Anonymous: I’ve always wanted to be a good anal only girl, but I’ve always been a little afraid of it! Thanks to your tumblr and all the advise and suggestions, I’ve decided to really dedicate myself to being a good butt slut! I’m wearing a plug right now and it feels great! I can hardly wait to take my husbands cock deep every night!

Excellent! Remember: the more you practice and train and prepare for it, the better the experience will be for the both of you. Wearing a butt plug on a regular or semi-regular basis is a good way to start. Before you know it, you’ll wonder why you ever waited so long to be anal only.

Anonymous: What things can I use as butt plugs that I may have at my house

I don’t recommend the long-term use of objects not intended as butt plugs, because they aren’t designed with a flange that keeps them in place and there’s a chance you could lose them inside. Better to buy a real one—there are good ones that sell inexpensively at places like Amazon and come in discreet packaging as a result.

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Anonymous: For the anon asking about home made butt plugs: if they’re looking for general use butt toys, I suggest hairbrush and lint roller handles. Pick a small one to start, make sure it’s smooth and non-porous so cleanup is easy. I’d say it’s a good starter option (that’s how I got into anal myself), but you always have to be extra careful when using objects as sex toys…

temptationsparadise: How can you have anal sex without being in pain for the next few days?

Training, lube and warmup. You can’t just jump straight into anal sex. First you have to train and work up to comfortably fitting something penis-sized. Start with a finger, add another, repeat. Get a butt plug and wear it for as long as is comfortable, slowly increasing that amount of time each time you try it. Masturbate or engage in other sex acts while wearing a butt plug or getting fingered anally. After you can comfortably do all this, then consider trying anal sex for real again. Use the fingers and butt plug beforehand still, gradually warming up and increasing the size, then switch to the real thing.

Always use plenty of lube, stop moving if something hurts and try again slower after the pain fades, and always stop if there’s any blood. Anal sex should not hurt or cause damage. If it does, you’re not properly warmed up enough for the level of anal penetration you’re experiencing and you need to back off and gradually work up to that size some more first.

Anonymous: Tips about anal please!

losangelesanal: My favorite topic!

surfershane: Just wondering if you can pass on any tips to make first time anal easier and enjoyable

Lots of practice/training/warmup, butt plugs, lube, and the recipient in control at first the first few times you fuck.

The anal sphincter needs to be relaxed in order to loosen. It’s the opposite of most other muscles in that its natural state is to be tight and rigid and it softens/loosens when “flexing” it. Some of its looseness can be voluntarily controlled (with practice) while some is involuntary. So you need to practice to increase your voluntary control while also working up the size of objects you can fit inside over a period of weeks or more. Start with a finger. Just one. Combine it with other stimulation, especially at first, to help make the anal penetration feel better and start building an association of anal with pleasure. Once comfortable with one, work up to a second finger. Keep on going up to three or four, only adding another when ready and backing off if it hurts.

Once you can fit three or four, it’s time for a butt plug. There are a lot out there, and the best are stainless steel, silicone or glass. A lot of the really cheap ones are made from unsafe or otherwise inferior materials that smell bad and can in some cases have bad skin reactions and burn. There are some good ones that aren’t too expensive, though—the Tantus Ryder is a very nice small/medium silicone plug you can get for around $20. Wearing a plug during oral, masturbation, and other sexual activities is a great way to warm up for the main event of anal. It’s also great to wear one for a while before sex, or even while doing other non-sexual things. Plugs really help develop voluntary muscle control that makes future sex easier.

Incorporating some sort of anal stimulation regularly during sex and masturbation will greatly speed up both an attraction to/enjoyment of anal and the ease with which it’s possible to move on to actual sex.

Once comfortable with objects close to the size of a penis, it’s time to try the real thing. It’s usually good for the person being penetrated to be in control at first when starting out, so they can control the speed, depth and angle of penetration and stop if anything hurts. If there is pain, just stop immediately wait in place a moment until it fades, then resume. You can also back off slightly before pausing and then push forward again. Once fully penetrated as far as comfortably possible, wait a minute or so, then slowly increase speed. After a few minutes, the penetrator can usually take control but needs to be very mindful of comfort and stop if anything hurts.

