Anna: Hello! During the COVID years, I was a student, and like many others, I started an OnlyFans. It worked well beyond my expectations, so I offered to do requests, and most of them were anal. I noticed that my anal videos worked much better than others, so I quickly specialized in anal videos.

When COVID restrictions were lifted, I contacted porn studios, and most of the offers I got were 90% anal at least. Since I was already specialized, to keep my fan base happy, I took the ones that were anal only.

I have a boyfriend, with whom I was already in couple before I did my OnlyFans. He knows about my activity and doesn’t mind, it was then strictly separated: my OnlyFans was 100% anal, but sex with my boyfriend was vanilla vaginal sex, and he didn’t watch my videos, which was perfect for me. I was nervous his attitude would change when I shot with other actors, though, since my boyfriend was eager to watch those videos: wouldn’t he become jealous?

It turns out my porn studio experience went all right, but from the moment he watched those videos, my boyfriend only took me anally. It started right after my first video: he completely ignored my pussy, our sex went 100% anal even orally (he licks my asshole and I do ass to mouth, like in my movies). He watches all my videos, and an actor even told me my boyfriend chatted with him through Twitter, and that my boyfriend is a nice, friendly guy and I’m lucky to have him.

I didn’t expect this at all, my boyfriend never showed any interest in anal previously. Not only that, but our sexual activity greatly increased, which is a lot of anal action for me. It’s not what I have planned at all, but I don’t see how I could refuse to my boyfriend what I give to strangers for money, I’m already relieved that he isn’t jealous and I haven’t lost him, I genuinely love him.

So, I’m a bit lost. I realize I went into anal because men around me like anal, but now it has taken my entire life, it’s been a year and a half now that I only had anal sex both professionally and personally. My boyfriend even gifted me an anal princess plug for my birthday two months ago, and I feel like I have to wear it really often so he doesn’t feel rejected, he even puts it back on after we had sex. What is it with men and anal sex?

Is this something that actually bothers you or do you just wonder why it has happened? I’d encourage viewing it as a positive: it has benefited your career as well as your sex life and resulted in a lot more sex and intimacy between you and your boyfriend, and he clearly loves it and loves you, as do your fans.

The reality is that most men prefer anal, not vaginal, and once they know that they can do anal instead of vaginal that’s going to be the majority if not all of what they want. And anal only girls are one of the biggest turn ons for guys, there’s just something so special and naughty about a girl who chooses to only have sex in the ass and not use her pussy, and men cherish that.

Embrace the anal only lifestyle and don’t worry about your pussy anymore, you can clearly have a far more successful and enjoyable sex life with just your ass and mouth and your fans and boyfriend all love it.

Marc C: I think there needs to be discourse on the selection of words, specifically in regards to anal sex. At the current time the English language is deficient in this area. We have plenty of euphemisms (“hershey highway”, “going in the back door”, etc), clinical descriptors (anal sex, sodomy, etc.), and reductive terms (buggery)… you get the idea. What we don’t have is a word that describes “anal sex as a loving intimate interaction”. Maybe you can start a trend and get the conversation going to help find (or define) a work for a true act of specific love.

There are lots of options: anal sex, butt sex, butt fucking, butt love, or for those who are truly committed to the anal only lifestyle, it’s just: sex.

However, what do the readers of this blog think? What are your preferred terms for anal sex?

A follow up from Ani, a vaginal virgin who shared her experiences in a traditional Russian community and who initially planned to lose her vaginal virginity upon getting married.

So I am again here! I wanted to post after losing virginity and to compare vaginal and anal sex 

Unfortunately it did not happen… Or maybe fortunately??? 

