Anonymous: I’ve always wanted to be tied down and taken by a room full of men while I’m blindfolded. Lately I’ve been toying with the idea of making this an anal only fantasy. I’m thinking like five men at least but I wouldn’t say no to more. Do you think I could get this many guys on board? And what tips do you have to encourage the anal only aspect?

I’m not particularly familiar with the logistics of organizing a gangbang, but I’m sure that there are men out there who would be into the idea. Somewhere like fetlife (Craigslist in the past would have been good) is likely the place to do the organization, but you should of course consider safe practices when doing so.

As for making it an anal only gangbang, starting by advertising it as such and making it very clear in the promotion that your pussy is entirely off limits to fuck and touch, would be a good start. You could make this even more clear by keeping it covered with duct tape or similar during the event and getting temporary tattoos made that say “ANAL ONLY” and similar which you can put over your pussy.

For more details on anal only training and all things relating to anal and the anal only lifestyle, visit our Anal Sex Advice & Guide to the Anal Only Lifestyle page!

Anonymous: I’ve been training my ass for a while now and yesterday I took up a larger toy and i got so horny because i arrived to this level while a couple months ago I couldn’t even put my finger. I’m trying to go anal only and havent touched my pussy for a week and doing anal play only and it’s dripping wet i can feel the wetness on my thighs all day long, sometimes I add clothespins on my labia for more exquisite torture, do you have a task for me to extend AO training ? Ps : i love your blog

First of all, congratulations on moving to a larger toy and on trying to go anal only! Obviously, I encourage and approve of such things, and hope that you continue to stick with anal only long-term!

It sounds like you’re trying to go anal only on your own, rather than with a partner. There’s nothing at all wrong with that, and when it comes to initial anal training I actually often suggest exploring it on your own first so you get to know about it on your own terms and in the future can go into it with less uncertainty and more confidence when you try it with a partner. For some people, it can also be more challenging, because with the anal only aspect, you don’t have any accountability except to yourself, and it can feel easier to give up when it gets hard, which in turn can feel like a failure if you “give in” to old urges.

But if that happens, you shouldn’t see it as a failure, you should see it as a natural part of the process of switching your urges to anal instead of vaginal. It doesn’t happen overnight if you already very much enjoy and have primarily stimulated yourself vaginally or clitorally until now. Definitely keep trying to push your limits and go as long as you can, but if you can’t take it anymore and end up masturbating vaginally or clitorally again, just dive back in after and try again. Each time around see if you can go longer than the time before!

To answer your question more directly, however, what I generally recommend for people struggling with going anal only in their solo play and wanting to avoid touching their pussy is: Any time you feel the urge to touch your pussy, rub and finger or use a toy in your ass instead. The hornier you get, the more enthusiastically you play with your ass. Take all that arousal coming from your pussy and clit and redirect it to your ass. In time, that arousal will start naturally shifting to your ass instead. If your clit is a big distraction to you and makes it too hard to resist, try some anesthetic cream like Orajel on your clit to numb it temporarily while you masturbate.

And finally, if you find that the clitoral denial aspect of anal only is too much for you, always remember that you can be anal only without giving up your clit. Most anal only women only engage in anal penetration during masturbation and sex but still combine clitoral stimulation with anal as needed. Some edge clitorally, some orgasm clitorally. Others get all they need from their ass. Experiment with all the options, but ultimately what’s best for you is something that you’ll need to figure out for yourself.

Enjoy!

Anonymous: I’m in the process of getting my labia pierced, I only need a few more done. Once they’re all fully healed, my husband has bought a set of sturdy locks to replace the rings with, then he’s going to put the keys in his safe deposit box and pretty much the only times they’ll be unlocked is when we’re going on an airplane or I go to see a gynecologist. We’ve incidentally been anal only for a while, but after those locks go on vaginal won’t even be an option even if I wanted it to be.

That sounds like a lot of fun, and a great way to symbolize/enforce your anal only status and further reinforce it. Thanks for sharing your commitment to the anal only lifestyle!

selftraininglittlegirl: For all of April I havent had sex, as a personal abstinence challenge, the chastity belt has helped with that on occasion.  

During May I was considering keeping my pussy closed off, but opening up my ass for sex, what do you guys think?

confessionkink: I am really into anal, like its the only thing that gets me off for some reason, i don’t enjoy men fucking my pussy any more and i don’t mind sucking dick but what really makes me cum like crazy is deep anal fucking. I wish i could just close off my pussy and be an anal only slut.

I almost always wear a butt plug everyday, when i masturbate i only fuck my ass, i even got an 18 inch double ended dildo that i take all of, i just push it in and enjoy how good it feels. I want to find a man that understands that i don’t want my pussy used at all.

angelamourxxx: I’m getting kinda buzzed and I’m feeling like I want my pussy clamped shut with clothespins, with my ankles pressed over my shoulders and a huge cock mercilessly pounding my asshole.

Anonymous: Nasty fuck girls I’m with there’s no using the cunt at all. Just the mouth and the ass then back to the mouth!

onlyoneentry: That’s literally me – anal only and vaginal virgin for life ?

Anonymous: I’m 20 and from a religious family. I’m now away from home at college but still a virgin. Originally I was going to stay virginal until marriage, and then I found this blog (and a couple of similar ones). Now I am thinking about living my whole life as a virgin, and finding a husband who wants an anal-only woman. The thought of it brings such intense emotions, I dream of having my vagina sewn shut and somehow having my hymen thickened so it will never tear. What should I do?

cute-submissive-nyc-universe: Thanks for getting in touch and sharing. While I’m sure many guys would be delighted to meet someone who was anal only and a vagina virgin – and who wanted to remain that way – there are certain experiences that you, as a woman, should experience. And that means vagina sex. If after trying that you would prefer to be anal only, then fine. But I suggest you try everything else first. It could also make your future chastity more profound too. But all best wishes on your life journey.

I’ll offer a related but slightly alternate opinion: if you would like to experience vaginal sex and see what it’s like, then by all means do so. If you would instead like to be anal only and remain a vaginal virgin, that’s fine too. At some point in the future, you might change your mind, and if you then want to try vaginal sex at that point, there’s nothing wrong with that either. None of these is wrong or bad, in my opinion, you just need to figure out what works for you and what you want. And keep yourself open to the possibility that you might change your mind and your desires can evolve in the future, and that’s okay too.

Anonymous: I’m so glad to hear chastity piercings are something the two of you are now considering. I think you’d be a perfect candidate for them, and even though I know you don’t need them to stay devoted to anal only at this point, they would provide lovely symbolism.

dumbandpretty: I know, right? I’ve had all the kids I want to have, my vagina has served its purpose. I think forced retirement is in order!

Anonymous: I just got my chastity piercing, but I only got one set in the center, how many sets do you think are normal to properly close off my vagina? I was thinking two or three more sets

First, congratulations on taking that step! That’s wonderful, and I’m sure you are and will be pleased with it.

The number of piercings used do seem to vary quite a bit by personal choice and aesthetic preference. If you want it to seriously keep out anything, you would want more, but if it’s just a decorative and symbolic piercing, then whatever looks best to you. I seem to most commonly see between 4 and 6.