Message: Thoughts on the Lifestyle

@alwaysanalblog sent some insightful comments, which I’ll respond to inline below. Thanks for the message!

I’ve noticed a few things that look like common themes and patterns having followed your blog, and what I’ve read elsewhere. I’m wondering if you’ve agree with any of my observations. Now I know most of it is unscientific as it’s not easy getting hard data. That being said here we go:

A massive uptake of interest in the lifestyle in the last couple of years. It’s no longer limited to the more remote corners of the internet. Sure it’s still not common, but its growing and what’s more people are accepting of the idea even if they believe it isn’t for them.

Absolutely, this has been very noticeable. It’s gone from only being discussed in one or two places online 6+ years ago or as part of certain other niche fetishes, to being widely discussed and people openly talking about how much they love or prefer anal sex or only do anal. As you say, it’s not a majority by any means at this point, but interest has skyrocketed and the concept is  much more widely known by people, with more discovering it regularly. The communities have grown, the number of blogs talking about it have increased, and new people interested in it and openly practicing it seem to constantly show up.

Men are more likely to be more binary with their interest. They either love anal or they don’t. Women are more undecided, yet more curious and more open minded.

I think everyone can be curious and open to it, and there are a lot of factors that go into it beyond gender. Some think at first that they’d be against the idea and don’t want to be “limited” or are afraid they’d miss pussy too much, until they actually try it and find that they don’t find it limiting and don’t miss it at all, because anal really is that much better and they’re totally happen doing it all the time. Some are just unwilling to try. Some try but struggle with it. Some are naturals and immediately get converted to the idea. I don’t find a consistent trend that shows anything beyond the fact that women are traditionally more submissive-minded and will do things their partner wants because they enjoy pleasing their partner, while men are traditionally more dominant-minded and might resist something that goes against their idea of what sex should be if anal only isn’t already appealing to them. But that’s a stereotype, and the reality isn’t that for everyone.

On average women who are a little bit older (say 30+) are more open minded than younger women. That’s counter intuitive as we think of teens and twenties as when people are most willing to experiment.

Women in their 30s and older have typically been more open minded sexually in general. That’s not changing, but we’re at an interesting sort of crossroads where we’ve got the traditional scenario where women in their 30s are wanting to try new things sexually and anal sex and going anal only is a great way to explore that but we also have anal hitting the mainstream hard and young women often starting out earlier with anal or even doing it before they try vaginal, so both are combining into a much bigger increase of anal adoption across a wide range of ages.

Popular and medical opinion has shifted – even only 10 years ago the consensus was that anal sex was bad. Now virtually nobody is saying that and some are even pointing out the advantages and benefits.

For sure, the internet and better resources, education and discussion about it in general have led to most of the old myths about anal sex and how “bad” and “dangerous” and “painful” it is fading away. They still persist somewhat, but far more people are aware of the reality now, and scientific and medical discussion on the topic also has shifted to the fact that, as with most things, if you do it safely and with care, listening to your body, it’s not at all harmful to regularly engage in anal sex and play, and there can in fact be a lot of benefits to doing so.

We are in the middle of a cultural shift that happens every few generations. We’ve been here before as things tend to be cyclical. Even publications and articles aimed at the female audience now talk of anal as being just as valid and as pleasurable alternative to vaginal, or more so.

This definitely seems to be the case. We’re undergoing a normalization and popular adoption of anal sex as an equal sex act to anal and oral. We went through the same process with oral sex several decades ago, and anal is on the fast track to the same sort of acceptance. Once it’s widely accepted that anal is just as normal and legitimate an option as vaginal as a form of intercourse, choosing between being vaginal only, anal only, or someone who practices anal and vaginal equally will come down to nothing more than preference, as it should be. And because anal is a lot more pleasurable than vaginal for most people, it’s likely that anal only will become dominant in time.

Do you agree or disagree on any of this? I’d love to hear your thoughts. I really like the content you have here, but sometimes feel our community misses the opportunity to talk about whats going on in the wider cultural context.

Definitely agree with most of what you said, and thank you for this submission—I agree it’s great to discuss this sort of thing as well, and I’d like to see more of it!

Keep up the good work my friend!

Keep up the good discussion and topics!

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