Anonymous: So me and my boyfriend have started doing anal, it hurt at first but after some time it felt amazing. I was wondering if I should buy an anal plug to keep it from tightening all the way back up, or what do you recommend?

Yes you should. You don’t have to wear the plug all the time (unless you want to), but a plug worn for a while before having sex, and on days when you aren’t having sex, can do wonders for helping to get and keep you relaxed. Regular anal masturbation either with fingers or a dildo, or playing with your clit and pussy while wearing a plug, can help to keep you ready for anal as well.

Someone on EdenFantasys’ forum asked:

How long have you wore a butt plug for?

Answers vary a lot, from a few hours to days. This response is by far the best, however:

I wore one for a week straight. I know for a fact, since we were on a cruise and I wore a different jeweled one, my hubby surprised me with each day. The last day it had a lovely ruby on the end…and it turns out it’s a real Ruby! He was spoiling me for our anniversary. Not a ruby I will flash for anyone but him, I should say!

I knew he would be visiting my tush at least a few times a day, so I kept the plug lubed by removing it every few hours and applying some thick gel lube, which hubby carried at all times in his pocket for me. When I would go swimming or doing any activity that might make me sweat, I would apply some more lube right after, so my tail end stayed stretched, happy and ready for my hubby to come in and play happily the whole trip.

Other then the lube sessions about every hour, and, of course, to use the bathroom, I wore it continually, even to sleep, although most nights, my hubby replaced the plug with his lovely penis instead. Yummy.

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Anonymous: Recommended butt plugs

There are a lot of good ones out there, but you should at least pay attention to the materials. Silicone, glass and stainless steel are the best. Glass and stainless steel are basically going to last forever, and are very easy to sterilize, and pure (medical grade) silicone is as well.

I’m a fan of Tantus (Ryder, A-bomb, and others) and Njoy (Pure Plug 2.0) products, but there are plenty of others as well. Check out reviews, and pay attention to size and material.

Cheap plugs can sometimes be tempting (and in a few cases are fine) but it’s often worth going for a somewhat higher quality one instead. Bad materials (especially certain jellies) can burn your skin, and in some cases can be toxic.

analonlygirls: Going on a first date or outing with a new potential lover or fuck buddy can sometimes be intimidating for an anal only girl.  Finishing up the night out with some hot sex is always a great way to wrap things up, but you might not have the confidence to raise the issue of wanting your relationship to be anal only.  Here are some tips to help ensure that it’s your little backdoor that gets put to use, starting your new relationship out on the right track…

A. Wear a buttplug.  This alone won’t ensure that your new friend doesn’t try to fuck your pussy as well, but it will act as a good ice breaker for raising the topic of you wanting things to be anal only.

B. Put tape or a bandaid over your pussy.  Like wearing a buttplug, this will act as an icebreaker, but it also sends a strong message that your ass is your hole that’s best made for sex.

C. Lie.  Telling someone new straight up that you already are or want to learn to be an anal only girl might be something you’re not ready to announce on the first date, but a little white lie might make ensure that things end up all anal, making it easier to raise the issue next time you’re together.  One I’ve used before it to tell a guy that I’m on my period and so we can only do anal.

D. Write on your butt or lower back with a marker that you’re an anal only girl or something similar.  This is a bold way to go, but it gets the message across clearly, and if you write something there before the date, you don’t have to worry about chickening out when your skirt is hiked up and the fucking is about to start.

Anonymous: I have submitted my personal experience for a while now, but now I am nervous about something else too. Frankly, we are not a 100% anal only couple. She has a small butt plug she bought before we tried anal. Now she says she likes to wear it for a while, not for long, like a hour or may be half an hour when she cooks or doing simple house work, but even she is curious about it—is it going to have a negative effect somehow in her ass?

No. There is no indication that even long term butt plug wear (days, weeks, months at a time with only several minute breaks) causes harm. It’s possible that a very large toy could cause harm to someone not prepared for it, but it’s likely going to cause discomfort far, far, far before any harm occurs. A small, comfortable plug can safely be worn even all day or longer with no issues at all (and it helps train the anal muscles, making future anal sex and pleasure easier).