Posts containing advice about anal sex and the anal only lifestyle. For more general anal advice, see our Anal Sex Advice and Guide to the Anal Only Lifestyle page.
My current challenge:
Every time my pussy is wet, slip in a buttplug. So right now! I’m hoping to work up to a bigger size. I’m thinking of getting vixskin’s Tristan 2 for a constant stretch. I just don’t like how thick the base looks – it’ll be hard to hide. But I think my husband will like the outcum
A worried boyfriend asks an advice column:
Dear Alice,
Last night, my girlfriend and I had anal sex without a condom. She is a virgin.
Is there a probability for her to get pregnant?
I would appreciate a lot your help.
Signed,
Worried Boy
And he gets an excellent and informed response:
Strictly speaking, sperm entering the anus can’t lead to pregnancy. The only way someone might possibly become pregnant from anal play is if ejaculated semen is near the vulva or vaginal opening and that semen happens to work its way upwards into vagina. Otherwise, there is no chance of conception with anal sex. Is there more to learn more about the anatomy involved? Butt of course!
With Anal Only April coming up in a few days, it’s an excellent time to remind everyone that the anal only lifestyle isn’t just something that you should enjoy on your own—it’s also something that you can open up to friends about, if you’re comfortable doing so, and share the benefits with them too.
We live in a time where a growing number of people really love and enjoy anal, but many haven’t yet considered the idea of going anal only, and may not even realize the many benefits that can come from the lifestyle and choice to replace vaginal sex fully with anal.
With so much differing information out there, comments, advice and encouragement from friends about anal and anal only can hold more weight and actually inspire those you know to give it a try.
Especially now, in a world increasingly spending most of its time indoors and in isolation for the foreseeable future, existing couples have a lot of time together on their hands, and it can be a good opportunity to explore new things and spice up their sex life with a month or two experiment in going anal only. If you know anyone who might benefit from it, be sure to encourage them, and share why it’s been so great for you and how they might enjoy or prefer it themselves.
In addition to the benefits to them if they find they do enjoy it, you will benefit not only by having a more open relationship with your friends, but by having other anal only couples to share with and confide in, building up your own local community of anal only enthusiasts.
I’ve done anal before welll a few times. I guess I’m curious if there are others who find or struggle with having/reaching an orgasm through/from anal?
analonlynz
An assortment of responses:
I’ve never had an orgasm from solely anal and I’ve been AO for a long time. It’s become my preference honestly.
KaraBear_94
It only took me a couple weeks of increased anal only and ignoring my clit. It happens when I get relaxed enough to let him REALLY pound me harder and faster. To be able to take that I wear a somewhat large plug for hours every day. The orgasm feels really good. There will suddenly be a big increase in how good the stimulation feels and then like a full body wave of pleasure. It subsides without a sharp peak feeling that would normally make me want to stop all stimulation. It’s great to feel that wave of extreme pleasures and then want to keep going.
thepetgirl
It seems to be a 50/50 deal with my partners. (Me male, them female)
Either they dont enjoy anal and cant get any pleasure from it at all, or it makes them orgasm anywhere from 1-4 times a session. The second type of girl is a gift from heaven.
Try different positions. I have found doggy is easier to do for them pain wise, but rarely if ever does it cause orgasms. Try ditching the bed and do it on the floor. While its not as comfortable on the knees, your butt might thank you for the deeper connection and your back will bend easier for proper entry. Trust me, he will thank you also.
Best success by far is with the seashell position (basically missionary on back with legs raised. The pressure according to partners gives the most full filling possible). Most of the time i have ever made a woman orgasm is this way. This is tougher to pull off for less experienced couples but well worth the difficulty curb in my humble opinion of only really being interested in anal with a woman since i was interested in sex.
Also prone boning (women lays flat face down) has a high learning curve, but does create some orgasms for both partners. One more recommendation if you are spry enough and the height differential isnt too off is standing anal. Its tough to orgasm for a male, but its really kinky and some women have found it exciting enough to get off.
You may require clitoral stimulation. You may need to try other positions. You may need to build some more confidence with it. You may just not be able to orgasm from it. That’s all fine and great. The fact that you would do this for a man makes you a superstar
kakarott1224
Jay: Do you know where I can find anal only hypnos with women? I’m a FTM Transman who wants to try to be anal only in april and I’m looking for hypnos to watch while anal masturbating.
There isn’t a ton of content out there, but there are a few which you can find by searching Google for “anal only hypnos”. The first ones that come up in such a search are about the only ones that truly contain inspirational/hypno-style text.
