Tim: My girlfriend is turned on by anal only in sexting. This was so HOT! Problem is that when we are physically together, we tend to have vaginal sex. And she is very aroused by this, and we have a great time. But I enjoy anal only. She is aroused like hell, and she make me aroused. Question is, how do I stop enjoying this? Because I want to. I just want to forget her pussy exist and want her to never think about vaginal ever again. I want her to be horny in her ass, and refuse her vagina. Where do I begin?

I’d like to add that we broke up recently, due to more factors leading us to separate. That she refused anal was one of them, but like all good relationships; sex isn’t all. But sex is one of the important parts of the chain. We broke up! But a week later, she came to a party I had, and I told her that she could be here with us and have a good time; she and I ended up leaving all the folks out and she and I had anal sex! I told her that’s exactly what I wanted. She was so aroused by the idea of being anal only. And I was so in love because I finally thought I’d meet my queen wife.

So we started dating again, and gradually we started having vaginal sex again.

I want this to end… I WANT and NEED our lives to be in truly vaginal rejection and living anal only. But she likes vaginal so much. And to be honest, I like the sex as well, since she is so sexy and attractive to me, but in the depth of my heart I want us both to commit to abandon vaginal play forever. This is the last straw for me, to kiss her pussy goodbye—to welcome her anus to be the real stuff.

What should I do?

Should I refuse to give her vaginal from now on? Ought I to be harder on her? She does not like masturbating without me being involved. Shall I be more strict, and enforce her to stop this “naughty vaginal play”?

Thanks for the message, it sounds like you both really enjoy anal and love the idea of being anal only but have had a hard time putting it into practice. That’s not unusual, quite a few people really want to embrace anal only and love the concept of it but find their old ways are easy to return to and end up going back to vaginal over and over again.

If you both share the desire for anal to be your main or only form of sex, the key is creating consistency, clarity, and arousal around that goal. Start with a clear agreement together, even if it’s temporary: a week, a month, or even just a single weekend of strictly anal only. Frame it not as a restriction but as an exciting experiment to deepen the pleasure, intimacy, and intensity you already feel when you’re focused only on her ass.

Help make anal more accessible and satisfying for her outside of sex, too. Daily or regular plug wear—even small at first—can help her body and mind stay in the anal zone. Try mutual masturbation where she only uses her ass while you talk about how hot it is that she’s keeping her pussy off-limits. If she’s open to it, you could even do playful denial or ceremony around not touching her pussy—create rituals or routines that build anticipation and make anal feel like the centerpiece it truly is.

Above all, keep your focus on arousal, not enforcement. The more she feels desired and empowered for her anal pleasure, the less she’ll crave anything else. If you can consistently make her feel like her ass is the most important, most loved, most hers part of her body—and reinforce that with practice, praise, and intimacy—it’ll become her new default. Over time, anal only won’t feel like a rule you’re both trying to follow; it’ll just feel like who you are together.

Obviously, if she enjoys control around keeping her pussy off limits, you could incorporate that as well, but embracing her arousal from anal and anal only is likely the most effective strategy.

Anonymous: Hi, I’ve been transitioning into the anal only lifestyle for a few months now. I’ve stopped having vaginal sex and only penetrate my ass for sex or masturbation, which has been an amazing change. I feel more connected to my body and much more focused when I orgasm.

But I still find myself drawn to clit stimulation when I masturbate, even though I know it doesn’t really fit with the anal only mindset. I don’t want to depend on it anymore, and I want to fully commit to anal orgasms only. How do I break the habit of going back to the clit, and retrain my body to respond only through my ass?

Thanks for everything you do — this blog has helped me more than I can say.

If you haven’t already, I recommend checking out our Benefits to Avoiding Clit Stimulation During Anal Sex page in our Guide, it details a lot of what you’ve already mentioned but also goes into detail about how to stop using your clit.

It makes total sense that you want to move past clitoral dependence and focus on pure anal stimulation and pleasure instead, and I commend you for wanting to take that step. It will only deepen your enjoyment and your commitment to the anal only lifestyle.

