Francesca: Hi everyone, so… what does really qualifies someone as living a double anal only lifestyle?

I’m living with my new partner, and we love watching hardcore porn together, always focused on pure anal and double anal, no pussy at all. The latter annoys me more then my partner. Honestly, I can’t remember the last time I had anything in my vagina, not even a toy. When we have sex, usually about three times a week, we start directly with anal. But I get impatient pretty fast and make my boyfriend take out my beloved artificial dick and put it in my ass too, even if it’s a bit uncomfortable at first. I’m willing to accept that small discomfort to satisfy my craving for double anal.

Does this count as a double anal only lifestyle, even though we usually start with single anal for a minute or two? Or am I missing something? I’d love to hear your thoughts!

Thanks for reaching out! I would classify that as double anal always/mostly, and well on its way to double anal only. A minute or two isn’t much single anal, but it’s still a little bit. Once you get to the point that you don’t consider any single anal fucking as part of sex, and always go straight to sliding one in and then the other to get started, or both together, that’s when I think the pure double anal only mindset kicks in.

That’s not meant to lessen what you’re doing, though, I think it’s wonderful that you’re at this point, and encourage you to keep it up and maybe even consider taking the last little step to pure DAO.

Eva & Michael: Hey folks, just wanted to pop in and share a little slice of our delightfully naughty life from somewhere in Europe. Happily married with kids, we stumbled upon this blog a while back that helped us open some pretty wild doors, so thought it’d be only fair to give a little something back.

It all started innocently enough when our kids were little and we enjoyed loads of couple time at home, often surfing the porn waves together. Slowly but surely, we veered into anal centric territory. We discovered double anal. She liked the look of it and we dived headfirst into DAP (with a toy), and… my wife downright fell in love with it. These days, she’s pretty much “Double Anal Only” and proud of it.

Now that the kids have outgrown the baby stage, we get to ditch them with their grandparents for a couple of days and hit the swinger clubs about once or twice a month to fortify our relationship, to recharge and play a little.

My wife’s a force of nature: bold, brash, sometimes cocky and chose to be on a to disrupt old-school thinking. She targets “couple nights” at the clubs, gets chatting, and susses out which women are stuck in the “pussy only” mindset versus those who might dare to try max anal. We usually end up in a fun little orgy with one or two of those more conservative couples.

Always condoms, naturally.

When things get hot and heavy, my wife either taps me or another guy in the group to get the party started in her ass… and that’s when she hits full ecstatic mode. The men get the real full DAP thrill, and the women? Well, some get envious and want to jump on the bandwagon and try it out, but most blush hard. BUT all of them head home with their partners confronting some new and very intense bedroom expectations. Either way, she’s pumped when her plan works.

So yeah, this blog helped us explore and embrace things many shy away from, and we hope sharing our little happy marriage receipt inspires a few more to open their minds and, well, their horizons.

That’s so great to hear, anal only and double anal evangelism really go a long way in encouraging more people to try. Have you had many AO/DAP converts as a result? It’s also awesome to hear that your wife is basically double anal only at this point herself! Any plans to make that full strict DAO in the future?

Lilly: Hey everyone, I wanted to get some advice on something new I’m thinking about.

I first found out about anal when I was 16 and with my first boyfriend. Since then, anal sex became kind of my go-to because it was easier sometimes than dealing with condoms or the pill. I’m 23 now and currently with my boyfriend, who’s 28. We’ve been together for almost 9 months.

Sometimes we watch porn together, mostly group sex. It really turns me on. I love to watch it with him and don’t like watching it alone either. Usually, I ask him to search for something rougher, and we stumbled upon some scenes with double anal that I find insanely hot. I think he’s noticed that too.

Recently, during one of those scenes, we started talking, we were joking about DAP and we got somehow to a point he asked if I would ever consider trying double anal with one of his friends as a birthday present for him. I asked him if he was serious and I told him I’d need to think about it.

Honestly, I don’t want to chicken out because this is something I really want to try and I also would like to make him this birthday gift. But I’ve never done double anal play with a dildo or anything, and his birthday is coming up soon. I’m worried I might not have enough time to train and prepare.

So, here are my questions:

1) Since I do anal regularly, how hard is it to train for double anal play quickly?

2) If I do try it but I’m not 100% prepared physically (I can see myself so eager to try it, that I go hard on them and not feel any signals my body might be giving), am I at risk of permanent damage?

3) Also, could doing something like this ruin my relationship or affect how people see me?

Anyone who’s been down this path or has tips, please share. I want to do this safely but also don’t want to miss out on something hot just because I’m scared or overly cautious.

