Anonymous: can someone actually cum anally ?
Yes, absolutely. Some people have an easier time of it than others, but it is definitely not a tremendously uncommon or unusual thing.
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syberwulfe2: My wife does. Every time ❤
imperial1101: My girlfriend does so very easily. Id say easier than her pussy
deepandlovely1: Anal penetration doesn’t have to hurt.
If it hurts, you’re doing it wrong.
If you enjoy the hurt, congratulations. Most people don’t. Stop pressuring both men and women into suffering anal.
naughtywhore12: Sometimes I wonder what it would be like to never have my pussy used or touched again. How it would feel to be anal only and have my pussy only seen as a pretty decoration
Maybe it’s time to find out.
Anonymous: Happy new year. My new years is to make sure my man stops fucking me in my pussy and sticks with fucking me in my ass.
That’s a fantastic New Year’s resolution, and I wish you the absolute best of luck in pursuing and fulfilling it. You sort of beat me to it, but I encourage everyone interested in trying anal only who hasn’t had a chance yet to try making it their New Year’s resolution for 2017, and I’ll have more on that topic coming a bit later.
Anonymous: Hi, my name is Lucy and i am 19 years old, my boyfriend has been pushing me for a while to try anal sex the to become anal sex only after sometime, and I always turn him down because I have a fear of having, pain and diseases from anal, and have a lose butthole. he is kinda wiled and rough so if i said yes for one thing he will keep pushing until he gets everything. i dont want to lose him and i wanna do the right thing, please advise me.
First, he shouldn’t push you to do things you don’t want to do and if you don’t want it, you should make that clear to him and that you expect him to request your wishes.
At the same time, your fears about anal are based largely on misconceptions. Done correctly and with the proper training and warmup first, anal will not hurt. Read the other posts here and elsewhere about anal training/warmup and start practicing with fingers and smaller toys well before trying to have anal sex the first time, and also of course always use lube.
Disease/injury is also generally not a concern from anal sex, again if you practice it safely and work to avoid pain—pain is a sign of injury, and so it should be avoided rather than ignoring it. And it can be avoided.
Getting loose or gaping open all the time is also a myth and something that just doesn’t happen. Instead, with practice and training your anal muscles become more flexible and can expand more easily within a wider range, and immediately after sex or play or plug wear you would notice being looser, but the resting state returns to being tight again quite naturally. Over time you can also actually strengthen the muscles (using them exercises them, as with all muscles) as well as gain more conscious control over how loose or tight you want to be at any given moment—relaxing loosening up at will to help with penetration for sex, etc.
If anal interests you and you’d like to try it, then I’d suggest doing so—on your terms. Start playing and practicing, fingering your ass while you masturbate, working up to two and then three fingers as you get comfortable with the first, then a dildo or a butt plug, and get comfortable and familiar with it before trying to have sex with your boyfriend.
Anonymous: My boyfriend and I were trying anal. He didn’t buy any lube and he just pushed it in even after I told him to stop, how can I make it to where I can do anal without lube?
Almost everyone needs some sort of lubrication to have anal, whether that be saliva, vaginal juices, or a sexual lubricant product. Don’t try to get to where you can do it without lube—some people can, but generally because they naturally produce more anal lubricant than most, so it’s fairly rare—just get some lube.
Anonymous: You said that the thing you miss about being anal only is being able to get fingered or have your ass played with during sex. Do you not miss your pussy being fucked very much, then?
reguara: Not really. I enjoy clit stimulation, but i don’t miss the penetration.
littleuselesslillie: I have gotten this question a lot: “do you orgasm with anal?”
Yes, and it is incredible. I cum harder with anal fucking than pussy.
During my visit with Master Daddy last week, there was absolutely no pussy fucking…working towards anal only whore.
Anonymous: What made you decide to try becoming an anal only girl?
reguara: I was already an anal always. At first I thought it was a joke, but soon enough I realized it was the natural next steep.
Anonymous: I cant get butt plugs but love anal stimulation, what can i use?
Fingers are always a good option that many people have available with them at all times. Make sure your nails are trimmed and filed to avoid any rough edges. Some hairbrush handles, if there’s nothing sharp or rough or pointy, can work as impromptu household anal toys. Some people work up to small plastic bottles, etc. Don’t use anything glass that isn’t designed to be a sex toy, don’t use anything potentially sharp, and don’t use anything that could get easily lost inside like a ball or anything of the sort. Anal toys have a flared base for a reason, so you can’t get them stuck inside. Good luck and enjoy!