It sounds like this is mostly an issue for you when you masturbate, not when you have sex. If you’re able to focus on the anal pleasure during sex, I encourage working on shifting your thoughts to your ass when masturbating as well. If you’re just casually playing with yourself and fingering your ass and feel tempted to rub, take the opportunity to focus more on your ass and switch to something more active like a dildo. The increased penetration and sensation will help you away from your clit. Whenever you feel the urge to touch your pussy, increase your anal intensity instead. Use that urge to redirect attention to your ass.

If you still find it hard to ignore, try covering it with tape when masturbating, or using a topical anesthetic like orajel to temporarily numb your clit. A physical barrier or numbing can work very well to train you away from it because even if you’re tempted to touch, it won’t deliver any sensation — and your attention will return to where it belongs. Over time, your body will adapt. The clit will fade from your awareness, and your ass will take over fully.

Anonymous: My girlfriend is incredibly skilled and passionate about anal fisting and double anal — I’m so proud of her and love bragging about her talents to trusted circles. I fantasize about her showing off those skills in some good, hard gangbangs or intense group sessions, really owning her sexuality.

She was raised Christian and, while she’s not deeply religious anymore, the idea of actually engaging in group sex still feels like a heavy conflict for her. This creates tension between my desire to see her fully express herself and her lingering reservations.

Am I okay wanting her to move on to real-life double anal experiences with others, even if it challenges her comfort zone?

It’s completely okay for you to want that. Fantasizing about your partner being fully used, admired, and celebrated for her abilities—especially when she’s as talented and passionate about anal fisting and DAP as you describe—is a natural extension of your pride, arousal, and deep admiration for her. There’s nothing wrong with craving that next level of intensity, or even feeling like it would unlock something deeper in both of you. That’s part of the anal only mindset: wanting to go further, stretch wider, and be even more fully shared.

At the same time, her background and concerns matter too. Even if she no longer holds strict religious beliefs, years of internalized messages don’t just disappear. Group sex, especially in the context of showcasing her body and talents, can feel like a direct challenge to everything she was taught to suppress or avoid. That doesn’t mean she’ll never move in that direction, but it does mean she may need time, space, and the right framing to get there.

Instead of pushing her toward a decision, consider framing it as a shared evolution. Not “I want you to do this,” but “I love how you’ve embraced anal and DAP, and I can’t stop imagining how powerful it would be to see you fully celebrated in that way. Not because I need it to happen, but because it excites me to think of you being admired and filled and stretched for others the way I already admire and desire you.” Let her feel how much this comes from love and erotic awe, not pressure.

So yes, wanting it is okay. Even if it never happens exactly the way you imagine, the fact that you’re proud of her, aroused by her skills, and eager to see her reach her full potential in this lifestyle is beautiful. I hope that you’re able to enjoy DAP together with other partners, and maybe even go double anal only if you aren’t already!

ZB: I’m in a marriage that’s vaginal only and I crave anal. I’m incredibly aroused by reading all these posts. I don’t want to destroy my marriage, but I need to pursue my desires. Could I get some recommendations for online communities?

Thanks for sharing this, it’s a powerful and vulnerable place to be, and you’re not alone. Many people in long-term, traditional relationships find themselves discovering a deep craving for anal—especially anal only—later on. It can feel like a secret obsession, especially when your partner doesn’t share or understand that desire.

Craving anal doesn’t mean you’re betraying your partner. It means you’re uncovering an important part of your sexual identity that has long been overlooked or suppressed. The intensity of your arousal when reading posts or imagining anal scenarios is a sign that this isn’t just a passing kink. It’s something deeper. Something central. Whether you ultimately transition your marriage toward anal, you deserve space to understand what this means for you first.

As far as communities, check out our forums, Discord, and the Anal Only Lifestyle subreddit.

Tim: Hey, love the blog. I’ve been anal only for about a year now — I don’t masturbate any other way, I only play with my ass, and I’ve completely lost interest in using my cock for anything other than sex with my girlfriend. The problem is, she’s not anal only. She loves to play with my ass, and she enjoys getting anal herself and does it with me when I ask, but she still mostly wants vaginal sex and doesn’t seem interested in giving it up.

I don’t want to pressure her, but I also can’t stop thinking about how much better things would be if we were both anal only. The sex, the mindset, the clarity — it all feels lopsided right now. I love her, but I would love us both to be totally anal only and stop using her pussy.

