Anonymous: I just wanted to tell u that you seem to be the “big daddy” of the whole anal/anal only tumblr community. You always seem to have an answer to all questions we got that relate to the topic of anal sex. I’m thankful for the existence of u and ur blog.

Thank you very much for your kind words. I started this blog, and its related blogs, because they filled an absence in other tumblr blogs at the time. There were certainly other anal porn blogs out there, but not really any that were anal only, and none that were anal only and talked about the concept. (There was at least one non-Tumblr anal only blog at the time.) That was the start, and as it took off it started to also become a place for other people who shared my preference to talk about it in a place where they wouldn’t be judged for preferring anal (and a place where people who don’t like anal can also talk about it without being judged), and I’m so happy to have helped provide that, as well as a resource for people to learn to better enjoy anal sex.

Anonymous: Hi, just wanted to thank you. Your blog inspired me to try anal, and after a few weeks of me fingering my asshole to your blog my boyfriend bought me a plug. After another week of stretching my ass we tried anal for the first time last night. By far the best sex I’ve ever had and it never would have happened without you, so thank you (from me and him)! I’m looking forward to hopefully having a wonderful anal-only future!

Congratulations to you both and I’m glad to have been an inspiration for such an enjoyable experience for the both of you! Good luck and keep enjoying it!

Anonymous: I’m I huge fan of you and your blog :)) I admire the determination and the honestly you show in every hate message you receive from the crowd! I respect that :)) me and my GF do ENJOY anal sex (and vaginal too, sorry XD, I know you are tolerant) I just want to encourage you to keep going and if some folks try to discourage you than tell them to go fuck some butt hole before talking about it 🙂 I mean if they did they will send you flowers instead of hate messages 🙂 so keep up with ANAL! Cheers.

Honestly, hate messages are exceedingly uncommon. Most people who contact me either enjoy anal or recognize that others do even if they don’t personally, and don’t act like trolls about it. Both recent angry messages undoubtedly came from the same source, and they don’t seem to be interested in further communication.

Anonymous: Um, no. You’re not promoting safe and fun anal sex for both male and female to enjoy. You are promoting EXCLUSIVE anal sex by using disinformation and manipulation. Your sister blog shows pics of girls looking like they’re in extasy. But people always forget: These are porn ACTRESSES. This isn’t real life. You’re manipulating people into thinking that it’s normal. It isn’t and it shouldn’t be. Or why else does anal need practice, proper preparation and so on? Get real.

I’m doing both. I frequently get asked about and discuss anal sex in general and offer advice on how to best enjoy it. And yes, I do promote exclusive anal sex—for people who are interested in trying it. Clearly it doesn’t interest you, which is totally fine, but I’m not sure why you feel the need to suggest it can’t interest anyone else either or that if it does, they’ve been manipulated into liking it by me. I certainly don’t have that sort of power or influence—I talk about what I like, and share what I find that other people have said on the subject. It seems that quite a few other people like it as well.

My porn blog is just that: porn. It does promote anal sex and anal only with porn captions using porn as illustration, and yes, they are actresses, and yes some of the content in that blog leans more to the fantasy side of things and will not appeal to everyone in reality even if they get off to the fantasy. I have in fact mentioned this myself a number of times, suggesting that people who find the fantasy appealing and would like to learn more about it in a real world context go to other sources like this blog where it is grounded in reality without the fantasy components.

That said, just because they’re porn actors doesn’t mean “real” women do not enjoy anal sex. I don’t care what assertions you may make to the contrary—I know for a fact that many women absolutely do enjoy it. Not all do—which is totally normal, because there are few (if any) sex acts everyone enjoys.