Thanks so much for sharing and reaching out, it sounds like you have a wonderful opportunity to explore a shared fantasy. I would suggest not going too fast with this plan, though, and making sure that you’re actually ready for it first!

Doing anal regularly is a great first step, it means your anus is likely well-conditioned and in a good place to stretch open more pretty quickly and easily without injury. You still want to avoid going about it too quickly and listening to your body, though.

I strongly suggest trying it first with two dildos, or with your boyfriend and a dildo to ease into it, and do that half a dozen times or so at least until you’re comfortable doing it without discomfort/injury, and then try introducing another partner into the mix.

There’s always a chance of relationship strain when introducing new partners, so you should discuss this thoroughly before trying it in reality to make sure you both actually want it and are on the same page and how to deal with potential jealousy before it arises. You may find that you really want to stick with his cock and a dildo instead.

For more specifics, check out our Guide to Double Anal Sex.

DAP Anal Slut: Curious what everyone’s views on multiple partners is for those who frequently have DAP with two partners? Do you feel part of existing communities like swinging groups, fetish groups or poly communities? How about thoughts on monogamy as someone who has DAP with two partners?

I’m curious about the shift in attitude on these things as we societally shift towards being anal only and in turn more heavily DAP and TAP focused. I’m in a lesbian relationship and have DAP with toys but would love to have it with two partners however the logistics of this is a barrier versus a store bought friend. Interested if similar DAP fantasies have changed your relationships over time after bringing in other partners, either just for sex or romantically.

I welcome more input from other DAP/DAO people in the comments, but in my experience a lot of DAP-focused and double anal only women have either embraced the lifestyle with a current partner plus a dildo, or by seeking an additional partner and at first just including them intermittently but then over time if things work out, adding them as a full-time part of the relationship. My sense is that MMF relationships will become much more common as DAP becomes the norm.

Plugged Anal Whore: What happened to the old Anal Only October posts? I think we should bring it back with a Double Anal October month.

Obviously anal is the new standard so makes sense we don’t need to make general anal only a challenge but for the people who aren’t already—double anal only is the clear next step.

For those of us already proficient, I think Triple Anal October could be a good one…

We never really had an Anal Only October, but we have promoted Anal Only April, Anal Only August and No Pussy November. We also have done a Double Anal December challenge month in the past. At this point we mostly formally feature No Pussy November each year, while encouraging people to do their own challenge month outside of that for whatever goal they have.

100% agree that Double Anal Only is an important challenge for anyone already anal only and interested in going further!

sdfa: Amazing how many people find excluding pussy from sex attractive. While other way around, nobody. Even if some people don’t like anal, nobody is interested in 0% asshole category.

I’m sure there are some silly prudes out there who want 0% anal, but those people are being left behind as the world moves away from vaginal to anal only. The reality is that anal is better for most people, and the more people experiment with it, the more they go anal mostly, anal only, or double anal only. People who are anal only rarely experiment with vaginal, and if they do, it usually makes them even more devoted to go back to pure anal only.

Judy & Ben: Hi, we are regular visitors of your blog. Are you OK? There have been no updates for a prolonged period of time. We hope to read soon something new here…

Things are good, life and work has just been distracting and there hasn’t been a ton of reader engagement in the blog community for a while so it’s been hard to stay motivated to keep posting regularly. There is a good queue of reader submissions right now, though, so expect a lot of new posts in the coming weeks.

Maya: I always thought of DAP as something extreme—like a special occasion thing you might work up to, but not something you’d crave regularly. But after finally doing it with two guys I trust, I was completely overwhelmed. Not just physically (though yes, wow), but emotionally too. It felt like something inside me clicked. Like my body had been waiting for this all along.

Since then, regular anal feels… nice, but almost incomplete. I still enjoy it, but there’s this ache, like I’m only being half-used. Is that normal? Does this mean I’m headed toward being double anal only? I thought that was just fantasy stuff, but now I’m not so sure.

What you’re describing is something I hear often from people who try double anal for the first time with the right partners and the right mindset. There’s the physical thrill, of course—but what really stays with you is that emotional click you mentioned. That deep sense of this is how it’s supposed to be.

It’s completely normal for single anal to start feeling “nice, but incomplete” after that. Once your body knows the fullness of DAP—how completely it can be stretched, filled, and claimed—it’s natural to crave that as the new standard. That ache you’re feeling isn’t a problem. It’s your body telling you it’s found its real baseline.

Does that mean you’re headed toward being double anal only? Possibly—and that’s not something to fear. Many people discover that DAO isn’t just a fantasy, but the form of penetration that feels most right for them. The more you train, the more your body adapts, and the more natural it will feel to have two inside every time.

