like how it feels and makes me feel and it’s natural and best for me plus I don’t get pregnant but can have sex all the time still.
But I’ve met some guys lately who have really been pushing me to do vaginal and to lose my virginity and I really don’t want to but I really like the guys too. I’d like to stay with them but do just anal. Is there a good way I can convince them that anal only is better?
Stand up for what you want. If being anal only is what you want, don’t let a guy pressure you into doing something that you don’t want to do. If you want a long term anal only relationship, a guy who wants vaginal from you and doesn’t respect your desires isn’t a guy you want to be in a relationship with anyway.
All relationships have give and take, but it’s also fine to have your own needs and requirements and hard limits, and if being anal only is important to you, it’s perfectly sensible for vaginal sex to be a hard limit in your relationship. Be up front about that with partners and if they respect it, great! If not, there are many other men out there, some of whom will share your same desires and love that you want to be anal only!