Anonymous: I cant get butt plugs but love anal stimulation, what can i use?

Fingers are always a good option that many people have available with them at all times. Make sure your nails are trimmed and filed to avoid any rough edges. Some hairbrush handles, if there’s nothing sharp or rough or pointy, can work as impromptu household anal toys. Some people work up to small plastic bottles, etc. Don’t use anything glass that isn’t designed to be a sex toy, don’t use anything potentially sharp, and don’t use anything that could get easily lost inside like a ball or anything of the sort. Anal toys have a flared base for a reason, so you can’t get them stuck inside. Good luck and enjoy!

kinkyplaymate22: When starting to try out anal sex, I’ve been wearing plugs here and there. Last night we were successful. Yay! Lots of fun! But I was wondering do you take a few days in-between and start again or go for a couple days then take a break?

Yay indeed! You’ll have to play it by ear and see what works best for you. If you’re getting sore and it’s noticeably uncomfortable, then take a break. If everything’s still great and you feel fine, keep going.

Anonymous: my daddy gave me my first plug for Christmas today, yay!

Congratulations, and merry Christmas! I think butt plugs make for excellent gifts for any holiday and occasion, for a partner or even a close friend. The utilitarian value is one part of it, and a great way to start introducing someone to anal pleasure.

But it’s more than just that, and with so many aesthetically beautiful plugs out there these days as well, they really can and should be seen as a form of jewelry as well.

Anonymous: I want to start doing anal, what do you recommend to train my butt? I want to walk around all day with a butt plug

Start by fingering your ass regularly when you masturbate. When you can fit a few fingers in, upgrade to a butt plug. Try something like the Tantus Ryder or something of a similar size (1.5″ max diameter) for your first plug. Wear it while masturbating, and for as long as it’s comfortable, then take it out, and try for longer the next time. Keep repeating this, gradually increasing how long you can keep it in, and you’ll get more and more comfortable with it long term. Try to incorporate some dildo play into the mix as well too, and as you get able to fit things the size of penises in your solo play with no pain or discomfort, you’ll probably be ready to move to having anal with a guy.

Anonymous: What are the best plugs for training your ass for every day use? I’d like to start training my ass but I’m not sure which plugs to purchase. Thank you ❤️ love your blog

There aren’t really any “best” plugs, it all comes down to personal choice and what works best for you. I usually recommend training with fingers first, and once you can fit three fingers fairly easily, upgrading to a plug at that point—otherwise you’ll probably end up getting a plug that’s really small and both won’t stay in place very well and you’ll outgrow pretty quickly. Once you can fit three fingers, consider something in the 1.5″ maximum diameter range.

There are multiple quality options around this size, including but not limited to the Tantus Ryder, Doc Johnson Mood Naughty and the Implicit Creations Core Plug (these are all silicone plugs, but stainless steel and glass options can be very good as well—but they don’t have any give or flexibility to them, obviously, and so can sometimes be harder for beginners to get used to). Jeweled/”Princess” plugs are a popular first plug for a lot of people because they’re visually appealing, but a lot of people find that the round/sharp edged base can get uncomfortable after a while if you’re wearing them long term, and the neck is usually very narrow, so it doesn’t hold open the anal sphincter very much and isn’t as useful as a training plug.

I would avoid the super cheap options outside of silicone, glass or stainless steel. A lot of cheap sex toy materials aren’t very body safe and can smell bad and sometimes even cause a burning skin reaction, so it’s best to go with a good quality material from the start.

Once you have a plug, you may not be able to wear it long term just yet (or you might—everybody’s different). Start by wearing it when you masturbate. Then try keeping it in longer. If it starts to get too uncomfortable to keep in, take it out and try it longer the next time. Try sleeping with it in. The more you practice with it, the longer you’ll be able to comfortably fit it. If you go out with it in, you may want to carry a small bottle of lube with you to reapply if it starts to dry out/get absorbed and you need to add more.

Have fun and enjoy!

Anonymous: every time I put in a plug I get too horny and need to cum immediately. I wish to wear it for longer than 10 minutes. Is there anything I could do to make it last longer?

You can try keeping it in after you cum. Some people find that uncomfortable, but see how long you can keep it in after, and try pushing it more and more each time.

You can try edging without cumming to extend the time you keep it in.

You can just not cum even though you feel like you have to.

You can fuck your ass with a dildo for a while to relieve some of the horniness, then put the plug back in.

Anonymous: Do you have any advice for keeping butt plugs in longer?

As with most things anal, practice with gradual increases—in this case, increasing time rather than, say, size. Each time you have the plug in, try to see if you can keep it in a little longer than the time before. Sometimes it might get uncomfortable sooner, but on average try to keep pushing your limits a little bit. Masturbate with your plug in regularly. And also try sleeping with it in. That can be a good way to passively get used to it while you’re asleep. You may not make it through the night with it in at first and might have to remove it, but after a few times you should be able to keep it in.

reguara: I really enjoy anal sex. Not only the sex itself, but lube, fingers, plugs. I quite frequently reach orgasms with nothing but anal stimulation. Nevertheless, i find it kind of sad thinking my pussy will never taste a cock again. .

It sounds like trying anal only would be perfect for you. It doesn’t have to be a permanent commitment, and if it stops being fun for you at some point, then no one would be forcing you to continue, but more often than not people who already love anal and decide to try anal only for a few months end up wanting to stay that way, both because they still love it—maybe even more than before—and because they don’t want to quit after such a long streak of only getting fucked in the ass, which can be both rewarding and a real turn on. So it often becomes less of a feeling of sadness that your pussy won’t feel cock again and more a turn on knowing your ass will always feel cock instead.

I’d definitely suggest giving it a try for a while! No Pussy November is going on right now, and it’s the perfect opportunity to go anal only.

Anonymous: So I have never been fucked in the ass, but it really seems to turn on my bf. How do I ease into it? Should I buy plugs? The idea of wearing a fox tail butt plug gets me wet. Will this train me to take his cock in my ass?

Yes, plugs are a very useful way to start getting used to anal penetration. You might want to start with a finger or two first, then get a small/medium plug and start to wear it whenever you masturbate, and ramp up wearing it more frequently other times as well. Using a dildo to masturbate anally once you’ve used the plug for a while will also help, then once you feel ready, give it a try with your partner. Use lube, go slow, and pause to relax if it starts to hurt.

Anonymous: Anal Only September girl going to class wearing a butt plug for the first time today (because I crave my ass filled all the time these days…)! How exciting… should make a boring lecture far more entertaining!

That’s great! Hope it went well! I think you’ll find that craving will grow even more the more you plug your ass—fortunately, it’s a craving that’s easily satisfied and far better for you than many cravings!