Anonymous: I lost my virginity three years ago and have only ever had anal sex. To this day I have never had so much as a finger inside my pussy, a total pussy virgin, but so far I’ve had 32 different and beautiful cocks up my ass… What a marvellous feeling! I hope to remain a pussy virgin for life

That’s wonderful—I have no doubt that you’ll be able to achieve that goal and maintain your vaginal virginity if you love anal as much as you do.

Have you had any difficulty with guys who want vaginal sex as well or has everyone been enthusiastic about anal only? I know some women are as eager as you are about anal only but have a difficult time finding partners who are as satisfied as they are with just anal, but that seems to be somewhat age- and location-related, and others have no problem at all.

Thanks so much for sharing!

The original poster responded:

So far I’ve been pretty lucky in that 90% of the guys I’ve been interested in fucking have been more than willing, the ones that don’t are usually either happy to settle for a blow job/tit fucking, or I do something they want to do in exchange for them to fuck my ass… For example, one guy would only fuck me anally if I pissed on him, I thought it was a bit weird but hey anything for the anal 😉

That’s great, and a good example for other girls who have sometimes had difficulty with guys wanting more than anal and asking what to do. It sounds like you’ve got it well figured out and I’m sure you’ll have no problem at all keeping your pussy unused for life!

She again followed up:

Someone asked if I enema before anal, I do yes but I also stretch my asshole every night so it’s sort of a given for me to do one, and it usually happens before I do anal or stretch.

andaydaddy: Since you’re strictly an anal slut, you must have played with your ass a lot before you took your first cock.

saddlebacklady: I did! My parents discouraged me in the usual ways from vaginal sex and I grew rather attached to my hymen after reading one too many first time sex scenes in bad romance novels, but I was still curious about penetration so one thing led to another one day and I ended up going exploring with my fingers in the bath! It quickly became normal to me and now you’ve got this blog as a result!

Anonymous: plz tell me can a virgin get an anal orgasm– and squirt ? how is that ?

It is certainly possible for someone who has not had sex with a partner to orgasm from anal masturbation and to squirt. Everyone is different, however, and different people may need to approach it differently.

Some prefer to masturbate clitorally while incorporating anal stimulation at the same time to “transfer” some of the pleasure mentally to the anal stimulation and get to the point where you can get that pleasure entirely through anal. Others prefer to cease all vaginal and clitoral stimulation, at least for a time, to focus entirely on anal stimulation as their source of sexual pleasure.

There’s no reason someone can’t try both approaches and see which works best for them.

Hi, its great i found this site, because thought i’m only this kind. Ok, so here’s my story. Since my young days i felt sex is gross. I wasn’t keen in masturbation, actually haven’t tried it yet. Was a good girl. But one day when i was 23, i got little bit drunk and one of mine friends tricked me into pure anal stimulation. I din’t want him to stimulate my clitoris or vagina, because i was to shy, than he said: can i at least show you what your ass is worth? I was feeling there’s nothing gross, i don’t know why. So he did it with his finger. I felt it good. Later on i’ve had anal sex with some experienced guy. After few years of having anal time to time, i have felt my first orgasm. I’m 28 now, maybe i will have vaginal some day, but i think anal is the least stressful way for a girl to get comfortable with her intimacy.

Thanks for sharing your story! Starting with anal is a great way to go, I agree—no need to worry about hangups over pregnancy risk or keeping one’s vaginal virginity, and you can instead go straight to incredible pleasure and intimacy. There’s really no reason to ever bother with vaginal at this point, I would say, except for if you ever want to have children. Vaginal is for procreation, anal is for recreation.

Anonymous: do you know of any anal only porn star?

Aurora Jolie was. She never had vaginal sex on camera and claimed to be a vaginal virgin for at least most of her career. After she retired, she did lose her virginity, but didn’t enjoy vaginal sex and went back to being anal only in her personal life.

Anonymous: I’m an 18 year old virgin and your blog gets me really turned on. I fantasise about only ever being fucked in the ass and remaining a pussy virgin… I just need to find a man who wants the same.

vaginalisdead: Well, first of all, I’m glad that you like my blog and that it helps to get you off. Secondly, I’m very pleased to see that you’ve clearly got the right idea about sex, and I wish you the best of luck in achieving your goal of only ever taking it up your fuckhole your entire life. However, I would advise you not to think of it as being a “pussy virgin” but rather as a lifetime of having the one and only, the right way of sex. It looks like your entire sexual energy is already concentrated on your fuckhole (“asshole”), so why bother with thinking about anything else?

