Anonymous: i ‘ve always believed that some bitches deserve only hard raw assfucking and cum down their throats

It’s not about punishment or degradation, it’s about the idea of the woman liking and wanting to be anal only as much as the man. And following that, I think every woman should be anal only. Vaginal sex should only be used for procreation and once she’s pregnant, right back to anal only. The vast majority of women who dislike anal simply aren’t doing it properly. If it hurts or is uncomfortable, you’re doing it wrong! Proper anal feels incredible, causes powerful orgasms and is safer than vaginal sex because it removes most of the risk of pregnancy without the need for birth control.

Now, it’s of course entirely up to each woman whether she actually wants to be, so even when I say things like “every woman should be anal only”, that’s just my personal opinion, and even then I really mean every woman should give the idea of being anal only a chance and try it for a week or a month or some period of time to see for herself whether she likes it. But even then just the idea of trying won’t appeal to some women and that’s fine. I’m just a guy with a blog giving out my opinion, and people who disagree are free to ignore me.

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Anonymous: Well, with the attitude that anon has, he’s going to have it hard to find a woman… Even one that would enjoy domination in bed. That’s just such a wrong way to approach things, it reeks of misogyny and is an insult to those who enjoy consensual domination in bed.

Harvard University’s annual Sex Week observance, which launched Sunday, includes a workshop called “What What in the Butt: Anal Sex 101″ that aims to teach the Ivy League students how to have anal sex.

So-called sex experts from a local adult store will lead the Tuesday talk, which seeks to “dispel myths about anal sex and give you insight into why people do it and how to do it well,” the Fall 2014 Harvard Sex Week agenda states.

“They will cover a wide variety of topics, including: anal anatomy and the potential for pleasure for all genders; how to talk about it with a partner; basic preparation and hygiene; lubes, anal toys, and safer sex; anal penetration for beginners, and much more,” the agenda adds. “Learn the facts about this exciting yet often misunderstood form of pleasure, find out the common mistakes people make, and get all your questions answered.”

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My boyfriend and I have tried anal sex a few times throughout our one year (and counting!) relationship. I currently work in the medical field as a CNA in a nursing home and I see almost everyday what bowel incontinence can do to a person’s dignity. My boyfriend enjoys anal sex and I do too (after a while of penetration). My question is, however, how often can a woman have anal sex before she becomes permanently incontinent? Please don’t judge! Thanks!

So what do people start doing? Judging.

ok honey listen. Use lube. and i mean use it. secondly only do it as a special treat not all the time.

also, arent you a little young for anal? whats wrong with vaginal sex at your age.

Starts out a bit patronizing, then makes a valid point (lots of lube is always good)… and then promptly goes off the deep end. There’s no reason to do it only as a special treat. If both partners love anal, do it as often as you want it.

Then the idiotic suggestion that a woman in her early 20s is too young to be trying anal sex and she should just be happy with her vagina at that age. Come on. Not everyone likes vaginal sex as much as anal, regardless of their age. Age has nothing to do with it. Your body and preferences does.

Finally, no one really gave a true answer. And the answer is this: safely practiced anal sex with proper warmup and lubrication, even daily anal sex with the exclusion of vaginal sex, does not cause incontinence, prolapse, fissures, hemorrhoids, or any sort of permanently loose, gaping hole. The sphincter is a muscle, and anal sex exercises it and gives you more tone and control. People who have regular anal sex have better anal control than those who don’t. You can also do kegel exercises to strengthen those muscles even further.

There are some people who have preexisting conditions that make them more susceptible to the aforementioned issues, and anal sex can aggravate or trigger the issues for those people—but so can a lot of other things. There are people who get anal fissures, hemorrhoids and prolapse simply from sitting on a toilet seat and going to the bathroom. In some cases, anal training and sex has helped people with hemorrhoids and fissures because excessive anal tightness made things worse for them.

Lucy, 34, a beautician, has been married for 10 years and has 4 kids.

For a long time I thought of anal as being the ultimate in submission or part of S&M, but with the right partner, it can be fantastic!

Once I’d been with my husband for a while I totally accepted my body and I stopped worrying about modesty. Still, it took a long time for me to want anal and to get pleasure from it. If you’re gentle, anal sex isn’t violent and once you’re used to it it’s great.

I’d also heard that only men could achieve orgasm through anal sex, because you rub against the prostrate, which women don’t have. But I’ve had better orgasms through anal than I’ve had through vaginal penetration. You just need to take your time and be gentle.

