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Anonymous: I’ve been training my ass for a while now and yesterday I took up a larger toy and i got so horny because i arrived to this level while a couple months ago I couldn’t even put my finger. I’m trying to go anal only and havent touched my pussy for a week and doing anal play only and it’s dripping wet i can feel the wetness on my thighs all day long, sometimes I add clothespins on my labia for more exquisite torture, do you have a task for me to extend AO training ? Ps : i love your blog

First of all, congratulations on moving to a larger toy and on trying to go anal only! Obviously, I encourage and approve of such things, and hope that you continue to stick with anal only long-term!

It sounds like you’re trying to go anal only on your own, rather than with a partner. There’s nothing at all wrong with that, and when it comes to initial anal training I actually often suggest exploring it on your own first so you get to know about it on your own terms and in the future can go into it with less uncertainty and more confidence when you try it with a partner. For some people, it can also be more challenging, because with the anal only aspect, you don’t have any accountability except to yourself, and it can feel easier to give up when it gets hard, which in turn can feel like a failure if you “give in” to old urges.

But if that happens, you shouldn’t see it as a failure, you should see it as a natural part of the process of switching your urges to anal instead of vaginal. It doesn’t happen overnight if you already very much enjoy and have primarily stimulated yourself vaginally or clitorally until now. Definitely keep trying to push your limits and go as long as you can, but if you can’t take it anymore and end up masturbating vaginally or clitorally again, just dive back in after and try again. Each time around see if you can go longer than the time before!

To answer your question more directly, however, what I generally recommend for people struggling with going anal only in their solo play and wanting to avoid touching their pussy is: Any time you feel the urge to touch your pussy, rub and finger or use a toy in your ass instead. The hornier you get, the more enthusiastically you play with your ass. Take all that arousal coming from your pussy and clit and redirect it to your ass. In time, that arousal will start naturally shifting to your ass instead. If your clit is a big distraction to you and makes it too hard to resist, try some anesthetic cream like Orajel on your clit to numb it temporarily while you masturbate.

And finally, if you find that the clitoral denial aspect of anal only is too much for you, always remember that you can be anal only without giving up your clit. Most anal only women only engage in anal penetration during masturbation and sex but still combine clitoral stimulation with anal as needed. Some edge clitorally, some orgasm clitorally. Others get all they need from their ass. Experiment with all the options, but ultimately what’s best for you is something that you’ll need to figure out for yourself.

Enjoy!

Anonymous: I’m in the process of getting my labia pierced, I only need a few more done. Once they’re all fully healed, my husband has bought a set of sturdy locks to replace the rings with, then he’s going to put the keys in his safe deposit box and pretty much the only times they’ll be unlocked is when we’re going on an airplane or I go to see a gynecologist. We’ve incidentally been anal only for a while, but after those locks go on vaginal won’t even be an option even if I wanted it to be.

That sounds like a lot of fun, and a great way to symbolize/enforce your anal only status and further reinforce it. Thanks for sharing your commitment to the anal only lifestyle!

selftraininglittlegirl: For all of April I havent had sex, as a personal abstinence challenge, the chastity belt has helped with that on occasion.  

During May I was considering keeping my pussy closed off, but opening up my ass for sex, what do you guys think?

confessionkink: I am really into anal, like its the only thing that gets me off for some reason, i don’t enjoy men fucking my pussy any more and i don’t mind sucking dick but what really makes me cum like crazy is deep anal fucking. I wish i could just close off my pussy and be an anal only slut.

I almost always wear a butt plug everyday, when i masturbate i only fuck my ass, i even got an 18 inch double ended dildo that i take all of, i just push it in and enjoy how good it feels. I want to find a man that understands that i don’t want my pussy used at all.

angelamourxxx: I’m getting kinda buzzed and I’m feeling like I want my pussy clamped shut with clothespins, with my ankles pressed over my shoulders and a huge cock mercilessly pounding my asshole.

Anonymous: Nasty fuck girls I’m with there’s no using the cunt at all. Just the mouth and the ass then back to the mouth!

onlyoneentry: That’s literally me – anal only and vaginal virgin for life ?

