Anonymous: How long have you been anal only? And have you begun to notice any physiological change, is your ass looser, more pliant and more willing now? I ask because my wife has the most luxurious ass and while we’re not anal only we are using it more and more and almost always finish in it. She’s eager to know if she’s going to feel any change as we become more focused on using her ass.

dumbandpretty: We’ve been anal-only off and on for a while now. I can’t say how long exactly, but long enough–I think–that any averse affects would have manifested themselves in some form or another by now. My ass isn’t looser; however, I have noticed the muscles there relax easier now, so penetration is less difficult and more pleasurable for me. My husband says its like making love to a woman who knows how to pleasure a man, vis-a-vis using muscle contractions, so I can only assume that means it doesn’t feel ‘looser’ for him. I can’t recommend anal-only enough. If you can get past the initial discomfort, the orgasms are far superior to anything you’ll get from vaginal sex alone, and the intimacy can’t be beat.

Anonymous: is it mandatory to get an enema before any type of anal play or masturbation?

No. In fact, I would generally avoid an actual enema, which flushes out deeper, beyond the rectum and into the colon. Some people do regular anal douching (just washing out the rectum), while many just eat a balanced diet with a good amount of fiber and are generally clean enough without needing to clean out.

Anonymous: Thank you so much for your support and advice about the anal play while Crohn’s disease is making my tummy uncomfortable. I like the hybrid idea you talked about and will give it a try. And thank you for reassuring me that I’m still feminine even if I can’t be a total fucktoy all the time. 🙂 *hug hug* That’s why I love your tumblr.

Good luck! I hope you’re able to find a system that works well for you.

This was originally posted on the anal only porn blog that accompanied this blog on Tumblr, so it refers to fantasy content that existed on there.

Anonymous: I read your tumblr during self play all the time. I love it! I love anal play, but I’ve just been diagnosed with Crohn’s disease, which means that (probably for the rest of my life) I have “tummy trouble” that makes my rectum sore- in a bad way! My doctor, who is queer and sex-positive, says to use common sense, lube, and not to do anal if it hurts. I like sex to be a part of every day, but I can’t do anal that often. But I know I HAVE TO have anal in order to be a real woman. What can I do?

Thank you for the kind words, I’m very glad you enjoy the blog.

First of all, despite the places of fantasy this blog sometimes goes, no one should feel they have to do any sort of sex act to be a “real woman” (or a “real man”, or a “real” anything). I imagine you are well aware of this fact and simply enjoy that fantasy as well as I do, but I don’t want anyone to actually feel pressured into doing anything based on other people’s expectations. A woman who prefers vaginal sex is a real woman, a woman who prefers anal sex is a real woman, a woman who prefers oral sex is a real woman, and a woman who doesn’t like sex at all is a real woman. This blog happens to be about women who prefer anal, but shouldn’t be seen as a criticism of those who don’t even if my captions may sometimes dip perhaps a little too close to that suggestion.

To get more into your actual question, however, this isn’t an area I have a great deal of experience with, unfortunately. I have read occasional accounts of people with both Crohn’s and Celiac disease who enjoy anal sex and talked about the challenges they faced. I would suggest searching for such subjects and seeing if you can find relevant discussions.

As Crohn’s disease is an inflammatory disorder, I suspect (but do not know, as I am not a doctor!) that it may be a bad idea to engage in things like long term butt plug wear, as this has the potential to increase irritation and inflammation. Other than that, I would highly suggest following your doctor’s advice and approaching it with caution but not giving up on it. If it does turn out that you cannot engage in anal sex or play as frequently as you would prefer, you will have to decide what is more important for you—being able to engage in daily sexual activity or being primarily or exclusively anal oriented. There’s also the option of a sort of hybrid approach where you may engage in edging through non-anal means regularly but only orgasm when you are able to do anal play.

Anonymous: How long is too long to wear a butt plug?like what if I fell asleep with a tail in?

As long as it’s comfortable. If it stays comfortable, it’s fine to keep in. The more you do it, the longer it will feel comfortable to keep it in.

