Month: November 2014

Message: Cleaning vs. Diet For Anal Hygiene

Anonymous: Is there any cleaning tool that is used for anal sex? Or is it really all about your diet and all?

Some people use anal douches and enemas to flush out the rectum and beyond, and while that can work, it can sometimes be more trouble than it’s worth. Unless you make sure you’re thorough, it can sometimes create more of a mess than there would have been without it. For some people, it can dry out the rectum and irritate it, and if you do it too deeply too frequently, it can change the balance of your intestinal flora.

Message: How Rare Are Anal Only Women?

Anonymous: how often you find an anal only girl irl? bc so far i have never seen one.

Anal only women are rare but do exist. Most people are more likely to have success by experimenting with their partner with periods of anal only and seeing what they both think. It’s not entirely uncommon for a woman to find after that she’s totally content and satisfied by just anal sex, and it leads to the couple having sex more often and being more intimate in general.

However, it’s not for everyone. Some will never want to try anal at all, and some may enjoy anal but not exclusively. This is perfectly fine, and you need to respect that. Suggesting you try new things sexually is fine, but don’t push people into things they really don’t want to do. There are plenty of people out there who do love anal—even if they don’t advertise it publicly—and plenty of others who never will. You just have to find the right person.

The original version of this post on Tumblr received the following responses.

sexeweed: For the anon: we do exist!

cameltoe-mccougar: But you can’t ever really tell if someone likes anal or will like anal without getting to know them first. Few people broadcast a desire for it loudly, that’s just not how most people work.

I met a FWB awhile back. She looked like a complete schoolmarm. Looked and dressed incredibly conservative. She always looked good and very attractive, mind you. Just not someone you would have associated with being very sexual….

… until I got to know her.

She had never had anal in her life before we met. Her big think wasn’t anal, though; she wanted to be rimmed. Had always wanted to be rimmed, had rimmed past partners in hopes that they would get the hint… nope.

So I rimmed her and she absolutely loved it. Came hard to it. So anal was the next step. Said she had never really thought about doing it, since she was always totally focused on being rimmed instead.

Now she can’t get enough anal. Still loves vaginal sex and everything else about sex, but prefers to have anal all the time. BIG orgasms from it, best and hardest of her life she says.

And still….. you’d never know she loves anal. I’m the only one who knows or even suspects.

You just never know. Just have to meet more people to have a better chance of finding someone who loves anal.

Message: How To Have Anal Without Pain For Days After?

temptationsparadise: How can you have anal sex without being in pain for the next few days?

Training, lube and warmup. You can’t just jump straight into anal sex. First you have to train and work up to comfortably fitting something penis-sized. Start with a finger, add another, repeat. Get a butt plug and wear it for as long as is comfortable, slowly increasing that amount of time each time you try it. Masturbate or engage in other sex acts while wearing a butt plug or getting fingered anally. After you can comfortably do all this, then consider trying anal sex for real again. Use the fingers and butt plug beforehand still, gradually warming up and increasing the size, then switch to the real thing.

Always use plenty of lube, stop moving if something hurts and try again slower after the pain fades, and always stop if there’s any blood. Anal sex should not hurt or cause damage. If it does, you’re not properly warmed up enough for the level of anal penetration you’re experiencing and you need to back off and gradually work up to that size some more first.

Message: Things Will Get Messy Eventually With Anal

Anonymous: You should also warn people that, if they’re going to have anal sex regularly, things are bound to get messy eventually. You might have anal once and it’ll be miraculously clean and perfect, but if you only have anal sex all the time (and why shouldn’t you?), it’ll happen. It’s no big deal, just an awkward but natural part of sex.

Certainly—it’s always possible. And as you say, it shouldn’t be a big deal if it does.

Message: Staying Clean With Anal Only

Anonymous: How would I go about properly being clean inside since I want to go anal only

A healthy and stable diet with a good amount of fiber is the best long-term way to maintaining cleanliness. Generally, with the right diet, you won’t have to worry about being clean as long as you’ve gone to the bathroom shortly before having sex. You can also wear a butt plug for a while before, which both helps with warmup and lets you check cleanliness when removing it.

Regular enemas aren’t generally considered to be a great idea.

Message: Going Anal Only For Good After No Pussy November

Anonymous: I just wanted to say that my boyfriend and I are now officially anal only! 🙂 As a fun little experiment we’ve be doing No Pussy November, and we just talked it over and have decided that we won’t be going back. I am so so happy with our decision. I haven’t been able to have an anal orgasm yet, but I have a feeling that will change once November ends and clit stimulation is allowed again, since we were being very literally about the “No Pussy” thing. I can’t wait for my next orgasm to be anal!

Congratulations! It’s amazing how many people discover how much better anal is if they go a month without vaginal, and quite often they make the same decision you have. It’s the best way to be.

Regarding clitoral stimulation and anal orgasms, if you feel the need to go back to it after, by all means do so, but if you’d like to keep pursuing pure anal only orgasms, why not try going without your clit for a while still and see where it takes you? Sometimes it can take more than a month to figure out how to do that.

Message: Wondered Why We Stopped Having Anal

goddesslilly-blogHi! I found your blog about a month ago and wondered why my partner and I had stopped having anal in the first place. And since then we’ve unintentionally had only anal, and I have great anal orgasms. I love how slutty it feels, I can’t get enough.♡

Glad to hear it! Interestingly, it’s not too uncommon for couples who love anal to go anal only, at least for a period of time, without even really realizing it or discussing at first. Sometimes they’ll drift back out of it and return to vaginal or vaginal and anal in equal amounts, but sometimes once they realize they’ve just been having anal and loving it, they’ll talk about it and decide to stick with it more officially.

Anal only couples also often report they have increased sex drives and so have sex more frequently, and they feel closer and more intimate.