It seems that you’re suggesting anal sex is an illegitimate form of sex because enjoyment of it requires preparation and practice for many people. First, understand that the gradual process I encourage for people trying anal for the first time may be overkill for many but is encouraged to guarantee the most enjoyment for the most people, since everyone is a bit different and some can have a harder time than others, and I’d like everyone interested in anal to have the best experience they can rather than the unfortunate experience many have with a partner who rushes in and causes them pain. There are some who are able to jump straight into various levels of anal play with little difficulty and others who need to work up to it. This can be true for vaginal sex as well. Mastering most sex acts is a process and you need to practice to best enjoy it. Anal warmup before each session is essentially little different from other forms of foreplay, just specialized for anal sex. Foreplay is essential for most people for vaginal sex as well in order for them to most enjoy it. Also, there are women who experience pain and discomfort from vaginal sex no matter what, but not from anal. How do such women fit into your view that anal cannot be normal?

Second, it seems somewhat absurd to suggest that because something might involve a process to master, it therefore isn’t and shouldn’t be considered “normal”. There are all sorts of non-sexual activities that require great effort to master and which don’t come naturally to any people—should no one try to become experts at those things either because it isn’t normal to be able to run a marathon, climb a mountain, or any other great physical feat?

The bottom line is that yes, sometimes my porn blog uses hyperbole about anal only and suggesting it’s the only natural way to have sex, but understand that to people who really prefer anal and do not get satisfaction and enjoyment from vaginal, that’s how it feels. Now, in reality, of course vaginal sex is a natural form of sex and it’s how we reproduce and there’s nothing at all wrong with vaginal sex for any reason—pleasure or reproduction—if that’s what you enjoy and desire. But anal sex is a perfectly valid form of sex as well, with great pleasure potential for all partners involved.

I don’t expect I’ll change your mind, as you seem to be pretty set in the mindset that anal sex is wrong and that going anal only, even for people who already enjoy anal and have decided on their own they want to try it exclusively, should not be encouraged. Is it too much to ask that you at least understand not everyone shares your opinion and that many men and women do in fact like and *gasp* even prefer anal?

The original version of this post on Tumblr got the following responses from blog followers:

mastermadmike: I’ve been in anal only relationships with women in which there were times we had sex 3 or more times in one night and at least once daily. I introduced her to it and she loved it after the first time. After about a month she said it felt better in the ass and requested anal only.

slutprogrammer: My friend with benefits just proved this anonymous moron wrong again. She literally lubed me with her pussy because it got me into her ass quicker than finding the lube. I remarked that her pussy had apparently been demoted to lube dispenser, and she laughed & agreed that it had. The orgasms prompted her to remark that if she’d known about anal sex 20 years ago she never would have felt the need to smoke weed.

femmefatale4ever: I find this completely to be a misguided opinion that you have dreamed up. I can and do orgasm from anal penetration, and I 9 out of 10 times prefer it. I suppose women can’t enjoy giving blow job, either? Like where did you come up with this? I’m going to assume, since you like to also assume, that you probably at some point had a bad experience. Guess what, different people like different things. No one is telling ANYONE what to do. This is simply an site for people to come together to talk about a singular passion that they enjoy CONSENSUALLY with their partners.

Anonymous: Hello! I’ve been following this page for a while, and I’ve been wondering, do you have something against vaginal sex? In some gif comments it seems that that kind of sex is being panned. Don’t get me wrong, I love anal sex, and when I marry I want to do it always with my future wife, but I’m just curious

analsexonly: This blog is called “Anal Sex Only”, and is advocating fully replacing vaginal sex with anal, so yes, vaginal sex is generally panned in content here. This is a porn blog, however, so there is always a certain level of fantasy mixed in. I do encourage people who love anal to try being anal only for at least a while and see what they think about it themselves. Some people end up loving it and stay that way, some decide it’s not for them, and others may go back and forth a bit. But there are a lot of people who love the fantasy of going anal only, even if they don’t necessarily do so in reality. This blog is intended for everyone with interest in the idea (or just people who like anal), whether they just get off to it or have strictly decided to never have vaginal sex again. As such, there’s a wide spectrum of anal only related themes, some more hard-lined than others.

