Anonymous: I’ve always been interested in anal only. So I’m taking my desires a step further and declaring 2016 the year of Anal Training. My goal is to be an anal only slut by my birthday in April and if I can keep it up all year, going anal only for life. I’m also going to try entire pussy denial in favor of anal orgasm. First plug of the old year is in and not coming out till dawn of the new year! Wish me luck!

Good luck, and enjoy! Have a wonderful anal only new year!

Anonymous: My husband and I have been trying to experiment with anal sex and I’m having a difficult time getting used to it. I’d rather lose my virginity again lol do you have any tips on how to make it easier? Specific toys to use maybe?

First, if you’re finding it uncomfortable or are having a hard time getting used to the sensations, make sure to play with your clit during any anal penetration. I know I often talk about clit denial here, but that’s more of an advanced thing to experiment with for people who already enjoy anal. When you’re starting out, you’ll almost always want to use a vibrator on or rub your clit, to help yourself interpret the new and unusual sensations of anal penetration in a pleasurable light.

If it’s just uncomfortable, doing it regularly along with clit play may be all you need. But if it’s actually painful, you probably need to warm up more first. The key to anal training and warmup is to start small at a size that is not painful, use that size for a little while, then go up gradually in size, and repeat incrementally until you’ve reached whatever size is your goal (if your goal is to have anal sex, then it would be around or slightly above the size of your partner’s penis). The more you get used to it, the less warmup you need, but at least some is generally a good idea. Wearing a good medium-sized butt plug on a regular basis—daily for a little while if possible—as well as before any time you plan to have anal sex will help a lot over time.

You can also try pushing out/bearing down gently as if going to the bathroom during penetration to help relax your muscles and make it easier.

jacobjacob2012: Is it dangerous to leave something up my ass of it has no base ???

Yes, it can be. Objects inserted into the rectum have a tendency to get “sucked” deeper inside due to muscle action, and to avoid getting anything lost inside, you should always use something with a base if you’re going to leave it inside.

Anonymous: Would it be dangerous in anyway to sleep plugged?

begginglittleslut: My initial thought is no as long as it’s clean and everything, but I’m actually not sure. I’ve done it before and haven’t had any problems. Maybe @analsexonly would have a better idea though 🙂

The only potential danger would come from a plug with too small a base. If that is not an issue, go for it. If you aren’t used to long term plug wear yet, you may find that it becomes uncomfortable during the night. If this happens, just remove it and try again another time.

For more details on anal training, learning to orgasm from anal sex, and all things relating to anal and the anal only lifestyle, visit our Anal Sex Advice & Guide to the Anal Only Lifestyle page!

boredlittlehousekeeper:

Step1 – Decide to commit to it. Don’t wonder why, just do it. Helps if someone is pushing you to do it, but I’m sure you can try it on your own.

Step2 – Deny all vaginal stimulation.

Step3 – Start with a plug in while you masturbate, repeat daily for a week. Every time you climax repeat loudly: “Oh god, I love it when you fuck my ass.”

Step4 – Increase the time wearing the plug in public by 15 minutes a day, every time you tighten your ass on the plug out in the world you’re training yourself, enjoy it. Tighten your ass every time you see a cute guy. Tighten it twice if you get eye contact. Get to wear you can enjoy it out in the world for at least two hours a day. Keep using the plug in public through the rest of the plan.

Step5 – Replace the plug with a dildo in your ass while you continue to masturbate daily. At first don’t move the dildo at all, just climax on it while you touch your clit and cry out as before.

Step6 – Begin moving the dildo while you masturbate. Use tons of lube. Keep touching your clit till you climax.

Step7 – Repeat Step6 many many many times.

Step8 – Begin decreasing the clit stimulation every time you get close to climaxing. Keep repeating: “Oh god, I love it when you fuck my ass.” Get yourself right to the edge and then stop with your fingers, push yourself over the edge with the dildo.

Step9 – Repeat Step8 until the fingers become secondary to the orgasm.

Step10 – Don’t forget to keep wearing the plug daily, the stronger your muscles are and the more control you have, the more likely you’ll be able to climax from anal only.

Good luck!

Anonymous: Hi, just wanted to thank you. Your blog inspired me to try anal, and after a few weeks of me fingering my asshole to your blog my boyfriend bought me a plug. After another week of stretching my ass we tried anal for the first time last night. By far the best sex I’ve ever had and it never would have happened without you, so thank you (from me and him)! I’m looking forward to hopefully having a wonderful anal-only future!

Congratulations to you both and I’m glad to have been an inspiration for such an enjoyable experience for the both of you! Good luck and keep enjoying it!

Anonymous: I love anal, but I’m new to it, and have some trouble getting past the fear of awkward accidents. I’m a bit fecal-phobic, and the idea of him getting any sort of” residue” terrifies me. I’d like to be able to do ATM sometimes. Any advice on prep?

First, accidents can happen and if you and a partner are engaging in anal play you should both be mature enough to accept that “risk” and recognize that it isn’t really that big of a deal in the event it does.

There are things you can do to mitigate the risk, however. Eating a balanced diet with a healthy amount of fiber does wonders to keep you fairly well cleaned out on its own. In general, the rectum does not hold any solid fecal matter except for when you feel the urge to use the restroom, and since most anal sex takes place entirely within the rectum, you’re mostly in the clear just from that. If you wanted to make sure even more, a quick anal douche shortly before you have sex just to rinse out the rectum would be fine. What you want to avoid when doing that is to have the water go too deep beyond the rectum where it can end up making more of a mess.

Along those lines, deeper enemas can be a possibility, but some people suggest they shouldn’t be done too often as they can over time lead to an imbalance in digestive bacteria, and they take a lot more time and effort to really get clean deeper. It’s also just generally unnecessary for most anal sex, but if you were wanting to engage in more extreme deep anal play then it would be a necessary preparation for most people.

You can always verify your cleanliness a little before you have sex by inserting a dildo, or even to a certain extent wearing a butt plug for 15 to 30 minutes prior to having sex.

legalanal: Hey, I’m french I, have 18 years.I have two question?N°1, I want to discover squirt my girlfriend. How I can do it squirt ? N°2, what are the benefits rosebud (buttplug) for my girlfriend ? I like your blog ?

A lot of other people have written excellent guides to squirting, and as it is not directly related to the theme of this blog, I’d suggest that you search for and read through multiple such guides.

There are multiple benefits of a butt plug. As a training tool, regular use can make it much easier to engage in anal sex. But it can also just be an enjoyable toy to use, providing additional pleasure from passive anal penetration during masturbation or other sexual stimulation.

I have just bought the Trinity Vibes 5 Piece Anal Trainer Set to start her anal training. Looking for advice on how to take this forward, this will be out first time I was thinking to make her wear each for 10 minutes a day for a few weeks is 10 min enough

You’ll probably want to approach it in a more flexible manner. Start with the smallest one and see how long she can comfortably wear it. If she gets comfortable with that one in, try going to the next size. You should only go up to the maximum size that feels comfortable each time, gradually working towards the next largest. Rather than having a set amount of time for each plug, do it for as long as it’s comfortable for her at the largest size she can fit at any given time, and just as long as it takes to adjust to each of the smaller. Definitely work through each size as part of each training session to warm her up for the larger ones, but as she progresses she’ll need less time at the smaller sizes.

hornylilly: i am gay. please guide me how i train my self as a bottom i mean how i train my ass hole. my ass hole is too tight

Same as anyone trains their ass: use lube, start small, and slowly work up in size. A finger is a good starting point, and over time you can add a few more fingers before going to something larger like a dildo or plug.