I guess Ive played in back for a long time by myself, and have a couple guy friends (kinda like boy friends i guess!) and we only play that way together… solves the pregnancy issue too (with a little care, I know). And it feels hotter to be naughty anyway! Since it doesnt matter to me Id rather be loved backwards until I get married and am trying to have kids (since there’s kinda no other way to do it hehe).

That will be special too, but only because its for having babies, very different from getting properly loved, which obviously requires a big boy in back to really feel it!

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Anonymous: Something else I wanted to ask, but not enough space: I hear all the time about the proper way to do anal is to prepare, and you can’t just dive in there else you hurt her, and obviously sometimes it can’t be done because she has something up there already. Given all that, how do you make it work with anal only, and also kind of spur of the moment sex?

The need to prepare and take things super slowly is more important when starting out. As a woman becomes more experienced with receiving anal penetration, whether it be from penises, fingers or toys, she gains more muscle control over the area (contrary to the ridiculous popular myth that anal sex results in loss of muscle tone) and can relax her sphincter muscles at will to allow easy entry. You still generally need some sort of lube, but with an anally experienced couple you can just drop a little bit on and slowly slide right in, pain-free. It’s good to always err on the cautious side, and you can use a finger or toy up her ass during cunnilingus to help loosen her up before switching to full anal. Lots of women love butt plugs, worn either during foreplay or during the day to stay horny and a bit looser, making impromptu anal more feasible.

Most people can tell if they need to go to the bathroom, and notice it even more as they explore that area sexually. It’s generally not a big deal to go to the bathroom shortly before having anal sex. If you have a good diet, it’s fairly clean inside the rectum unless you need to go to the bathroom right then.

If you haven’t already visited luvmywifesass anal-only blog, make the time now. Although not updated so much recently, the blog was I believe the first of its kind to cover this subject exclusively.

I’ve picked out this post, as it lists a few of the many benefits of anal sex, something that you may wish to use as a starting point when discussing going anal only with your partner.

The post is has been updated by contributions discussing the recent scientific research (as reported extensively in the media) about the ‘alleged health benefits from semen for women’.

Follow the links in the post for more details about this particular claim. This reinforces the fact that as well as being greatly more enjoyable, anal sex has other positive benefits!

I love anal, my first boyfriend introduced me to it and while it hurt the first few times, I absolutely love it after. 9 years later I greatly prefer anal to vaginal sex.

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Anonymous: I have so many questions for those who choose this lifestyle – was it hard to win over your SO or did you meet someone who already wanted just anal? Do you ever miss anything about vaginal? Or do you think less about it as time goes by? Do you consider exclusive anal something for everyone or just a fetish? What is it about anal you like so much: how it feels? or looks? or something else?

The anal only lifestyle works best in a relationship where both partners are well acquainted with anal sex already and both enjoy it. In general, one approaches the other with the idea and they try it for a shorter period of time first. Many couples approach it slowly and see how they like it, without making any long-term pledges up front. And many find they don’t miss vaginal sex and end up switching fully to anal. Often the biggest concern for women who love or prefer anal is the longer term effects of having it regularly with no breaks, but once they realize that once you’ve gotten used to having it regularly, there is little to no soreness after unless you really overdo it.

I think anal is something anyone can come to love and even prefer, but many people aren’t willing to put in the time to learn how to enjoy it at the same level as vaginal. Everyone owes it to themselves to try, though, in my opinion, because great pleasure can be found there. Women who don’t get much pleasure from vaginal penetration itself and need clit stimulation along with it can often go either way, and since anal penetration enhances orgasms for many, it often wins out. In other cases, their clitoral nerves sometimes extend into their rectum, allowing them to have orgasms just from anal sex alone while they are unable to vaginally.

But it can definitely be a fetish for some as well. Some get off on it because they like denying themselves the use of a part of their body, in a sense a form of chastity. Others like the idea of subverting their body’s natural function, training themselves to prefer anal stimulation over vaginal.

I like anal for many reasons. I love how it looks so much more than vaginal penetration. The tightness and cleanness of an anus clamped down around a penis is much more visually appealing than the looser looking folds of a vagina being penetrated, and it seems better designed to fit a penis. It feels much better as well: tighter, and just somehow better in an indescribable way. The semi-chastity fetish of avoiding vaginal sex to exclusively have anal appeals to me as well. Overall, I’ve just been more attracted to girls’ buttholes than their vaginas for as long as I’ve liked girls.

