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Posts about the Anal Only Lifestyle blog and community itself, rather than the concept of anal only.


Message: A Diverse But Normal Crowd of Anal Fans

Anonymous: I love your readers questions. It just goes to show what a diverse but normal crowd anal fans are – just a mix of ordinary people who want to get the best out of sex. Changing the topic, why is it that there’s something incredibly erotic about the sight of a woman’s ass taking a cock while the pussy lies empty just next to it? Never fails to get me hard!

It’s a great group of diverse anal-loving people and I’m very grateful for everyone and their support, participation in and enjoyment of the community and lifestyle.

I don’t know why what you described is so innately appealing, but it is, and I choose to believe that’s because being anal only is innately right for us and so seeing it illustrated in that manner is of course going to be appealing as well.

Message: Do You Prefer the Look or Feel of A Woman’s Anus?

Anonymous: What do you like most: the feel or the look of a woman’s anus? I ask because for me what got me into it was not thinking about any difference in sensation but how much better it looked. When you see a cock being gripped by an ass it looks so natural like it was meant to be. Do you know what I mean? And when I look between her legs that’s immediately what my eyes fix on. And have you noticed how individual anuses are?

Personally, I like and appreciate both very much. Like you, it was the aesthetic difference which first turned me on to my preference for anal. I was naturally drawn to a woman’s anus more and found it very appealing to look at, and in porn before I tried anal sex myself, it visually looked much more natural to me.

Upon actually trying it, I also preferred how it felt compared to vaginal, which further reinforced that preference.

The original version of this post on Tumblr received the following response.

alwaysanalblog: Ditto. I feel it is almost indisputable the a woman’s anus looks more attractive, neater and simpler than a vulva. Additionally an anus looks more naturally formed to receive and grip an erect penis.

Message: Thoughts on the Lifestyle

@alwaysanalblog sent some insightful comments, which I’ll respond to inline below. Thanks for the message!

I’ve noticed a few things that look like common themes and patterns having followed your blog, and what I’ve read elsewhere. I’m wondering if you’ve agree with any of my observations. Now I know most of it is unscientific as it’s not easy getting hard data. That being said here we go:

A massive uptake of interest in the lifestyle in the last couple of years. It’s no longer limited to the more remote corners of the internet. Sure it’s still not common, but its growing and what’s more people are accepting of the idea even if they believe it isn’t for them.

Absolutely, this has been very noticeable. It’s gone from only being discussed in one or two places online 6+ years ago or as part of certain other niche fetishes, to being widely discussed and people openly talking about how much they love or prefer anal sex or only do anal. As you say, it’s not a majority by any means at this point, but interest has skyrocketed and the concept is  much more widely known by people, with more discovering it regularly. The communities have grown, the number of blogs talking about it have increased, and new people interested in it and openly practicing it seem to constantly show up.

Men are more likely to be more binary with their interest. They either love anal or they don’t. Women are more undecided, yet more curious and more open minded.

I think everyone can be curious and open to it, and there are a lot of factors that go into it beyond gender. Some think at first that they’d be against the idea and don’t want to be “limited” or are afraid they’d miss pussy too much, until they actually try it and find that they don’t find it limiting and don’t miss it at all, because anal really is that much better and they’re totally happen doing it all the time. Some are just unwilling to try. Some try but struggle with it. Some are naturals and immediately get converted to the idea. I don’t find a consistent trend that shows anything beyond the fact that women are traditionally more submissive-minded and will do things their partner wants because they enjoy pleasing their partner, while men are traditionally more dominant-minded and might resist something that goes against their idea of what sex should be if anal only isn’t already appealing to them. But that’s a stereotype, and the reality isn’t that for everyone.

On average women who are a little bit older (say 30+) are more open minded than younger women. That’s counter intuitive as we think of teens and twenties as when people are most willing to experiment.

Women in their 30s and older have typically been more open minded sexually in general. That’s not changing, but we’re at an interesting sort of crossroads where we’ve got the traditional scenario where women in their 30s are wanting to try new things sexually and anal sex and going anal only is a great way to explore that but we also have anal hitting the mainstream hard and young women often starting out earlier with anal or even doing it before they try vaginal, so both are combining into a much bigger increase of anal adoption across a wide range of ages.

Popular and medical opinion has shifted – even only 10 years ago the consensus was that anal sex was bad. Now virtually nobody is saying that and some are even pointing out the advantages and benefits.

For sure, the internet and better resources, education and discussion about it in general have led to most of the old myths about anal sex and how “bad” and “dangerous” and “painful” it is fading away. They still persist somewhat, but far more people are aware of the reality now, and scientific and medical discussion on the topic also has shifted to the fact that, as with most things, if you do it safely and with care, listening to your body, it’s not at all harmful to regularly engage in anal sex and play, and there can in fact be a lot of benefits to doing so.

We are in the middle of a cultural shift that happens every few generations. We’ve been here before as things tend to be cyclical. Even publications and articles aimed at the female audience now talk of anal as being just as valid and as pleasurable alternative to vaginal, or more so.