In the wedding night I was too nervous to lose virginity, I was afraid to cry because my parents were sleeping in the next room, so I asked my husband to go anal as usual. Next day we went with my husband for a wedding journey, and there I was again nervous to stain the hotel sheet with my blood, so the hotel workers might see my blood on the sheet. Also I think the main reason to be nervous is that I have been keeping my sweet pussy virgin too long and I have got used to stay virgin. I am not so afraid of pain, my husband is very kind and intelligent and he surely would be gentle unlike those men with whom I started anal sex. I guess it is more a psychological problem, because I have been waiting for this monent several years, but now when the moment has come, I am psychologically afraid of it.
However, I do not need to lose virginity, my husband loves anal sex much more than vaginal, and it is a good way for birth control too, so he does not demand to have vaginal sex at all. Before me he dreamed to meet a girl who at least allows anal sex sometimes, so he is very happy with me doing anal sex every day. Also I like to be “special”

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Samantha: I recently heard of “anal only”. I find sexual psychology very interesting and I was browsing around trying to understand why anyone on planet earth would ever want to have anal sex, especially anal only. what goes through someone’s mind when they decide to use the anus for sex?

Thanks for the question! The anus contains a high concentration of nerve endings that feel really good when stimulated, the sensation of being filled is greater with anal, and it’s possible to orgasm easily from penetration alone without clitoral stimulation from anal. It’s also natural birth control, which is a great advantage!

For men, it’s tighter, it’s not self lubricating so there isn’t an issue with loss of sensation like happens often with vaginal, it’s got more of a grippy feeling, and it has a greater feeling of intimacy and being primally and naturally the right thing to be doing.

It’s also just sexy to reject the reproductive-centric norm of vaginal sex and replace it with pure anal.

Unfortunately, there is still a stigma and a lot of prejudice related to anal and people who choose to make it a part of their lifestyle or those who simply prefer it over other types of intercourse. On this sub we have seen a lot of posts from people who have had a bad experience sharing their desires and choices with others.

This post is different though, I want to share some positive situations, and hear your stories too.

Starting off with a simple one but very important for me. I once met a guy, we went on a few dates and eventually things started getting closer to the bedroom. I decided it would be better to just say upfront that I am AO. I expected the worst, but he was very mature and respectful about it. He wasn’t into anal at all, he didn’t even want to try it but at the same time he made me feel accepted. He didn’t try to force or preasure me into doing something I didn’t want, he didn’t mock me or anything, we just had different desires and it was comepletely ok. We still talk from time to time.

Another one happened between me and a female work colegue. She dropped by at my house to collect some documents. I wasn’t prepared for it she called me like 2min before knocking on my door. I asked her to come inside, and from the hallway she could see my kitchen. There was a towel with four freshly cleaned, butt plugs drying out right on my kitchen table. I live alone and hardly ever have unexpected guests so I completely forgot about it. You can imagine how embarrased I was when she noticed it. Fortunately, she just laughed it off and said that she also like it up her butt from time to time. We occasionaly have joke about it but it’s light hearted and we also had few chill conversations about anal where we shared our experiences.

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The day is here and the 10th Annual No Pussy November has officially arrived! Join us in celebrating by adopting the anal only lifestyle and giving up vaginal sex completely for the month of November.

If you’re new to the anal only lifestyle and you want to give it a try, this is a great time and way to do it! Talk with your partner now in advance of November and make sure you’re both on board with the idea, or if you’re single and want to try it with toys, get yourself to the point where you’re comfortable with anal masturbation on a regular basis—at least 3 to 5 times a week, if not every day.

If you’re already anal only, there are plenty of other things that you can try as a No Pussy November challenge this year!

• If you still use clitoral stimulation, you can challenge yourself to stop and focus purely on anal pleasure and anal orgasms. The more you go without your clit and rely on anal only to orgasm, the easier anal orgasms get!
• If you aren’t wearing a butt plug regularly, you can challenge yourself to wear one at some increased interval, or to spend the entire month plugged as often as possible. If you want to reach the latter goal but aren’t quite there yet, you could work yourself up to that point over the course of the month.
• You can challenge yourself to make ass to mouth a regular part of your sex life, normalizing it by doing it every time you have sex this November.
• You can start to introduce double anal to your sex life, either through play with two dildos, a partner and a dildo, or two partners.