You’re not losing your love for anal—you’re evolving it. If you want to explore DAP/DAO further, take it at your own pace. Train regularly, communicate openly with partners, and notice how your mind and body respond. That “fantasy stuff” you used to imagine might just be the future you’re ready to live.

Once you’ve felt your true capacity, it’s hard to go back—and that’s okay.

Anonymous: I’ve only recently discovered anal can feel better than vaginal, and now I can’t stop thinking about going anal only. But I’m 44 and feel like I missed the boat, especially since my husband and I still mostly do vaginal. Is it too late to make this shift?

Absolutely not! Many women have found in their 30s, 40s, or even later, that they actually prefer anal and made the switch away from vaginal to anal. In some ways this can be easier, especially if you are done having kids, it’s easier to consider the idea of “retiring” your pussy for pure anal pleasure. Add in perimenopause and other things that can impact vaginal sex during this time, and it just makes a lot of sense.

I suggest making the switch right away for masturbation and focusing purely on anal going forward, and then talking with your husband about the idea and see if he’s willing to try an anal only month as an initial trial period. From there, it’s likely you’ll both want to stay AO.

Mashiro: I always loved anal sex because of its kinky appeal. I found vaginal wrong because my favorite sex pratice is cunnilingus, and its appeal to exclude penetration to make cunnilingus more arousing for me. So when i find the Anal Only community i though im home because combine two things i love: anal penetration and exclusion of vaginal penetration. But with some months i saw many problematic posts about clitoral denial and clitoral exclusion, and using an ideal of more raw and intense orgasms coming from ther girls anus alone. Besides i confess its very arousing idea of pure anal climax, its also a very misoginistic concept encourage a girl to abandon the organ that makes her a girl. The expresion of her womanhood, as the penis is the manhood. I imagine how a man would feel with a community encouraging him to act as his penis doesnt exist. This would be offensive to him. And we dont consider offensive to say the same aboyt women, which is a exemple of misoginy hided in pur minds.

Yes, clit denial is hot. To hold my girlfriend’s hands to prevent her of reach her clit and make she feel pure anal stinulation alone till she explodes in waves of body shaking orgasms coming exclusevly from her excretory hole drives me crazy. But i feel wrong doing this after. Im denying her womanhood core. I feel bad after sex. Im trying to keep doing cunnilingus on her in other moments offside the sex. Major when she comes home from work i greet her with cunnilingus. And ends in itself. One thing doesnt interact to another. When we gonna have sex i put a duct tape over her pussy and clit touch is forbidden. She finds it arousing too. But the posts i have seen here recently about complete clit erasure made me feel bad. And made me think, if this blog is correct and clit must be banned from women sex life, so women body are a mistake? Since nature or God made women with this organ, clitoris exists only to sexual pleasure, if a better sex life involves to erase it, so women a God mistake?! Why would nature make a clitoris if we gonna cut it off and make it useless?!? This disturbs me. I don want to see my girlfriend as a mistake from the nature.

Let’s start with the part that’s causing you the most discomfort: the idea that rejecting the clit and pussy somehow means rejecting the woman. It doesn’t. AO doesn’t say women are wrong. It says that vaginal sex and clitoral stimulation are wrong, or at least that there’s something better.

Nature gave women a clit and vagina, yes—but nature also gave us things we’ve outgrown, replaced, or re-purposed over time. We’ve evolved past plenty of natural defaults in every other area of life. In sex, the AO view is that the ass is simply a better option—for both men and women—when it comes to pleasure, connection, and fulfillment. The fact that the vagina and clit exist doesn’t mean they’re the best choice. They’re just one choice—and we’ve found a better one.

That’s why clit denial or full clit exclusion isn’t about misogyny—it’s about refinement. It’s about focusing your partner’s sexual energy entirely through her ass, helping her experience deeper, more powerful anal orgasms than she ever could while splitting attention between holes or between sensations. It’s about elevating her sexuality, not erasing it.

Your partner enjoying cunnilingus outside of penetrative sex isn’t incompatible with AO—it’s just a different context. But if you both find that her most meaningful, intense, and shared sexual experiences come through her ass alone, then leaning into that isn’t denying her womanhood. It’s choosing the best of what she can be sexually. The woman stays the same—you’re just celebrating her in the way that’s most fulfilling for both of you.

AO isn’t about seeing women as mistakes. It’s about seeing the potential to go beyond the defaults we’ve been handed, to choose something better, and to live it fully. That’s not rejection of the woman—it’s devotion to her at her best.