As for whether I personally have something against vaginal sex—kind of, and kind of not. I don’t judge or look down on anyone who enjoys vaginal sex and wants to keep having it, either along with anal or in exclusivity. Everyone should do what they enjoy and what works for them. But I don’t like vaginal intercourse myself—physically I enjoy it a lot less, and I find it a lot less satisfying than anal. It’s certainly not a bad thing, I just find anal so much more enjoyable and satisfying that I personally prefer to avoid engaging in vaginal when anal is a better option.

For a less fantasy-based discussion about the idea of going anal only, see the Anal Only Lifestyle blog and forum.

Anonymous: I know you won’t publish this, because this is the internet and it’s full of cowards. But here’s the thing: Disinformation. That’s what you’re doing and you should feel ashamed about it. You are misleading men and manipulating women. Some poor and confused women might actually believe that they could benefit or even orgasm from anal penetration. But in the end it’s just a lie you tell people to feed your own twisted perversions. And you know it. Stop it. Right. Now.

Ah, good, it’s been a while since I got one of these. Speaking of cowards, nicely done with the anonymous accusation.

There is zero misleading or manipulating. Does everyone love anal? No—not all women or men do. But there are many women who do, and a decent-sized subset of those who prefer it. Is this really so surprising? What makes you so sure that it can’t be true?

I’m clear and open about my agenda of encouraging everyone to try anal sex in a manner that makes it likely to be enjoyable for everyone, and for people who enjoy anal sex to experiment with being anal only. What’s your agenda? How about you come off anon and have an actual dialogue about this rather than throwing around accusations?

The original version of this post on Tumblr got the following responses from blog followers:

beekahsweet: I’ve always liked anal, and now, with just 4 weeks of some dedicated plugging and training, anal has been easier than ever and I crave it multiple times a day.

ihavebeenexceptionallynaughty: I can sometimes come from anal sex and only anal sex and I most definitely have lady parts and identify as full-on lady. So yeah, it’s real.

rostarocks: I love anal and cum way more and harder this way… and squirt uncontrollably! so that person is way mis informed. I’m not anal only but it is my preference!

kloudkush: Anal orgasms > pussy orgasms

calyopekicksass: Fucking LOL, what is wrong with people?

“I have a personal vendetta against anal penetration and instead of being mature and realizing that everyone’s sexual preferences are different, I’m going to demonize an entire sex act! I am right! You are wrong!”

Go take a closet of gross old man dicks up your butt.

currently-unsupervised: I’m really impressed with your reply to the vaginal abandonment anon. I first read her ask and thought, “Damn that’s hot” but you’re right, it’s a huge step. I think it’s awesome that you warned her to be careful instead of egging her on.

I think that orgasm denial and/or clitoral abandonment can be very fun things for people who approach them in a fully consensual manner and want them for themselves, but you’ve got to make sure it’s really what you want, and I don’t think it’s ever good to dive straight into something like that without easing into it through a trial period or ten.

Anonymous: Why do you care so much about advocating for anal?

Because I like it and I want to help suppress the many myths out there about it so that other people can try it using proper techniques and enjoy it themselves as well.

outlaw-pete1966: I’m sure that ANAL ONLY means ANAL and oral (or any other kind of stimulation) EXCEPT vaginal … or am I missing something here ?

Absolutely correct. “Anal only” already existed as somewhat-used term before this blog was created, so it’s what I went with, but it really refers to the exclusion of vaginal sex rather than the total exclusivity of anal.

yesfortheloveofbdsm: I’ve always preferred blowjobs to vaginal sex because I just never felt the vaginas I’ve penetrated were tight enough for as much enjoyment as I would like so being a Master I have relied on masturbation & receiving blowjobs as the primary form of pleasure & never thought of anal because it just didn’t seem exciting but this blog has inspired me to try anal. I’ve never done it before but from what I see & read here and elsewhere it’s tighter than vaginal so I think I’ll like it. Thanks so much!

Definitely try anal. Many people who don’t enjoy vaginal or can’t get off from it have found anal to be much more satisfying for their needs.