Tim: Hey, love the blog. I’ve been anal only for about a year now — I don’t masturbate any other way, I only play with my ass, and I’ve completely lost interest in using my cock for anything other than sex with my girlfriend. The problem is, she’s not anal only. She loves to play with my ass, and she enjoys getting anal herself and does it with me when I ask, but she still mostly wants vaginal sex and doesn’t seem interested in giving it up.

I don’t want to pressure her, but I also can’t stop thinking about how much better things would be if we were both anal only. The sex, the mindset, the clarity — it all feels lopsided right now. I love her, but I would love us both to be totally anal only and stop using her pussy.

Is it selfish to want her to go anal only too? Should I just accept this difference, or is it okay to expect more?

It’s not selfish to want your partner to share your values — especially when those values are shaping your identity, your arousal, and your sexuality. Anal only isn’t just a preference, it’s a lifestyle. A discipline. A mindset. A commitment. So it makes perfect sense that you’d want your girlfriend to embrace that with you.

Unfortunately, for many women vaginal is still the default — not because it’s better, but because it’s familiar, expected, and what society says is normal. Even though she embraces anal only for you, she may not fully understand what anal only could mean for herself yet.

The best thing you can do is stay grounded in your choice and be honest with her. Let her know this isn’t about control — it’s about alignment. That you’ve found something that brings you pleasure and satisfaction, and that you want to share that with her fully, not just occasionally. Frame it as a higher standard for the relationship, not a rejection of her.

If she’s interested, encourage her to try a week or month of anal only together and see what it’s really like to move past her pussy and focus just on anal pleasure for the both of you. If you make it through a month, chances are she’ll want to stay anal only going forward!

VickyAO: Hi, this might be a strange one, but I’ve been anal only for over many years now. I stopped using my vagina for anything, no penetration, no touching, not even during masturbation. I’ve noticed something interesting: I literally don’t feel anything anymore when I try to think about vaginal stimulation. Like, it’s just… nothing. No arousal, no mental association, no sensation. It feels like that part of me shut down.

I don’t miss it. I love how focused I am on my ass now. I can have intense, long-lasting anal orgasms without any clitoral or vaginal stimulation at all. It’s better than anything I ever had before.

But can a woman actually lose the ability to get arousal and orgasm from her vagina if she’s anal only long enough? Like, can the body unlearn that kind of arousal permanently? And if so, is that a bad thing? Or is it just the natural outcome of going fully anal only and never going back?

Thanks, just curious how far this can go.

Obviously this varies from woman to woman, but it’s absolutely something a lot of anal only women start to notice after a while. Vaginal arousal just starts to go away, and the vagina starts to become dry and inactive, no longer responding to being turned on or getting stimulated anally. You feel desire in your asshole instead, and it starts to relax and open up or even in some cases start to lubricate itself when you’re turned on.

It’s not a bad thing, it’s a natural progression and your body’s embrace of being anal only. You don’t need your vagina anymore, and it’s deactivating. Enjoy it!

Kayla: Hi, I’m 19 and just got into my first real relationship with a guy who really wants to have sex. I’ve never been on birth control, and my sisters have had bad luck with hormonal interactions, but I don’t want to get pregnant. My boyfriend suggested we have anal sex instead, and I found this blog about only having anal sex. Can I just go anal only as a way to not get pregnant? Is that actually safe? Is there anything else I need to know?

Yes, going anal only is absolutely a valid and effective way to avoid pregnancy. There’s no risk of pregnancy from anal sex itself, as long as semen doesn’t come into contact with your vagina — including indirectly from hands, toys, or accidental slipping. Many women choose anal only as their exclusive form of sex for exactly this reason, especially when they want to avoid hormonal birth control. It’s an ideal natural form of birth control!

It’s important to be clear with your partner about boundaries, and to use condoms or get tested to avoid risk of STIs, especially in a new relationship. If you stay anal only and keep your limits firm, it can be a safe and empowering way to have sex without risking pregnancy. You’re not alone in this choice — a lot of women find that it’s not just a workaround, but going anal only is something that they genuinely prefer.

2InA: My girlfriend and I haven’t ever had vaginal sex, we started with anal when we got together and just went with it. We got into anal porn together early on, especially double anal. She started talking during sex about how good it would feel to be stretched by two cocks. She’d say things like “I wish there was another cock my ass right now too”. We started experimenting with toys: me pushing a dildo into her ass while fucking her, moving both together or alternating. The more we did it, the more it became part of our regular sex life.