A husband says:

This one may seem a little odd… My wife has incredible orgasms when I’m butt-fucking her. Because of that, she wants anal sex ALL THE TIME. I know that anal sex is HOT, but not all the time… Anybody else have this, er, problem?

It is strange that he thinks this is a ‘problem’. Once more this is probably a case of someone just needing confirmation from others that to have anal sex all the time is acceptable for a man, as he is perhaps a little confused by his own feelings.

Here is one of the many answers:

I had a girlfriend like this. The reason was because she didn’t really seem to get any sort of sexual stimualtion from her clitoris. Not all women do. Because of this lack of stimulation in her clit, she had to explore other sexual areas… and it turns out that her pooper was the magic spot! And I can’t say I ever had a problem with that. The feeling of her asshole gripping on my pecker all the time was pure bliss.

Anonymous: Does anyone have any idea why males are so attracted to asshole, like sometimes way above pussy? What I mean is their doesn’t seem to be any evolutionary benefit. Same goes for girls that like it too I guess. I love anal so I’m not trying to cause be critical, just saying…

I suspect (speaking as a complete non-scientist, and I have no idea what I’m really talking about here) that it’s an evolutionary glitch. People are attracted to sexual pleasure, which is good from an evolutionary perspective because in general people who seek sexual pleasure have sex, and sex is supposed to make babies (again, from an evolutionary perspective). But the anus is tighter and feels better for men, and does for many women as well. So their pursuit of sexual pleasure may lead them to end up being more attracted to anuses and anal sex.

As for people who are attracted to anuses more than vaginas before even experiencing the pleasure that can be had from them, my guess is that it may be simple aesthetic preferences which eventually become sexual preferences. Anuses are small, compact and sleek looking, while vaginas can be big and scary and weird looking to someone just becoming familiar with female body parts.

Anonymous: In response to what you said yesterday – I think it’s fantastic that places like this are giving a channel for people to discuss this subject. I agree with you about how as more people try it and are open about anal only then it becomes “normal”. That’s one of the reasons why people don’t try anal more often – simply because people follow the herd and don’t want to be different. Because we all know there’s no physical reason why it can’t be done and is actually preferable to many.

Anonymous: Do you see this lifestyle becoming more mainstream? Like I guess many other guys like the idea and can think about it but not necessarily say it. Now maybe its all about to change? I see women more willing to try anal plus so much porn is anal or often only anal (which is the kind I prefer). What do you think? Not long ago there wasn’t even anything like this and other blogs, but now there is a more talk around this subject than there was.

As anal itself becomes more accepted by the mainstream, and as porn shifts more towards anal, I think we’ll see a lot more people whose sex lives focus primarily or exclusively on anal sex.

Right now, there are many who would never consider it (and wouldn’t consider anal at all) because of attitudes about it when they were raised or bad first experiences. However, anal is gaining popularity among younger generations who grew up with it prevalent among friends and in porn and so tried it early on, and enjoyed it.

Anal only will likely experience a slow shift the same way. As more people do it and talk about it, more will consider trying it. People who already really enjoy anal as part of their regular sex life are going to be more likely to consider going anal only.

Every woman is built differently, and while many associate their vagina with pleasure, many others have found that their anus and rectum provide even more pleasure—sometimes because of the internal components of their clitoris being closer to the rectum and allowing orgasm to be triggered exclusively by internal anal penetration. Others need external clitoral stimulation along with anal but find that to be far more pleasurable than vaginal and result in far better orgasms (or for some, orgasms when they were impossible with vaginal).

I expect it may always be less mainstream than vaginal, though I think it would be amazing if anal became the predominant form of sex practiced. If people are more open about their own preference for the anal only lifestyle it will slowly shift towards becoming more mainstream as more curious people give it a try.

Anonymous: You’ve given me the outline of a plan for my new man I’m dating. Thanks for the ideas. I started out by getting him to play with my ass-hole while we had sex. I don’t think anyone has asked him before and he seemed genuinely interested so got my fingers crossed he’ll like to do more.

That’s fantastic. I wish you the best of luck.