Anonymous: Another anal only virgin (for lack of a better term lol) proudly raising her hand. I’m 25 and I’ve been doing anal pretty regularly since I was 14 but my pussy is totally virgin except for a dildo when I was younger just to try it (I didn’t like it). I started because I really wanted to have sex but didn’t want to get pregnant (like a lot of girls) but then I just kept doing it anal. I love it, and after a while it turned me on to keep my pussy virgin, I really don’t want to lose that now. ?

Coming out of my more neutral and impersonal persona for a moment, that’s really incredibly sexy and appealing to me and I think it’s absolutely fantastic that you’ve decided to do this and that it makes you happy and turned on to keep your pussy completely unused. You have my absolute encouragement to do so and I hope a lot more women get inspired to do the same.

Stepping back into my neutral persona, I of course recognize that this isn’t necessarily for everyone and that some people want to try multiple things before settling on what they like, and while you and I may know that anal sex is where it’s at and vaginal just can’t really compare, some people want to see for themselves. And it sounds like you did the same with a dildo. If someone feels they need to try it all first, great. Go for it.

But I think there’s merit in starting with anal first and staying anal only for a while and only trying vaginal at a later time, in order to allow anal skills and pleasure to develop first without the influence of vaginal to compare it to. Because while anal has by far the most payoff for pleasure, it can take a little more effort up front to get into. Vaginal is easy but not nearly as rewarding. If someone starts with vaginal, they’re often much more likely to stay with it even if it’s not as pleasurable as anal, because it’s easy to do so. If someone puts in the effort with anal first, learns to love it, develops all the pleasure and orgasm pathways associated with it, and has a good bit of anal experience first, vaginal will have much less of an influencing factor on their sexuality going forward and they’ll be more prone to remaining anal centric or returning to anal only. Which is not to say that someone who starts with vaginal can’t recognize the benefits of anal or going anal only either—most anal only women had a lot of vaginal sex before going anal only—it just can take more effort in some cases.

I’ve hinted at this above and in other posts on the subject, but as someone who’s been anal only for 11 years without ever using your vagina, I suspect that if you were to ever try it at any point in the future, you’d find it immensely disappointing. And I’m not saying that in an attempt to discourage you from trying it, just that everything about your sexuality is anal centric, and vaginal is far more bland and simplistic a sort of stimulation compared to anal, so if the high of anal is your normal, vaginal simply isn’t going to compare positively. So I do sincerely think there’s really no point in trying—not that you’ve indicated any desire to do so.

Thanks for sharing your experiences. Those are some of my thoughts on the subject. I’d love to see more women making the same choice as you, personally, but I’m always happy to see more anal only women whether they have experienced vaginal sex or not.

Anonymous: I don’t ever want to even try vaginal sex, I really want to keep my pussy virgin and stay anal only forever. I’ve been doing anal for like five years now and I’ve never once wanted to try it in my pussy, it just seems wrong and I’ve no interest in it. But my friends think that’s weird and that every girl needs to try using her pussy. Is it really so bad to want what I want? Why? My pussy is nothing to me, but anal is everything. I just want to live my life anal only, it makes me happy and sexy.

No, there’s nothing at all wrong with wanting that. Some will say you should try everything and see what you do and don’t like and decide from there, informed in what every option has to offer—and that’s fine, if you want to do that. But there’s a lot to be said for going anal from the start and never wasting time with your pussy—let’s face it—if you’ve been anal only for five years already and have never tried using your pussy, you’re not going to like vaginal sex and it’s not going to offer anything to compare to anal for you.

Like you said, it’s what you want, vaginal doesn’t interest you, and you find it sexier to keep your pussy virgin. I wholeheartedly agree if that’s something you want—I’ve always had a soft spot for girls who are anal only with virgin pussies they never want fucked but who are extremely enthusiastic about all sorts of anal sex and play all the time. That’s a dream girl for a lot of guys—no pussy, ever, and no vaginal habits to break on the path to anal only bliss.

