Anonymous: I’m the girl who said I hate your blog. Thank you for the response, I’m sorry if I was too mean, I didn’t think you’d answer and I’m just frustrated because so many guys only want anal from me now and I started searching around and found your blog encouraging that behavior. I actually do anal and I like it, but that doesn’t mean I want to ignore my pussy and clit! They’re the core part of my sexuality, even if I like how anal feels a lot. So why insist on anal ONLY?
There are a lot of reasons for anal only over just including it along with other things. A lot of people just don’t enjoy vaginal or aren’t attracted to it in the same way as anal, and find anal sex far more pleasurable and sexy, more intimate, more satisfying, more raw and passionate, etc. I enjoy anal so much more I don’t want to waste any more time on vaginal when I could be having sex that I enjoy instead. I also find it more exciting to be anally exclusive, like a dirty little secret, and to know that I haven’t had vaginal sex in over seven years and have no interest in changing that.
I disagree with the assertion that a woman’s vagina and clit are the core part of her sexuality in a general sense. Each person is different and it might be for some, but it isn’t inherently. Some women might be more vaginal-centric, some clit-centric, and some anal-centric. Since you do enjoy anal, why not just try being anal only for a while? Don’t think of it as something degrading or something you’re doing for others, just explore the idea for your own curiosity and see what it’s like. You might find you actually enjoy it. Use your clit if you need it to enjoy anal, but only do anal with guys and when you masturbate. Take a few months to try being anal only, and see how you feel about it after that time. I can almost guarantee you’ll see it in a different light.
Instead of resenting guys who want anal, try being the assertive one and tell them up front that you’re anal only and you only want anal. You’ll be in control, they’ll love it, and you’ll both have a good time.
The reason I’m suggesting this is because you say you do love anal, and despite your claim that you don’t want to be anal only, you seem curious enough to engage in conversation about it here. If I’ve misread, and you really have no interest, then be assertive in a different way—tell guys you want more than anal, and if that’s a dealbreaker for them, then fine.