This definitely seems to be the case. We’re undergoing a normalization and popular adoption of anal sex as an equal sex act to anal and oral. We went through the same process with oral sex several decades ago, and anal is on the fast track to the same sort of acceptance. Once it’s widely accepted that anal is just as normal and legitimate an option as vaginal as a form of intercourse, choosing between being vaginal only, anal only, or someone who practices anal and vaginal equally will come down to nothing more than preference, as it should be. And because anal is a lot more pleasurable than vaginal for most people, it’s likely that anal only will become dominant in time.

Do you agree or disagree on any of this? I’d love to hear your thoughts. I really like the content you have here, but sometimes feel our community misses the opportunity to talk about whats going on in the wider cultural context.

Definitely agree with most of what you said, and thank you for this submission—I agree it’s great to discuss this sort of thing as well, and I’d like to see more of it!

Keep up the good work my friend!

Keep up the good discussion and topics!

Message: Being Completely Against Vaginal Takes It To A Whole New Level

Anonymous: This blog is amazing. All about anal.What makes it even better is the anti vaginal angle to it as well. It makes it way more erotic. Not just preferring the ass, but completely being against putting it in the pussy takes it to a whole new level and it’s great. Is there another place that also has chat, stories, or anything like that revolving more around the anti-vaginal side of the anal only kink?

Thank you. We do tend to take more of an anal-positive approach rather than vaginal-negative, but I suppose it’s somewhat inherent in the anal only lifestyle that we’re anti-vaginal at some level.

Check out our Resources page for related links.

Message: Anal Is The Only Way I Can Play

misschloekittenuk: I’m trans, so anal us kinda the only way I can play anyway, but I just wanted to say I think your blog is awesome, I’d never take it any other way 🙂

Thank you! And anal being the only option for a person doesn’t make it any less awesome—one could choose to just see it as a sort of physical manifestation of the fact that anal only is the best way to be anyway.

Message: Why Are You So Biased?

Anonymous: While I agree with anal sex and all, I find it unsettling how biased you can get. If someone likes vaginal, fine. If someone likes anal, fine. But diminishing either of them is kinda dumb. Everyone likes different stuff, and some people weren’t build for anal, just as some people weren’t build for vaginal

This message was sent to the former counterpart of this blog on Tumblr, which illustrated anal only-themed captions with anal images and gifs.

This blog advocates the anal only lifestyle. Its bias is quite clear and not even remotely hidden. I’ll repeat it here: I’m very strongly biased in favor of anal sex over vaginal. This comes originally from my personal preferences, then from my experiences with partners and conversations with other people—men and women—who have similar preferences or experiences.

My experience is that anyone can enjoy anal sex and pleasure, but it takes different amounts of time and different approaches for different people. Most of all, however, it generally takes an interest in trying it and learning to enjoy it. If someone’s willing to do that, then they can probably enjoy it quite a lot with practice.

This blog is sometimes more fantastical than other times, and it’s also known to dip into the ridiculous and whimsical, in an attempt to not take itself too seriously. Some of the scenarios presented in captions strike a very positive and pro-anal tone, others are more from an anti-vaginal perspective. Different followers of the blog enjoy different things, so I try to strike a balance between a range of content.

Here’s my actual stance: people should do what they enjoy, but also try things if they sound interesting or appealing to them in some way to see if that’s something they would enjoy as well. I think anal is the best way to have sex and promote it as such, because it’s not only my preference but because I’ve seen hundreds—maybe thousands—of other people who have come to the same conclusion over the course of this blog and the greater anal only community and I think other people should give it a chance as well to see if it’s for them. If you try it sincerely and it’s not—great, you gave it a shot. If you do love it, even better—you found something new you really enjoy.

In my experience, though, most people who try anal with proper technique and preparation without rushing into it unprepared do enjoy it, and those who decide to try going anal only for a month or two and stay committed to it during that time usually find by the end that they really enjoy being anal only and want to keep going with it. There might be some self-selection and bias going on there as well, but the end result is more people finding that they enjoy anal or being anal only. In the end that’s what it’s all about.

I’m not forcing anyone to do anything, I’m just presenting an argument and encouraging people to try it for themselves and come to their own conclusions from there.

Message: Anal Only Dating Site?

For more information about dating and finding new partners within the anal only lifestyle, view our guide to anal only dating.


Anonymous: I wonder if there is an anal only dating site?

There are some spam/bot-filled ones out there that claim to be anal dating sites, but I wouldn’t expect much from them. Dating based entirely around a specific sexual concept isn’t generally going to go all that well. Rather, look for someone you like in a general sense and who is sexually open-minded, and discuss becoming anal only with her or just explore anal together without any commitments at first, make it really pleasurable for her and make her feel sexy about it, and if she likes it, she’ll probably want to do more, and from there you can ease naturally towards anal only together.

The majority of anal only relationships evolve naturally in that manner. Others have luck identifying early on as being anal only and wanting an anal only relationship, with varying levels of success. Being up front works great for some, and getting to know someone a bit more first works better for others.