Anonymous: I’m 20 and from a religious family. I’m now away from home at college but still a virgin. Originally I was going to stay virginal until marriage, and then I found this blog (and a couple of similar ones). Now I am thinking about living my whole life as a virgin, and finding a husband who wants an anal-only woman. The thought of it brings such intense emotions, I dream of having my vagina sewn shut and somehow having my hymen thickened so it will never tear. What should I do?

cute-submissive-nyc-universe: Thanks for getting in touch and sharing. While I’m sure many guys would be delighted to meet someone who was anal only and a vagina virgin – and who wanted to remain that way – there are certain experiences that you, as a woman, should experience. And that means vagina sex. If after trying that you would prefer to be anal only, then fine. But I suggest you try everything else first. It could also make your future chastity more profound too. But all best wishes on your life journey.

I’ll offer a related but slightly alternate opinion: if you would like to experience vaginal sex and see what it’s like, then by all means do so. If you would instead like to be anal only and remain a vaginal virgin, that’s fine too. At some point in the future, you might change your mind, and if you then want to try vaginal sex at that point, there’s nothing wrong with that either. None of these is wrong or bad, in my opinion, you just need to figure out what works for you and what you want. And keep yourself open to the possibility that you might change your mind and your desires can evolve in the future, and that’s okay too.

Anonymous: I’m so glad to hear chastity piercings are something the two of you are now considering. I think you’d be a perfect candidate for them, and even though I know you don’t need them to stay devoted to anal only at this point, they would provide lovely symbolism.

dumbandpretty: I know, right? I’ve had all the kids I want to have, my vagina has served its purpose. I think forced retirement is in order!

Anonymous: I just got my chastity piercing, but I only got one set in the center, how many sets do you think are normal to properly close off my vagina? I was thinking two or three more sets

First, congratulations on taking that step! That’s wonderful, and I’m sure you are and will be pleased with it.

The number of piercings used do seem to vary quite a bit by personal choice and aesthetic preference. If you want it to seriously keep out anything, you would want more, but if it’s just a decorative and symbolic piercing, then whatever looks best to you. I seem to most commonly see between 4 and 6.

For more information about the anal only lifestyle, clitoral denial, and vaginal chastity, visit our Anal Sex Advice & Guide to the Anal Only Lifestyle page, which goes into detail about a variety of topics.

Anonymous: I really love the idea of having my pussy and clit blocked off so I can’t touch them even if I wanted to, but I’m not ready to commit to piercings and I don’t find chastity belts sexy at all. Are there any other good alternatives?

Vaginal chastity in combination with the anal only lifestyle is a popular desire (though certainly not necessary if someone doesn’t want it for themselves). It’s totally understandable that you want to explore the idea without committing to something permanent (or expensive), however!

Types of Temporary Vaginal Chastity

Tape is a popular and easy option for quick short-term chastity that covers your pussy and clit and makes them inaccessible. Duct tape and medical tape are the best options here, but even they won’t last too long, as your sweat and vaginal fluids will loosen it over time. All you need to do is carry a roll with out and apply more as needed, however.

Clamps of various forms can be effective in the very short term, while masturbating or having sex. Clothespins and chip clips are easily accessible, but you can’t control their clamping strength. Other clamps, especially those specifically for use on skin, like nipple and clit clamps, may have adjustments so it doesn’t squeeze too tightly.

Numbing creams and gels like Orajel can temporarily eliminate any sensations from your clit or pussy. You want to use a small amount, because these are anesthetic creams and you don’t want to overuse it, but it’s generally safe in small doses. Get advice from a doctor if you have any concerns about their safety or potential reactions or interactions for yourself.

Some use superglue or similar medical grade or body-safe glues, including eyelash glue, as temporary chastity. It can be safe to do, but you should test it in one small spot first, leave gaps between glued sections in order to allow urination, and be sure not to get any glue on your urethra. Glues break down fairly quickly with contact with sweat, urine and vaginal fluids.

Sometimes Mental Enforcement of Chastity is Best

Ultimately, though, these are all temporary and some may prove more trouble than they’re worth to use regularly. It’s worth giving at least some a try, though, if you’re interested. Longer term, you may just find it more effective to achieve a goal of vaginal and clitoral denial through self control and practice.

Or, if you decide you want permanent closure of your vagina, chastity piercings can be effective for that for some people. You’d want to meet with a professional piercer and walk through the steps involved for that.