Anonymous: Hello, I really need an advice. I’m a 22 years old virgin woman and I’ve been recently started being interested in the anal only lifestyle. I am a complete virgin (never had any kind of sex, not even oral) and intended to stay like that until marriage. But as I get older I want sex even more, but at the same time I don’t want to break the promise I made myself. So that’s pretty much why I decided to become an AO. But the problem is, how do I tell this to potential boyfriends? Thanks!

analk1ng: You’re wrong in thinking this is a problem. It isn’t.

You don’t have to tell potential boyfriends anything about your sexual preferences. If they are serious about you then they will accept you as you are. And they should count themselves the lucky ones for having a girlfriend willing to commit to AO with them, something that most men can only dream about.

They’ll either be pleasantly surprised or very quickly realize that with something much better available every time the two of you have sex, that they’re never going to miss your vagina at all.

To add to this excellent comment, I would also suggest that you shouldn’t simply do this to “preserve your virginity” until marriage, which still puts your vagina front and center and has it dictating your actions. Instead, just focus on anal and how much fun and pleasure it can give you, and don’t worry about your vagina at all, now or in the future. If you want to children, then use it for that, but otherwise why bother?

Anonymous: I’m in college, and I’m a virgin. The idea of vaginal sex doesn’t appeal to me at all and I’m only turned on by the idea of anal sex. I want to stay a vaginal virgin and make it clear that my vagina is OFF LIMITS. Do you have any suggestions?

The number one approach to this should be communication. This can be tricky with a new partner, however, because while some guys will be totally okay with you wanting anal only, others will be scared off or become uninterested. There are, unfortunately, plenty of guys out there who don’t respect what their partner wants or think that they can convince you over time to want to try vaginal sex after being anal only for a while. (The same thing happens with girls who are vaginal only and have partners who want to try anal.) It’s important to stand anyone who tries to push you to do things you don’t want to do. If you want to be anal only, make it clear and insist that any partners respect your choices.

In the meantime, if you haven’t already, you should start practicing and training your ass with your fingers, dildos and butt plugs. You want to make it so that you can easily get fucked in the ass so it’s a viable alternative to vaginal for a partner. If it’s something you can easily do and make simple and enjoyable, partners may be much more willing to go along with it.

You can also give nonverbal hints by wearing a butt plug when you’re ready to have sex with someone and tell them you only want anal. The sight of your plugged ass might turn them on further and make them more open to the idea.

Tape over your pussy to block access or “ANAL ONLY” written over it are possibilities as well.

When we first started dating, he liked me but also it was because even though he had sex with his wife, only regular sex, it was borring and repetitive as he put it.

I started to go out with him when I was 18, he was 38. I knew then he wanted no regular sex. So it all started with me giving him a lot of oral and anal sex. We where meeting like 5 days a week while dating, with sex every time.

When I was 22, and he was 42 was when we got married. Everything has been perfect, he is an incredible husband. But the sex still continued with mostly oral and some anal.

We have been together 10 years, married 6 ½, we still have sex at least 5 times a week, but I am still a virgin.

He has a son, we have decided not to have children.

I am not complaining about my sex life, but I am wondering if this is an unusual situation. I can’t be the only one.

A lot of people respond in a vaguely “well, if you’re happy…” sort of way while also implying that he’s abusing her or is secretly gay. She responds again to clarify that anal sex is very enjoyable to her.

The sex is very good, I enjoy giving him oral and have found anal to be very stimulating and orgasmic sometimes.

Unfortunately, not a single person responds in a truly supportive way to let her know that there are others out there who choose to be exactly the same way and love it and that there’s nothing wrong with it if everyone’s happy with it.

Perhaps some other anal only women need to pitch in and give their point of view, encouraging her to remain anal only and value and enjoy her vaginal virginity.

A few years ago, I had the chance to lose my virginity, but I didn’t. For a while this bothered me, but now I’m happy I didn’t do it, because back then I didn’t know how pleasurable anal sex was for me. I would have ended up having mildly uncomfortable vaginal sex for sure.

And now I’m happy, because the thought of keeping a virgin pussy turns me on a lot. It wouldn’t have been a big deal if I HAD lost my pussy virginity, but I still think this is a very nice opportunity I have, so I am thankful for that “missed chance” You never know! 🙂

I think that’s exactly the right attitude to have! For someone who has gone anal only, it’s not really a big deal if you’ve had more experience already and tried vaginal before deciding that it wasn’t for you and moving to anal—but if you already know that before trying and choose to stay a vaginal virgin for your own reasons and enjoyment, that can be a pretty fun and sexy little bonus for yourself.