About six months ago, we invited our roommate to join us for double anal. He’s someone we’re good friends with, trust, and who also loves anal and DAP from our conversations and when he’s seen us watching porn on occasion. It was supposed to be a one-time experience at first, but it felt so good. Since then, he’s been joining us for double anal a couple times a week. My girlfriend has taken to it in a way I didn’t expect, while it feels great for me, she goes wild with it and cums harder than she ever has before. Both our cocks in her ass gives her something that single anal just doesn’t.

Today she told me she wants to go double anal only. No more single anal, no more just me inside her. She says it’s not about me — that she still loves me, still craves me — but that her body and mind feel more complete, more satisfied, more truly taken when she’s being fully stretched by both of us. She wants the three of us to be in a relationship together and to only do DAP.

I’m not insecure about sharing her. We’ve already done that. But I do feel kind of weird about the idea of never again having her ass to myself. No moments where it’s just me inside her, just the two of us, just that simple connection. Do you have any suggestions? I know you’re going to push us to go double anal only since that’s a big part of your blog, but how can I wrap my head around it better?

You’re right — I am going to encourage you to go double anal only. Not because it’s a rule, or because it’s what I prefer. It’s clearly where your relationship is already heading, and your girlfriend isn’t just craving DAP as a novelty. She’s thriving on it. Her body, her orgasms, and her words are all telling you exactly what she needs. You’re not losing something. You’re seeing the next evolution of what you already started together.

It’s normal to feel something about the idea of never having her ass only to yourself again. That’s not weakness, it’s just adjustment. But think about where you’re actually at: you built your relationship and sex life on anal only. Double anal isn’t a threat to your connection — it’s a deepening of it. You’re not being replaced. You’re part of what makes her feel even more complete.

Try reframing it like this: when you were the only cock in her ass, you gave her everything she could handle at the time. Now that she’s ready for more, she’s inviting you to be part of that with her. Don’t step back, step in. The relationship doesn’t shrink when another cock joins yours in her ass, it expands. The trust gets stronger. The bond gets tighter.

If you still want moments of one-on-one time, you can do so through oral sex, or perhaps still having some cock + dildo sessions or even working her up to taking your cock and fist at the same time if your roommate isn’t available to join in.

This isn’t about replacing connection — it’s about completing it. Together in her ass, always. Always full. Always shared. That’s what anal only becomes at its peak — and you’re already there.

Amy: Hi, I’ve been anal only for the past year and a half, and at first my boyfriend was really into it. We had amazing sex, I was stretching regularly, and we even do double anal using toys. He said it was the hottest sex we’d ever had.

But lately, he’s been asking if we can “mix it up” and have vaginal sex again. I told him that I’m committed to anal only, that I don’t get anything out of vaginal sex anymore, and that I don’t want to go backward. He said he understood, but I can tell he’s disappointed, and it’s starting to make me feel guilty. Should I give in once in a while just to make him happy? I really don’t want to.

It can be normal for some people to want what they don’t have and if he feels like vaginal is off the table he may be feeling the desire for it again to either “establish dominance”, even subconsciously, or to just try it again. I’m of mixed feelings about the best response here—it’s clear that you don’t want vaginal, and that’s completely reasonable. Sometimes, though, it can be valuable for people in that state of craving to try vaginal again only to discover how truly inferior it is to anal, and it strengthens their resolve to stay anal only going forward. It gets rid of the fantasy through cold, hard reality: vaginal just isn’t that good.

I would suggest talking with him about other ways you could compromise. Are there other fantasies he might want to explore instead? Tell him you want to keep your vagina unused going forward but you’re open to trying other things with him that he’d like. Does he want to do double anal more often? Would he like to start sharing your ass with a friend for some real DAP? Ass to mouth? Piss play? Physical chastity for you? There are all sorts of things to explore without using your pussy at all. Vaginal sex will just hold the two of you back.

Anal Obsessed: I saw your post about Vicky Sol, and I think it’s great that you promote more anal only content here, you should feature other stars, maybe double anal only stars next too.

On the note of promoting anal only porn—I’d be curious if anyone can recommend any audio or literary porn that promotes anal only, double anal or clit denial, or even anal only hypno videos, I’d be very interested!