If a life of pure anal only is what you want, go for it! There’s no point wasting your time on something you won’t like and will regret doing because you’ll wish you’d kept your pussy unused.

Anonymous: Hey, I really enjoy masturbation but I always use my clit, and only sometimes finger my ass (but I never finger my vagina, in fact I am a virgin). How can I stop using my clit? I sometimes do “no touch” but I only can keep doing it for 2 days or so :/ pls help me in becoming a true anal only girl!

First of all, wanting this like you do is the most important first step. You know you want to be a strict anal only girl and that’s key! So, well done there!

You need to start shifting your thinking of what masturbation is. It should always focus on and center around your ass. Even if there’s any sort of supplemental stimulation, the primary act should be anal—always. So, you should be rubbing or fingering your ass, using a dildo, or wearing a plug. Don’t touch your clit without something in your ass at the same time. Work to develop that habit first.

From there, start to redirect your arousal to your ass instead of your clit. When you feel horny and want to touch yourself, rub and finger your asshole instead of touching your clit. Instead of thinking of it as “no touch” when you stop using your clit, think of it as no pussy or clit but lots of touch elsewhere—your ass, your asshole, your nipples, etc.

Work to reduce your dependence on clit stimulation gradually over time. If two days is all you can last right now, do it for 2 days and then try to go another day longer and keep pushing your limits more and more. It’s a process of trial and error and repeated increase of self control. Keep trying, don’t give up, and don’t feel bad if it’s hard. That will just make the reward that much more when you get there.

Anonymous: I’m a virgin never had a dildo/dick up my pussy. But have put anal plugs on.

Even better, then, you can focus on training and using your ass exclusively without needing to overcome any other distractions! Keep enjoying and exploring the pleasure your ass can give you and it will reward you tenfold.

Anonymous: I’ve decided to get the “Anal Only” tattoo on my pussy! Booked for the 1st November but I’m also getting “Anal Whore” on my ass cheeks and my pussy pierced shut. Just a shame there’s nothing I can do to kill my clit! So excited and perfect timing for no pussy November!

Sounds like the perfect combination, I’m glad to hear that you’re going for it. And remember: just because your clit still works doesn’t mean you ever have to use it if you don’t want to!

Anonymous: I lost my anal virginity back when I was 19 and since then only done anal. I’m 22 now and now I’ve seen your page I’ve decided to stay anal only for life. The slut in me is even considering getting “Anal Only” tattood somewhere on my body. ?

A most excellent decision to stay anal only for good, I’m really glad to hear that! I think a nice “Anal Only” tattoo over your pussy would do wonderfully to commemorate that decision.

Anonymous: I discovered you a few years back. Turned my life around and actually gave me a little bit more confidence when it came to dating! I can’t really explain it, but I just never found pussy attractive. I eventually discovered anal talking with a few friends and instantly fell in love with ass. I got a little upset over all the pussy fucking in anal porn which led to Anal Only! Proud to say I’ve never fucked a pussy and I’ll be keeping my anal streak strong! Thanks man!

Thanks, it’s an honor to hear that! I’m really glad to have helped you. Honestly, you sound like me when I was discovering my preference for anal and anal only, only I didn’t have any resources to discover that this was a natural urge and I wasn’t a weird freak for wanting anal only until later in life.

Anonymous: Hi! I (22f) am a virgin but started seeing a guy for a few weeks and I’ve been sucking his cock but he wants more, so I suggested we just do anal and oral because I want to keep my pussy virgin, and he was so happy! His face lit up and he said I was his dream girl and he wanted to help make sure my pussy stayed unfucked and he would turn me into his anal only slut. We’re going to start training my ass tonight and I’m so excited. Wish me luck, and thank you for your blog inspiring me!!

Hi! That sounds absolutely wonderful, he’s lucky to be with a girl like you, and you’re lucky he was so happy to go for exactly what you wanted! It sounds like you’ll both be in for a good time, and you absolutely have my good luck wish—though I don’t think you’ll need it, you’re going to love being anal only!