The original version of this post on Tumblr received the following response:

bukkakegirlblog: As with most kinks, an anal only relationship works better on paper than in practice. I love anal sex, and I have a lot of it, but I also like to eat burritos, and sometimes the two ought not to mix, if you catch my drift. Anal only is, in my mind, a fine goal, but my pussy is fun to fuck too. I promise you won’t be disappointed by it.

To which the following rebuttal was made:

I’ll have to respectfully disagree, as evidenced by the many people out there actively living an anal only lifestyle. Now, that doesn’t mean that it’s necessarily for everyone, and that’s totally fine! But there are those of us out there who love it enough to make it work. Sure, it might sometimes be challenging in somewhat different ways compared to other forms of sex, but it can absolutely be worth it, and in general there’s less of an impact to sexual spontaneity than one might suspect.

I totally understand if it might be a fantasy for some people that they aren’t interested in making a reality, but to generalize and say that being anal only works better on paper than in practice isn’t really correct for everyone.

Furthermore, there are a lot of anal only enthusiasts out there who have no interest in vaginal sex. We would be disappointed by pussy, not out of any fault of your own or in a way that should be interpreted as critical of your pussy, but by the simple fact that we aren’t attracted to pussy or interested in fucking it and do find it a disappointment in comparison to anal. Again, not trying to suggest that your opinion is personally invalid, just that it doesn’t apply to everyone, particularly those who are anal only enthusiasts.

What’s next for the Anal Only Lifestyle in 2018?

Happy new year to everyone in the anal only community!

A new year is an excellent time for reflection, reprioritization, and making & adjusting plans for the future, and in the past few days I’ve been thinking about where the anal only lifestyle community should go from here to best benefit everyone and grow the lifestyle further.

Here are some of my ideas that I’ll be working on and implementing in the near future. There are other plans in the works as well that I won’t be mentioning just yet, but stay tuned. I also am always open to feedback, critique and suggestions.

In the early days of the Anal Only Lifestyle blog, I often wrote more original articles on the subject of anal sex and anal only. This is something I intend to start doing again to provide an ongoing flow of deeper reading and discussion on the subject, and to have resources for those interested to refer to. Some of you have already sent in suggestions for topics, but I welcome more ideas at any time.

More anal only challenges have been requested. Traditionally, we’ve had Anal Only August and No Pussy November each year. The problem is, these are rather close together and somewhat redundant as a result. Going forward, I’m going to promote Anal Only April instead of August, to space things out and balance with No Pussy November later in the year. Those two events will be the primary general AO months to encourage people new to the anal only lifestyle to participate and try it for themselves. As always, people who are already AO can participate as well with more specific personal challenges. Beyond that, though, there will also be other occasional challenges that anyone can participate in, relating to but not necessarily always specific to anal only: clitoral denial, anal edging, long term butt plug wear, anal orgasm training, etc.

A Frequently Asked Questions page for anal sex and the anal only lifestyle has been often requested, and it’s time such a thing existed. Expect a separate announcement for this in the near future, with a page outlining the basics of how to enjoy anal sex properly, as well as the basics of anal only.

And finally, I have lots of ideas in the works for continuing to grow and expand the anal only community—the forum, the chat, and more. These are constantly evolving and growing, so please keep checking back in if it’s been a while!

Here’s to another great year!

Anal Only 2018 Resolutions

If you aren’t already living the anal only lifestyle, the new year is a perfect opportunity to take it out of the realm of fantasy and fully embrace it going forward. Make it your new year’s resolution for 2018 to give up vaginal sex and go anal only.

If you are already anal only, this can be a chance to reassess how anal only has been for you since you’ve started, whether you want to continue, and strengthen your commitment to it if you feel that it’s what you still want. It can also be an opportunity to mix things up a bit and explore more fun and related things—whether that be clitoral denial/anal only orgasms, ass to mouth, long term plug wearing, increased anal training, more frequent anal sex, or anything else you might think of.

If you’ve been anal only in the past but fell out of the habit and are finding yourself drawn to it again, take the new year as a sign that now’s the time to get back into the anal only lifestyle. Sometimes taking a break from it can be what it takes to make you realize that being anal only full time is what you really want and to dive back in stronger than ever.

Happy new year to everyone in (and interested in) the anal only community!

Message: Articles

Anonymous: You used to post a lot of articles, both your own and quotes and stuff from other articles you found and you would respond to, I liked that a lot. Maybe do some more of that again?

I had forgotten all about some of those!

I’d love to do more original writing/articles on various aspects of the anal only lifestyle. I made some noise about this earlier this year, asking for suggestions on topics, and received some good feedback but didn’t follow through. I’d like to correct that (and I also welcome even more suggestions on topics people would like to see covered) going forward.

I’m also open to doing some more quoting of and responding to articles/stories/online commentary about anal/anal only, but I haven’t seen as much discussion to comment on of late. Google’s search quality for anal topics and sexual topics in general has really gone downhill, and content that still exists online often can’t be found through Google anymore.