Is it selfish to want her to go anal only too? Should I just accept this difference, or is it okay to expect more?

It’s not selfish to want your partner to share your values — especially when those values are shaping your identity, your arousal, and your sexuality. Anal only isn’t just a preference, it’s a lifestyle. A discipline. A mindset. A commitment. So it makes perfect sense that you’d want your girlfriend to embrace that with you.

Unfortunately, for many women vaginal is still the default — not because it’s better, but because it’s familiar, expected, and what society says is normal. Even though she embraces anal only for you, she may not fully understand what anal only could mean for herself yet.

The best thing you can do is stay grounded in your choice and be honest with her. Let her know this isn’t about control — it’s about alignment. That you’ve found something that brings you pleasure and satisfaction, and that you want to share that with her fully, not just occasionally. Frame it as a higher standard for the relationship, not a rejection of her.

If she’s interested, encourage her to try a week or month of anal only together and see what it’s really like to move past her pussy and focus just on anal pleasure for the both of you. If you make it through a month, chances are she’ll want to stay anal only going forward!

VickyAO: Hi, this might be a strange one, but I’ve been anal only for over many years now. I stopped using my vagina for anything, no penetration, no touching, not even during masturbation. I’ve noticed something interesting: I literally don’t feel anything anymore when I try to think about vaginal stimulation. Like, it’s just… nothing. No arousal, no mental association, no sensation. It feels like that part of me shut down.

I don’t miss it. I love how focused I am on my ass now. I can have intense, long-lasting anal orgasms without any clitoral or vaginal stimulation at all. It’s better than anything I ever had before.

But can a woman actually lose the ability to get arousal and orgasm from her vagina if she’s anal only long enough? Like, can the body unlearn that kind of arousal permanently? And if so, is that a bad thing? Or is it just the natural outcome of going fully anal only and never going back?

Thanks, just curious how far this can go.

Obviously this varies from woman to woman, but it’s absolutely something a lot of anal only women start to notice after a while. Vaginal arousal just starts to go away, and the vagina starts to become dry and inactive, no longer responding to being turned on or getting stimulated anally. You feel desire in your asshole instead, and it starts to relax and open up or even in some cases start to lubricate itself when you’re turned on.

It’s not a bad thing, it’s a natural progression and your body’s embrace of being anal only. You don’t need your vagina anymore, and it’s deactivating. Enjoy it!

Kayla: Hi, I’m 19 and just got into my first real relationship with a guy who really wants to have sex. I’ve never been on birth control, and my sisters have had bad luck with hormonal interactions, but I don’t want to get pregnant. My boyfriend suggested we have anal sex instead, and I found this blog about only having anal sex. Can I just go anal only as a way to not get pregnant? Is that actually safe? Is there anything else I need to know?

Yes, going anal only is absolutely a valid and effective way to avoid pregnancy. There’s no risk of pregnancy from anal sex itself, as long as semen doesn’t come into contact with your vagina — including indirectly from hands, toys, or accidental slipping. Many women choose anal only as their exclusive form of sex for exactly this reason, especially when they want to avoid hormonal birth control. It’s an ideal natural form of birth control!

It’s important to be clear with your partner about boundaries, and to use condoms or get tested to avoid risk of STIs, especially in a new relationship. If you stay anal only and keep your limits firm, it can be a safe and empowering way to have sex without risking pregnancy. You’re not alone in this choice — a lot of women find that it’s not just a workaround, but going anal only is something that they genuinely prefer.

2InA: My girlfriend and I haven’t ever had vaginal sex, we started with anal when we got together and just went with it. We got into anal porn together early on, especially double anal. She started talking during sex about how good it would feel to be stretched by two cocks. She’d say things like “I wish there was another cock my ass right now too”. We started experimenting with toys: me pushing a dildo into her ass while fucking her, moving both together or alternating. The more we did it, the more it became part of our regular sex life.

About six months ago, we invited our roommate to join us for double anal. He’s someone we’re good friends with, trust, and who also loves anal and DAP from our conversations and when he’s seen us watching porn on occasion. It was supposed to be a one-time experience at first, but it felt so good. Since then, he’s been joining us for double anal a couple times a week. My girlfriend has taken to it in a way I didn’t expect, while it feels great for me, she goes wild with it and cums harder than she ever has before. Both our cocks in her ass gives her something that single anal just doesn’t.