Hi, it’s again the girl from before – your answer made me think a lot, and actually changed my mind. At first, my boyfriend being OK with me trying vaginal sex with another man was an offer I was tempted to take (even if I didn’t know how to handle it), but after reading your answer again and again and pondering, I realized you’re right: where’s the hurry? I’m very young, still at my first sexual experience, there’s no reason for me to multiply partners or do everything at once.

For now, I’m with someone I love and I really get along with (and whom I desired for a long time), he’s been amazing in making me discover sex, and I’m really satisfied. You’re right that him taking me anally for my first time (especially since he didn’t warn me before) and ignoring my pussy and clit since made me think I was not “really” a woman yet and that vaginal was something I was yet “to do”, but now I realize it’s sort of silly to think that way. Now that I do anal sex regularly and that I think about it spontaneously when I think of sex, that stigma is going away. It’s especially true since I followed my boyfriend’s advice and I don’t masturbate with my pussy or clit when I’m by myself any more, just anally (we don’t see each others as frequently as I’d like, we don’t live with each other yet). Looking back, the idea of “cheating” on my boyfriend just for a matter of which hole is penetrated seems sort of selfish, and I’m a little ashamed of having considered it.

I also understand what you mean about “reversing”. When we argued, my boyfriend said: “if we were doing vaginal, you wouldn’t harass me to do anal, wouldn’t you?” and of course he’s right. I feel like treating vaginal sex and clitoral stimulation as weird and taboo and talking down about it, while anal is treated as natural/normal/obvious makes my boyfriend really hot, and, I guess, makes you hot too? I admit that now that I understand him better, I find it sort of hot too.

Reading more about other messages on your blogs, I also realized I was in a situation that made me very special in the eyes of my boyfriend. When I asked him if being a vaginal virgin turned him on, he told me that obviously it was fantastic for him, especially since he was the only partner I ever had, and it made him at least “50% harder” when he fucked me! I now feel special, naughty and pure at the same time, and I’m starting to like it. I’m so proud to be his girlfriend. Thank you!

That’s great to hear! It’s good that you were able to come to terms with the idea and realize that having vaginal sex or using your pussy and clit sexually isn’t what makes you a woman, and that you can be just as “womanly” in an anal only relationship. There are women out there who have never had vaginal sex their entire lives, and they certainly aren’t any less of a woman for it.

It’s also good to hear that you’re starting to see the appeal yourself, and that it’s turning you on as well to think about it. That’s how it should be—fun and appealing to the both of you. If it wasn’t, if it was just one-sided, the I would be more inclined to suggest that it may not be the best option for you, but since you are very much enjoying it physically and are now enjoying it mentally/emotionally as well, by all means stick with it. If it stops being fun, you’re always free to reconsider, of course!

It sounds like you’re both in for a great time now that you’ve gotten through this and worked it out. Do feel free to continue updating if you have anything more to share or ask!

I’m confused and I have some more questions, so I’m contacting you again, as you offered. I followed your advice, I accepted that my boyfriend was into anal sex only, and I stopped bugging him about vaginal sex. I do enjoy sex with him more and more, I now can take his whole length without too much preparation, and he doesn’t have to move as slowly and cautiously as he used to.

He also gifted me an easy to use, small anal douche that I can carry around in my bag everywhere and hide into my bedroom (I live at my mother’s place). I use it as he advised me to, and thanks to that I’m much more comfortable with the idea of anal sex because I always feel clean now, even if having rather frequent enemas felt very weird at first.

I admit I’m feeling less and less the urge to have “normal” sex and I’m not even sure what I’d call “normal” sex any more, but that’s physically. Psychologically, the fact I’ve never been penetrated vaginally is starting to weigh on me more and more, especially now that our relationship is getting really serious. So after two weeks of avoiding the subject altogether, we finally had an argument about it: I told him I needed to know what vaginal was like and reproached him for never even taking care of my clitoris, and not only that, but when I touch it myself during sex, he always gently takes my hands off it, telling me I’ll enjoy sex more if I instead learn to focus on him and what he’s doing to me.