Anonymous: Hiii please answer um I need advice for after anal relaxation ? For the being sore after ? And is training every day safe and what’s the best line option please

If you’re sore after, the best bet is to take a break until you aren’t sore. Sometimes it might be hard to avoid being sore when you first start out, but the goal should be to avoid being overly sore at all (beyond the general pleasant post-sex soreness that can be normal). Make sure you’re warming up enough and using enough lube throughout to reduce the risk of soreness. If it hurts at any point during, you aren’t quite warmed up enough yet, or you aren’t trained enough yet.

Daily training is fine as long as you aren’t overly sore and it doesn’t hurt. If it does, take as long as a break you need in between until the soreness goes away. You want to fully heal any minor injuries that may occur before they develop into bigger injuries.

From this article at YourTango:

Dr. Hilda Hutcherson loves sex toys, believes the world is much too pornophobic, and thinks more women should give anal sex a try. In other words, she’s the gynecologist every guy wants his girlfriend to meet.

Among the useful points she makes:

Can all women orgasm from anal sex? 
Every woman has the ability to orgasm, physiologically, because the space between her vagina and rectum is so thin that, in the doggie position, the penis is going to press up against her g-spot. Some women find it’s the easiest way to stimulate their g-spot.

How does a guy get a girl to let him in the back door when “open sesame” doesn’t work?
Well, the thing I can say to her as a doctor is, it’s not unsafe. She’s not going to be wearing a diaper, she’s not going to have fecal incontinence, she’s not going to be soiling herself or passing gas all day.

Now that we finally have doctors recommending anal sex to women, maybe we can finally put some of the more ridiculous claims about the ‘harmful’ side of anal sex to rest.

Quite a long article into the positive effects of semen ingestion and absorption by women, but the most relevant point:

There have been claims that semen can do everything from making women sleepy after sex to strengthening the emotional bond with their partner. One 2002 study, based on a survey of 300 students, even found that women whose partners did not use condoms scored lower on a measure of depression.

If that effect is real, depression in some people might be treatable with artificial-semen suppositories.

For anal only couples, the suppository is unnecessary and the effects would be able to be replicated simply through ejaculation in the woman’s rectum, a process many are no doubt already doing anyway.

Source

Anonymous: Isn’t it true that anal all time damages a girls butt? And wouldn’t doing the same thing all the time get boring?

No, that is not true. With lube and warmup, anal is perfectly safe, even practiced daily for years. There are couples out there who have been having anal sex only, regularly, for 20+ years with zero problems. The anus is a muscle, and using it properly can actually help strengthen it and develop good muscle control and tone. Regular anal sex can therefore give the illusion of increased looseness, but in reality this is generally due to the ability to consciously relax more easily and open up at will for easier sex. Similarly, the idea that anal sex causes anal prolapse is a myth. In reality, some people are prone to developing an anal prolapse and studies have found that it’s likely to happen for those people whether they have anal sex or not. But it’s very uncommon. In general the sort of injuries you might hear about from anal result from bad practices—sex without proper warmup or lube, resulting in a painful experience and potential injuries. If anal hurts, you’re doing it wrong and are at risk of injury.

As for boring, no. Because it’s not the same thing all the time, there’s all sorts of variety possible with anal and oral. It’s just the exclusion of vaginal intercourse. To many, that exclusion is something exciting and a turn on, not a limitation—either because vaginal sex doesn’t interest them, or because the absence of it from their sex life is an appealing fetish.

blessedcyclope: My gf and I love anal sex. We have anal every time we have sex. However, we are not all-anal, we like both. Usually, in a sexual encounter, we have vaginal sex first and then anal, to avoid any problems with bacterias. But, we’d like to have a more dynamic sex, to change from vaginal to anal and viceversa any time during act. Do you recommend any special product to clean the anal cavity so we can have this dynamism without any problems?

In porn, this is accomplished with heavy douching or enemas. Douching can work for some people, but it does require a conscious step before having sex, and I suspect that it may still not provide a level of cleanliness that makes anal to vaginal a safe act.