Anonymous: I love how every time I plug my ass I can feel my pussy soaking wet which gets me even hornier

Isn’t it great? Nothing makes a woman’s pussy wet like anal does.

feral-baby: We had an unintentional no-play day yesterday (thanks allergy meds) but we’re right back on schedule today. He made me put my plug in before we went to the store for dinner. When we got home I couldn’t stop looking at anal porn because I’m obviously a glutton for punishment. He let me take the plug out but he immediately replaced it with his dick and it slid right in. Which is good because he told me beforehand that I’m not allowed to touch my clit anymore to relax. My favorite part about all of this is how no load is wasted. I love feeling him twitch in my ass when he fills me with cum ?

Anonymous: Hello!! I’m an anal virgin and my bf loves anal. He’s planning to come over and I wanna be ready. What are some ways I can do some anal training so it won’t hurt as much?

Using a lubricated finger, massage around the outside of your anus, then slip a finger inside gently as you feel yourself relax, and continue adding fingers as you feel comfortable. Once you have several fingers inside, you can also try spreading them while inside your ass to help stretch/relax further before the next finger.

Beyond using fingers, butt plugs and dildos are very helpful for anal training. Take your time, stop/pause/back off if something hurts, and try combining it with clitoral stimulation at least at first if it’s uncomfortable or feels weird.

feral-baby: We’ve finally decided I’m going to be anal only. For now, the only time my clit is allowed to be touched is when he’s helping me relax while getting his dick in my ass. As soon as I’m a little more loose there will be absolutely no touching my clit or my pussy. But that shouldn’t take long since I’ll be wearing my plug a lot more often and working up to wearing it full time and possibly even sizing up. This also means the only way I can orgasm is through anal. But I’m sure he’ll toy with me and refuse to let me come if I’m about to.

He’ll be leaving soon for 2 weeks and I have a feeling he’s going to plan something extra mean. I’m really looking forward to it.

Anonymous: I lost my anal virginity first and I regret ever straying. But after quite a few years mistakenly having vaginal sex, my husband has decided I’ll be strictly anal from now on. I couldn’t be more excited. But I’m really nervous I’ll become weak and touch my clit. He tends to go away for work once in awhile and we can’t afford a chastity belt. Would you happen to have any suggestions for ways he can ensure I won’t touch even while he’s gone? Your blog is very inspirational btw 🙂

I think a healthy approach is to recognize that habits can be hard to break and people slip up from time to time, and that’s a normal part of the process of reaching your goals and changing your habits. Do your best, recognize if you’re slipping towards an old habit. If you catch yourself partway through touching your clit, stop yourself. If you do end up touching your clit or using it to orgasm, own up to it, think about whether it was worth it, and dive back in to not using it going forward, trying to last longer without it the next time. If you and your husband have the sort of dynamic this would be appropriate for, you can come up with punishments that you feel are appropriate for touching your clit.

That said, there are things you can do to help. Focus on anal stimulation instead. Wear a butt plug often, use your fingers and a dildo to masturbate anally, and any time you feel the urge to touch your clit, play with your ass instead. If you get that urge while playing with your ass, play harder. Fuck a toy deeper or go to a bigger size, etc., and use it to motivate you to chase anal pleasure instead.

You can also experiment with numbing cream/gel like Orajel if you really find it hard to resist. A small amount applied to your clit will numb it for an hour or so.

Congratulations on getting back into the anal only lifestyle, it sounds like it’s exactly the right thing for the both of you!

The original poster responded:

Thank you for replying! He got a really evil smirk on his face after reading the orajel suggestion haha

Anonymous: How do you get a metal plug with a round jeweled base to be comfortable? Just lots of practice? The plug itself feels great but the base really hurts my skin.

Those plugs, while great for shorter term use, aren’t as ideal for longer term wear because the wide, round base with an often sharper edge can dig into your skin and start to become uncomfortable or hurt over time. I’d suggest looking for something with a T-shaped base that’s a bit more ergonomic to wear for longer periods of time and use the jeweled plugs when you want to dress up and use it as part of a sexy outfit or show off to a partner.

Everyone’s built a little differently, so finding a plug that’s perfect for you can take a little time sometimes, unfortunately.

Anonymous: There are so many of them, but If you could name them, which are the 5 best butt plugs to wear all day?

Different plug shapes and sizes are ideal for different people, and different people have different abilities and needs, so making a “5 best” list for plugs that applies to everyone isn’t really possible. People can’t even agree on the best material for long term wear! Some prefer steel, some glass, some silicone. Some want something small and comfortable, others want something that still pushes their limits and stretches/trains their ass somewhat while they wear it.

I would suggest looking at the steel Njoy Pure plugs, silicone Tantus Ryder and A-Bomb (for a larger option), silicone Implicit Creations Core Plug, and some of the smaller Egg Plugs from Square Peg Toys.

Anonymous: Hey I’m the anon with the couples question. I’ve seen this happen with guys who want their girls to try anal. My view is I wouldn’t ask anything of someone else that I wouldn’t do to myself. So I would say take the initiative and try a plug or something too. That way it’s not one sided. I’m still curious if anyone has any ideas as to how a straight couple could both do AO… Thanks 🙂

For some that’s a viable option, and if it interests a man to explore receiving anal play himself, then that’s fine and good, great even. But not everyone is interested, and there’s nothing wrong with that either. Sexual relationships don’t have to be completely balanced in that manner in every circumstance. A man can be a fantastic anal lover for his partner without needing to get fucked in the ass an equal amount.

babybat127: So I’m pretty new to anal in general, and my Dom wants to go anal only. We’ve tried denial before and I really liked that so we’re twisting the two together and not touching my pussy much if at all, and tart touching my clit. But like I said… I’m new to anal. I know to ease into it, but I can only wear my plug for an hour or two. How do I make it easier to last through the day with it?

Sounds like a lot of fun for the both of you, and I’m sure you’ll have a good time with it!

As far as anal training and becoming more comfortable with it, you have the general idea already of easing into things. Wear your plug as long as you comfortably can. When it gets uncomfortable, take it out. The next time you do it, see if you can go a little bit longer. Keep pushing your limits and you’ll be able to go longer bit by bit over time. You can also try wearing your plug overnight, which helps you go for longer periods but without consciously noticing it as much while you sleep, so it’s easier to stay plugged. Depending on the sort of discomfort you’re experiencing when you have to take it out, it’s possible you just need to add more lube and reinsert. You can try that too, and see if it goes back to being comfortable after a few minutes removed and new lube added.

Good luck, have fun, and feel free to ask more questions if and when you have any!

Anonymous: My girl and I decided to try anal only April. She wasn’t sure at first but we’re only a week in and she’s already wearing a plug to work sometimes. I don’t think we’ll ever go back.

That’s great! If you’re both already this into it and don’t think you’ll go back, it just keeps getting better, so you’re probably really going to love it by the end of the month.