Don’t get me wrong, I do love him, he’s a very good lover, his advice was always good and I always followed it (he’s much more experienced) and it’s true not touching myself brings me more pleasure, and he does worship and bring joy to every inch of my body… except for my “cunt” and “nub”, as he says on the rare occasions he talks about them.

Then, he basically replied that he couldn’t change his sexuality, that he thought my real problem was I wanted desperately to conform to what I perceived as the majority since I admitted I wasn’t physically frustrated, and that he respected that I wanted vaginal and clitoral experience, but I’d have to take a lover for that. I pressed him on this, and he did say he was OK with me taking a lover so I can have more experience and decide if I’m OK with what he has to offer or not.

So now I don’t know what to do. I love him but I want more experience, but I don’t want to cheat on him, and everybody in town and college knows we’re dating each other, so if I’m looking for a lover, I’ll get the reputation of a slut. But I don’t want to break up with him. I even wondered if I should talk to his ex girlfriends for advice, since he probably fucked them in the ass too, but it’s silly. Help.

It doesn’t sound like your boyfriend has any desire to have vaginal sex, ever. There’s nothing wrong with that, but if you want to try it, you’ll have to decide what’s more important to you—your relationship with him and staying anal only, or doing vaginal with someone else. I can’t really offer a suggestion as for him offering that you can try vaginal with a different partner, that’s something you’ll need to work out with yourself and him and decide whether you want to go outside of your relationship to try vaginal sex.

I will say, however, that you don’t need to try everything all at once. You’re enjoying anal sex with him, having more pleasure with less vaginal/clitoral stimulation. You may also try changing your mindset a little bit with regards to your vaginal virginity. Am I correct in interpreting that part of the challenge for you is thinking of yourself as still a virgin in some sort of stigmatized manner because you haven’t had vaginal sex, and wanting to be rid of that? In contrast to that sort of “traditional” thinking, a lot of anal only people have flipped that concept around and instead value vaginal virginity and vaginal abandonment as a very positive and appealing and attractive thing, not out of old ways of thinking that favor a woman’s “purity” before marriage or anything like that, but just because it’s hot to reverse vaginal and anal so completely that a woman chooses to be so fully anal only that she hasn’t ever bothered with vaginal. If you can see and understand that somewhat and try thinking about it from that perspective, it may help you avoid your frustrations about it.

Also recognize that not having vaginal sex now doesn’t mean you can’t ever try it in the future. If you commit all in to anal only now, you can still change your mind at any point if you find that it isn’t actually satisfying to you or that you do in fact want to try vaginal sex. As I said before, ultimately it’s up to you, and while you can’t dictate what your partner wants to do (just as he can’t dictate your desires to you), you always have the ability to change what you want to do at any point in life.

To reiterate, from my biased-in-favor-of-the-anal-only-lifestyle perspective, it sounds like you’re enjoying being anal only with him, you just don’t want to commit permanently to it right now. Instead of worrying about that, just enjoy things as they are and see where they take you. Stay anal only, learn everything you can about pure anal pleasure and avoid developing a dependency on your clit, and if down the road you feel a strong need to try vaginal, then reconsider. Give anal only a chance for a few months or more at least, would be my suggestion. If the need to do vaginal persists or gets stronger and you find yourself resenting being anal only, then continuing along that path is probably not appropriate for you at this time. If any vaginal urges and thoughts instead fade away, then stick with being anal only. That’s just my perspective, which as I noted, is very biased in favor of being and staying anal only.

I’d suggest talking with some other anal only women and men as well, and getting other people’s perspectives. Try joining the Anal Only Lifestyle forum as well as our new Anal Only chat on Discord. There are other anal only vaginal virgin women on both sometimes, as well as just a number of anal only people with varying amounts of vaginal experience. Share your experiences and concerns and get feedback from them too.