Today she told me she wants to go double anal only. No more single anal, no more just me inside her. She says it’s not about me — that she still loves me, still craves me — but that her body and mind feel more complete, more satisfied, more truly taken when she’s being fully stretched by both of us. She wants the three of us to be in a relationship together and to only do DAP.

I’m not insecure about sharing her. We’ve already done that. But I do feel kind of weird about the idea of never again having her ass to myself. No moments where it’s just me inside her, just the two of us, just that simple connection. Do you have any suggestions? I know you’re going to push us to go double anal only since that’s a big part of your blog, but how can I wrap my head around it better?

You’re right — I am going to encourage you to go double anal only. Not because it’s a rule, or because it’s what I prefer. It’s clearly where your relationship is already heading, and your girlfriend isn’t just craving DAP as a novelty. She’s thriving on it. Her body, her orgasms, and her words are all telling you exactly what she needs. You’re not losing something. You’re seeing the next evolution of what you already started together.

It’s normal to feel something about the idea of never having her ass only to yourself again. That’s not weakness, it’s just adjustment. But think about where you’re actually at: you built your relationship and sex life on anal only. Double anal isn’t a threat to your connection — it’s a deepening of it. You’re not being replaced. You’re part of what makes her feel even more complete.

Try reframing it like this: when you were the only cock in her ass, you gave her everything she could handle at the time. Now that she’s ready for more, she’s inviting you to be part of that with her. Don’t step back, step in. The relationship doesn’t shrink when another cock joins yours in her ass, it expands. The trust gets stronger. The bond gets tighter.

If you still want moments of one-on-one time, you can do so through oral sex, or perhaps still having some cock + dildo sessions or even working her up to taking your cock and fist at the same time if your roommate isn’t available to join in.

This isn’t about replacing connection — it’s about completing it. Together in her ass, always. Always full. Always shared. That’s what anal only becomes at its peak — and you’re already there.

Amy: Hi, I’ve been anal only for the past year and a half, and at first my boyfriend was really into it. We had amazing sex, I was stretching regularly, and we even do double anal using toys. He said it was the hottest sex we’d ever had.

But lately, he’s been asking if we can “mix it up” and have vaginal sex again. I told him that I’m committed to anal only, that I don’t get anything out of vaginal sex anymore, and that I don’t want to go backward. He said he understood, but I can tell he’s disappointed, and it’s starting to make me feel guilty. Should I give in once in a while just to make him happy? I really don’t want to.

It can be normal for some people to want what they don’t have and if he feels like vaginal is off the table he may be feeling the desire for it again to either “establish dominance”, even subconsciously, or to just try it again. I’m of mixed feelings about the best response here—it’s clear that you don’t want vaginal, and that’s completely reasonable. Sometimes, though, it can be valuable for people in that state of craving to try vaginal again only to discover how truly inferior it is to anal, and it strengthens their resolve to stay anal only going forward. It gets rid of the fantasy through cold, hard reality: vaginal just isn’t that good.

I would suggest talking with him about other ways you could compromise. Are there other fantasies he might want to explore instead? Tell him you want to keep your vagina unused going forward but you’re open to trying other things with him that he’d like. Does he want to do double anal more often? Would he like to start sharing your ass with a friend for some real DAP? Ass to mouth? Piss play? Physical chastity for you? There are all sorts of things to explore without using your pussy at all. Vaginal sex will just hold the two of you back.

Anal Obsessed: I saw your post about Vicky Sol, and I think it’s great that you promote more anal only content here, you should feature other stars, maybe double anal only stars next too.

On the note of promoting anal only porn—I’d be curious if anyone can recommend any audio or literary porn that promotes anal only, double anal or clit denial, or even anal only hypno videos, I’d be very interested!

Lastly can I just say I appreciate the more frequent updates here! Keep up the amazing work, I love reading your site while stretching my ass and ignoring my clit.

Thank you, I’m glad that you enjoyed it. I would love to feature more anal only/double anal only stars but I’m not familiar with many who are strictly AO/DAO.

We do have an Anal Only Porn Stars post that stays semi-updated, and also a list of Anal Only Stories.

I hope that you continue to ignore your cunt and clit permanently.