Along the lines of that latter idea, for those who are particularly interested or experienced with double anal, we’re continuing our official advanced challenge this year as well: Double Anal Only November, where those who want to or are able to masturbate regularly with two dildos in their ass or have double anal sex regularly spend the entire month only having double anal sex every time they have sex. Naturally, this may be somewhat limited to people who have multiple partners who want to have double anal with them, but you can also participate by always using a toy along with their partner to achieve double anal, or by masturbating with a minimum of two toys in your ass at a time.

What are your plans? Let us know!

Hanna: I’m Anal Only almost 10 years and happily married with my husband 7 years. He supports me in my passion in every way. We sometimes watch anal-centric porn movies and I really like to see a good action. This includes a nice, big, round anal gape. We are regularly having anal sex but I never was capable of showing such a gape like in the movies even though I am relaxed and pretty good stretched. What can I do to surprise my husband with such a nice big round anal gape myself? Any advices?

Congratulations on 10 years of anal only! How regularly do you have anal sex? If you can do it more often, that can help somewhat. Wearing a butt plug that has a thick neck can also help with more stretching.

You can also practice more anal muscle exercises to relax and control them more easily and practice spreading and holding open your anus after he pulls out which can help more with anal gaping.

Can you believe it’s been almost 10 years since No Pussy November first started? A decade of people discovering the joys of the anal only lifestyle and giving up vaginal sex for at least a month to see what it’s all about for themselves. Thank you to everyone for participating all these years, and welcome to those interested in trying for the first time!

If you’re new to the anal only lifestyle and you want to give it a try, this is a great time and way to do it! Talk with your partner now in advance of November and make sure you’re both on board with the idea, or if you’re single and want to try it with toys, get yourself to the point where you’re comfortable with anal masturbation on a regular basis—at least 3 to 5 times a week, if not every day.

If you’re already anal only, there are plenty of other things that you can try as a No Pussy November challenge this year!

• If you still use clitoral stimulation, you can challenge yourself to stop and focus purely on anal pleasure and anal orgasms. The more you go without your clit and rely on anal only to orgasm, the easier anal orgasms get!
• If you aren’t wearing a butt plug regularly, you can challenge yourself to wear one at some increased interval, or to spend the entire month plugged as often as possible. If you want to reach the latter goal but aren’t quite there yet, you could work yourself up to that point over the course of the month.
• You can challenge yourself to make ass to mouth a regular part of your sex life, normalizing it by doing it every time you have sex this November.
• You can start to introduce double anal to your sex life, either through play with two dildos, a partner and a dildo, or two partners.

Along the lines of that latter idea, for those who are particularly interested or experienced with double anal, we’re continuing our official advanced challenge this year as well: Double Anal Only November, where those who want to or are able to masturbate regularly with two dildos in their ass or have double anal sex regularly spend the entire month only having double anal sex every time they have sex. Naturally, this may be somewhat limited to people who have multiple partners who want to have double anal with them, but you can also participate by always using a toy along with their partner to achieve double anal, or by masturbating with a minimum of two toys in your ass at a time.

What are your plans? Let us know!

Jess: If my husband doesn’t want to have anal sex due to religious beliefs and only wants vaginal sex, would anal sex with another partner be cheating if we only do anal and not vaginal sex? Vaginal sex will only be for him and my ass for play. I think as long as I maintain the vagina just for him, then I am not really cheating since he doesn’t want anal, right?

This depends entirely on your relationship and dynamic with your husband. Most people consider cheating to be any sexual or romantic activity with another partner without everyone agreeing that you aren’t monogamous.

If your husband agrees to let you be anal only with another partner, then it’s not cheating.

I’d encourage moving past vaginal sex entirely and going fully anal only, even if that means not having sex with your husband anymore. Perhaps he would agree to go oral only instead, where you simply give him blowjobs but he doesn’t use your vagina?

I’m about 7 months, and doc says sex is fine, no health issues etc. The issue I’m having is my partner’s uncomfortable with doing it this late and my libido is insanely high. Due to my size and lack of grace, solo play is very awkward, and the real thing is better than rubber. I’d love advice on how to allay his fears. I’m due in 10 weeks, and after that, there won’t be much going on in the bedroom for a couple months. I really want to get it while I still can.

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