Otherwise, the bulk of the content available is anal/anal only PMVs (Porn Music Videos), which can serve a similar purpose but generally don’t include text.
As we are practicing social distancing and even quarantine during the COVID-19 global pandemic, it’s being noted that there will likely be an increase of births starting in 9 months from all the couples cooped up in their homes together with nothing to do but have sex.
Now, more than ever, it’s important to practice the anal only lifestyle and use anal sex’s role as natural birth control to avoid unwanted pregnancies. The global population is already out of control as it is, let alone the risks of being pregnant during a pandemic or giving birth while the health care system is already massively stressed.
Please be careful and stay safe.
BWS19 on the Anal Only Lifestyle forum asks:
Me and my Partner are anal only by choice and convenience but we have something in common. we don’t really like to use lube as it gets rid of a lot of friction and feeling inside for us. some days when shes just naturally wide open we can get in no lube other times we need a bit and it does steal some feeling for us and make it messier sometimes but does anybody else do or like this or is it uncommon
And one of several responses:
While initially we used lube, many years Of anal now means that my wife’s a master of relaxing and letting me in. Just a little natural pre-cum – a drop or two – and then I’m sliding in balls deep.
An /r/analonlylifestyle reader on Reddit asks:
Just curious which position people find easiest/ most comfortable for initial anal penetration? Do you have a standard “go to” or does it change often?
A number of users share their preferences, and a few highlights are below:
I like starting on top. Makez it easiest to control speed and depth until I’m comfortable
We change it up, but my favorite position in general is on my back, folded in half, because then he hits all my favorite spots
My wife and I always start in the spooning position, after we get going she’s down for anything but she says starting on our sides is a better angle for getting adjusted to the initial sensations.
Anonymous: My girlfriend and I have been talking about going anal only lately and we have some questions. We both like the idea of it, and she might honestly want it even more than me, but we want to make sure that we can do it safely and sustainably.
We do anal probably 85% of the time or more right now but sometimes she gets sore or doesn’t feel up to doing it and that’s when we do vaginal just as a backup but it isn’t what we like doing. But if we go anal only, what do we do in those situations?
We’ve noticed that when we have anal every day she stays more relaxed, does this mean she’s getting looser and will that cause any problems later?
Thanks for any advice you can give.
First of all, if you’re considering going anal only, I say go for it and give it a try. The best way to determine if it’s really for you is to just dive in and do it. Give yourself a month or two challenge to commit to it at first, and that will let you see what it’s really like and time to work out any particular issues. And then by the end of that trial period, decide if you want to extend it further, or just commit to it long term from there.
As for those times that soreness or preparation keep her from wanting to do anal, you’ll find as you shift to only doing anal that soreness generally goes away pretty quickly and as anal becomes something you do every time, her body will adjust to it and generally stop being sore even if it’s something you do daily. When she doesn’t feel well or has digestion issues that get in the way of doing anal, taking a break for a day or so to focus on oral instead can serve as a viable substitute instead of vaginal.
Her staying more relaxed when doing anal daily is actually what I was talking about above, and how it will keep her from getting sore as easily. Relaxed anal muscles don’t mean she’s getting loose, it just means she’s staying relaxed and warmed up due to more regularly using those muscles. It’s not a health concern, it’s actually keeping her safer by always being warmed up and ready for sex and so less prone to injury.
It sounds like you’re in the perfect place to shift to anal only, you just need to make that last jump now. Good luck!
Anonymous: So i am a guy. I have always been obsessed with anal sex since i was a toddler. It sounds weird but i can recall fantasies ive had since i was 3/4. But when I would always fantasize about sex, and when ever i thought about girls it would always be about the butt. I never knew what a vagina was until i was in the 5th grade. Yeah I know. I dont like penis, and vagina is nice, but i really really really have a insane obsession with a womans ass hole. I dont know why but a womans butt gets me going. Like somethings its so much if I havent jacked off I feel like breaking things and throwing chairs across the room. I dont know why im doing this but it feels good to let it out here and just say how I feel haha. I have never had anal sex sadly. I have fingered a butt, and eaten it out (i love ass) but never got to stick my penis in. All i want is a anal only type of girl. Any clue on how to find one?
It sounds like you need to find someone to experience anal with first, even if they aren’t anal only. And then once you see what it’s all about and start gaining some experience with it, see about going anal only with someone.
Unless someone already knows what they’re doing and loves anal, it’s unlikely they’ll go anal only with someone who isn’t experienced with it right from the start, but if you can show that you can do anal in a way that’s enjoyable and pleasurable for her too, and demonstrate how much better it is for the both of you, you might get to where a girl would go anal only with you.