Lastly can I just say I appreciate the more frequent updates here! Keep up the amazing work, I love reading your site while stretching my ass and ignoring my clit.

Thank you, I’m glad that you enjoyed it. I would love to feature more anal only/double anal only stars but I’m not familiar with many who are strictly AO/DAO.

We do have an Anal Only Porn Stars post that stays semi-updated, and also a list of Anal Only Stories.

I hope that you continue to ignore your cunt and clit permanently.

Felicja: I’ve been following this blog for a while now, and I noticed that the old posts weren’t as anti-vaginal as new ones. I mean you used to allow clitoral or vaginal use, but now you are in favor of ignoring the vagina completely. Even remaining a vaginal virgin for life and getting pregnant without using a vagina is promoted.

Where does this great change come from? What has made anti-pussy radicalism grow in strength? Is this the only way to completely denormalize the use of vaginas and clits among girls?

There’s still a very wide variety of ways people implement anal only in their own life, and whatever works for you is great. But, as the past decade of anal only enthusiasm and advocacy has evolved, more and more people do prefer stricter implementations of anal only: no vaginal penetration at all, and preferably no clit stimulation. And with that growing in popularity, there isn’t much reason to cater to the pussy. Why not strive for the ideal if possible?

I think as more people have tried anal only they’ve learned that pussy just holds them back and moving past it completely causes better pleasure, arousal and enthusiasm for greater anal joy.

Jessica: I’m a 23-year-old woman and about two months ago I discovered a passion for anal with my current boyfriend. I’m even considering going anal only, as it seems to be a normal choice for some couples. While exploring, I’ve noticed a lot of content related to double anal penetration on this site and across the internet, and honestly, I feel a bit overwhelmed by how much double anal content there is. I’m also worried that there could be a lot of fake or exaggerated information out there. I’m curious—are there really women who engage in double anal outside of porn actresses?

Are there any real-life stories, communities, or links that document or discuss real women’s genuine experiences with double anal? I’d love to hear from people who have done this or know more about it.

Thank you for your message — it’s awesome to hear that you’re discovering a passion for anal and even considering going anal only. That’s a huge and positive step toward building a more focused and satisfying sex life.

It’s understandable that the amount of double anal content can be a bit overwhelming! Double anal is definitely growing in popularity and having quite a moment right now, with a lot of interest both in and out of porn. While no one can really tell what content is real vs. fantasy, I can tell you: yes, absolutely, real women outside of porn engage in double anal, and it’s growing in popularity rapidly. It’s not just a performance for cameras, it’s something more and more women choose for themselves — because it feels good, because it pushes their bodies to new levels of pleasure, and because it deepens trust and connection with their partners.

Here on the blog and in the greater anal only lifestyle community, there are plenty of real-life stories. Many women who start out as anal only eventually develop a natural craving for more fullness, and double anal becomes the next evolution. It’s often a gradual process — starting with toys, stretching, double penetration with dildos, and eventually moving toward two cocks if and when it feels right.

It’s not something you need to rush, and may not even have interest in—it’s not a requirement. It’s something that some women grow into when their body and mind are ready. And for many, once they experience it, it feels not extreme, but natural — like the way anal was always meant to be.

But keep enjoying the anal joy and pleasure and if you have any questions about going anal only, please reach out!

Anal Only Lesbian: DAP is my biggest fantasy, I’m anal only in relationship with another woman and we both only use our ass. It’s always been a kink of mine but I never said it, as I was a bit shameful. Now though, it feels like double anal is everywhere! I feel like the world is telling me to do it as I see it everywhere in porn and on Reddit.

I’m still not sure how to do it in practice though. I have a number of toys and am planning on getting a chute butt plug soon which allows for anal with the plug left inserted. I think this is a good start and I’m training with my largest existing plug until then.

I’m curious how to broach the topic of “real” DAP with my girlfriend as I’m worried she’ll be insulted that her lesbian girlfriend needs not one but two real cocks in my ass. She’s less extreme than me sexually and I don’t think she thinks about double anal even with toys or anything. She doesn’t watch or read any porn so I don’t think she’s been very exposed to DAP.

How can I discuss this with my girlfriend gently so I don’t scare her off? Also any suggestions or anything for getting more into DAP, I’m all ears.

