Message: I Hate Your Blog
Anonymous: I hate your blog so much! I wish you would take it down. You’re making it so hard for women who won’t do anal to date anymore, all the guys want anal more and more or anal only, and I could never do that. Why do you insist on anal only so much? It’s like we’re all going to have to go anal only now just to get a date.
I highly doubt I have the influence to affect your dating life. Anal only may be growing in popularity over just a few years ago, but it’s still a fairly niche practice. Far more likely is the general cultural acceptance of anal leading to guys being more assertive for their desire or need to have anal. Anal is becoming like oral in the not-to-distant past—no longer a niche, something many people are expecting as a normal part of a relationship.
Just as these guys you’re encountering seem to be standing up for their need for anal, you can stand up for your disinterest in it. I guarantee there are guys out there who only want vaginal as well.
I’m not “insisting” on anal only, I’m advocating for it and encouraging people to try it, but beyond that everyone has the ability to decide whether they do or don’t want to have anything to do with it. As it turns out, a decent number of people like the idea.
That said, why not try anal? Try it on your own time, get familiar with it, masturbate with something in your ass. You’ll probably enjoy it. There’s a reason it’s getting so popular, and it’s not a one-sided thing just because guys want it. It feels really good for women when done correctly, and can make you orgasm better than vaginal/clitoral. It’s definitely worth experimenting with for your own sake, at your own pace.
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420spacequeen: I am a strong independent woman and fuck my ass on a regular basis. I love it!! So many nerve endings. Use a plug while masturbating your clit. Go bigger and bigger each size plug. You’ll soon be begging to be fucked in the ass non-stop.
wrexless: Masturbate with a butt plug in, or have your partner use a toy on you while you have a finger or plug (or anything really) in your butt. That’s how my wife got into it.