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Anal sex can be amazing – and orgasmic. As my friend and fellow sex educator Rachel Venning says, “Anal sex is like yoga for your butt!” And I agree. It’s healthy for the anal muscles, bringing blood and circulation into the sphincter. But I’m also not afraid to address the obstacles to having great anal play. Here are four valid reasons why you might not want to do it.

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When we first started dating, he liked me but also it was because even though he had sex with his wife, only regular sex, it was borring and repetitive as he put it.

I started to go out with him when I was 18, he was 38. I knew then he wanted no regular sex. So it all started with me giving him a lot of oral and anal sex. We where meeting like 5 days a week while dating, with sex every time.

When I was 22, and he was 42 was when we got married. Everything has been perfect, he is an incredible husband. But the sex still continued with mostly oral and some anal.

We have been together 10 years, married 6 ½, we still have sex at least 5 times a week, but I am still a virgin.

He has a son, we have decided not to have children.

I am not complaining about my sex life, but I am wondering if this is an unusual situation. I can’t be the only one.

A lot of people respond in a vaguely “well, if you’re happy…” sort of way while also implying that he’s abusing her or is secretly gay. She responds again to clarify that anal sex is very enjoyable to her.

The sex is very good, I enjoy giving him oral and have found anal to be very stimulating and orgasmic sometimes.

Unfortunately, not a single person responds in a truly supportive way to let her know that there are others out there who choose to be exactly the same way and love it and that there’s nothing wrong with it if everyone’s happy with it.

Perhaps some other anal only women need to pitch in and give their point of view, encouraging her to remain anal only and value and enjoy her vaginal virginity.

OK so we all love sex and apparently all love to talk about it too, but there’s one thing that can kill a conversation faster than the rest – anal sex.

For some reason anal sex has remained a taboo subject in the UK and getting to grips with anal sex problems can be a bit of a mystery to some.

The only place you can really find out more is in pornography and we all know it’s a lot less realistic shall we say, than what actually goes down.

But does it hurt? Is it clean? How many people actually do it? Why would I want to?

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My girlfriend only wants anal sex and I really don’t feel comfortable with this. I am a strict Christian I do not believe that this kind of sex is either appropriate or godly. I only go along with it because I love her but it makes me feel very dirty what should I do?

I am supposed to be marrying this woman in August of this year. When I met her six years ago she never asked me to do this and our sex was far more enjoyable but she completely rejects vaginal intercourse now and I find this rather perplexing.

I have tried talking to her obviously but she says that she prefers it and I can’t understand why.

Uh, maybe because it feels better for her?

What is wrong with these people answering the questions, too?

What kind of reason does she give you for not wanting vaginal intercourse? This would be a big red flag to me, and keep in mind that this likely won’t change without some work addressing this issue.

Treating a love or preference for anal and a dislike of vaginal sex as an issue that needs “work” to resolve it is terrible and just serves to shame and condemn people whose bodies work differently from others.

i can’t understand why either. i am a girl and i’d prefer vaginal sex. i don’t think that anal sex is a turn on. and plus it hurts.

We’re in desperate need of broad anal sex education if the average woman continues to believe anal sex has to hurt no matter what. A combination of a lack of education on the subject and bad experiences with guys who don’t know how to prepare a woman for anal sex is ruining the most pleasurable form of sex for many people.

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She says shes never had anal sex before, but when we tried it there was no difficulty getting it in. Is she telling the truth or lying?

This is incredibly frustrating to me. The first time they tried anal it wasn’t difficult and painful for the woman, so in his view she must be a liar who has been fucked in the ass before.

First, everyone is different, and some people have no problem taking cock up their ass on their first try. There are plenty of people online who report their first anal going seamlessly with no pain or difficulty at all.

Second, maybe she prepared for it by fingering or toying herself before. Maybe she’s masturbated anally on her own in the past because she likes how it feels. Maybe she thought things through ahead of time like a rational human rather than just letting a guy stick his dick in with no preparation.

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Let me just say that the first time I had anal, it wasn’t hard for him to get in and it didn’t really hurt me like I thought it would. I wouldn’t judge by that, plus my b/f kept asking me if I had anal before, so he may have had the same thought as you, but it really was my first.

Maybe she read a lot of articles and books or whatever on anal sex and knew how to prepare herself for it. Maybe she prepared her “tight little a$$” with a buttplug or something before you came over to cornhole her.

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Many people prefer anal sex to vaginal sex. The science behind this phenomenon is that there are many nerve endings in the anus that bring good feelings when they get stimulated. But is it okay to have anal sex? And more importantly, is it harmful?

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