Thank you for reaching out — it’s always encouraging to hear from women who are living a committed anal only lifestyle and still pushing themselves forward. Double anal really is the natural next step. It’s not just a kink — it’s the true expression of the anal only mindset: one hole, stretched and shared, fully opened and fully claimed. And you’re absolutely right — DAP is having a moment. It’s more visible than ever because more women are realizing it’s not just for porn — it’s for them.

As for how to move toward real double anal, you’re already on the right path. Training with large plugs and investing in toys like the chute-style plug are all smart steps, and as you open up, start using two dildos side by side. The more consistent your practice, the more ready your body will be when the opportunity comes. If you haven’t yet, take a look at our Guide to Double Anal Sex — it breaks down the process in more detail.

Now about your girlfriend — your instincts are right to approach it with care, but you also shouldn’t hide your desire or feel ashamed for wanting more. Let her know you’ve been fantasizing about double anal for a long time and it’s a craving that’s growing. Frame it as something you want her to be part of, even if it’s just with toys at first. Let her see how much pleasure and intensity it gives you — how much your body responds.

If you already use strapons together, you could ask her to fuck your ass while you ride a second dildo. Or invite her to be in full control — one dildo in her hand, one you’re riding — both in your ass at the same time. Let her see it, feel it, claim it. That shared experience may help open up her own interest in stretching further, or at least in supporting you in it.

If the fantasy involves real men, that’s something you’d want to approach separately, and only if the relationship is ready for that kind of shift. But it doesn’t have to be about other men. You already live a fully anal only life with your girlfriend, and you can absolutely enjoy double anal together as well. She may not be ready to receive DAP herself, but you are, and hopefully she wants to help you get there.

The most important thing is that you stay open, true to yourself, and proud of what your body is craving. DAP isn’t just a fantasy — it’s a calling for many anal only women. And you’re ready.

Peter: I’ve been married for 10 years, have a 7-year-old kid, and honestly, we’re happy with just the one—no plans for more. My wife is a stay-at-home mom, and she’s amazing. Our home life is solid, everything’s on point, and we’re having sex at least twice a week. So far, so good.

Here’s the thing: since she decided no more kids, she’s gotten really into anal. Like, she wants it only anal now. And honestly, she’s killing it—always trying to get better and pushing boundaries. For over a year, she’s been stepping up the game, going into double anal penetration with toys. She’s super proud of her progress, and honestly, so am I!

Now, here’s the key part: she’s let slip a couple of times on different occasions—usually when she’s a bit tipsy—that she’d love to try real-life double anal. That’s a pretty big deal for her. But the next day, once sober, she acts like she never said it and swears she’d never do that to me. She comes from a pretty religious family, so maybe that’s why she’s holding back or feeling conflicted.

So here’s where I’m stuck: she’s amazing to me and our kid, and I want to make her happy. Is it okay if I push to make this happen? Am I okay for wanting to fulfill her secret desires, even if she’s a little hesitant or unsure? Or am I reading too much into it?

So, am I okay? Am I okay that I am ready to let my wife have this experience not just with me, but with another man, to fulfill her fantasy and make her happy? Is it normal to want to help your wife live out her secret fantasies, even if she’s a bit scared or unsure? Is this a normal evolution for my wife?

Any advice? I’m all ears. Thanks!

It sounds like you two have a wonderful anal only life together and it’s wonderful that she wants to push it further. The fact that you already do double anal with toys is a clear indication that this is something she truly craves and wants, and since DAP with two men is even better than with just you and a toy, it makes sense she wants to feel that experience fully. Real double anal with two men is more than just a physical upgrade from a toy. It’s an emotional and sexual evolution — full commitment to anal only, total focus on her ass from two men, and the intensity of being claimed and shared anally. Many women who practice double anal with toys feel the need to be taken in full by two men — it becomes the next logical step. It’s not strange at all — it means she’s ready.

Instead of just bringing up her past comments, frame it around how much you love doing double anal with her already — and that you’d love to experience it for real with another man beside you. Let her know this isn’t just about her fantasy. It’s something you want too. That creates space for her to open up — no pressure, no guilt — just shared excitement and celebration. She’ll feel safe to say yes if she knows you’re already saying it first.

And who knows — maybe in time, she’ll be ready to go double anal only. It wouldn’t be a surprise. It would just be the next step.