Michalina: I have been AO since I was 16 when I had my first intercourse. I started my journey because I was afraid of pregnancy and I associated vaginal with pain, which is why I still have my hymen. To be honest, this blog helped me make the decision to remain a vaginal virgin.

Since I was 17, I stopped touching my clitoris. I felt guilty and embarrassed that other girls could only use their anus and completely abandon their vagina, and I wanted to achieve that myself. And I finally did it after many attempts. I remember my first full anal orgasm when I screamed and cried with emotion and happiness. Then I became free of my pussy and clitoris completely.

I admit that despite the temptation and persuasion from other girls, I never had cunnilingus. Instead, I chose rimming and oh my God… the feeling is wonderful. I really wish more girls would try it, because I’m sure that just as anal is better than vaginal, rimming is better than cunnilingus.

But what I’m getting at is that I’m 20 years old today and I’ve noticed for a long time that my vagina is drying up. Slowly, gradually, day after day. I used to have a lot of vaginal fluids coming out of it when I was aroused, but today there is very little. I think my vagina will soon be completely dry.

And I’m a little worried. Is it because my pussy is not being used? Should I be concerned? Should I do something about it? Will a dry vagina be a problem when I want to have children?

Congratulations on choosing to remain a vaginal virgin and go pure anal only, that’s wonderful to hear and something you should be so proud of!

Vaginal dryness is something I hear about pretty frequently from women who have gone strictly anal only, and it makes sense: you are effectively reprogramming your pleasure centers to focus on anal, and your body over time stops producing vaginal lubricant and centers arousal on your anus instead. There isn’t much reason to be concerned about this, especially since you intend to remain anal only. It’s a physical symbol of your commitment to anal only and vaginal abandonment, and I think it’s another worthy milestone to celebrate!

Artificial lubricants can always be used to aid in pregnancy/delivery if needed, after all.

Kasia: I’ve been following this blog for a long time and it’s always been a great motivation for me. I’ve been wondering how to convince more girls to try the AO lifestyle. I’ve come to the conclusion that rimming is what can encourage them to try anal sex.

Many women say that it is the stimulation of the vagina and clitoris with the tongue that gives them the most pleasure and warms them up and prepares them for vaginal sex. Why not try this approach with anal sex? Maybe it’s worth licking the anus of the girl you love, and she’ll be more willing to let you enter her asshole. Take care of her proper hole and in time she will forget about her pussy and clitoris.

I can’t remember the last time I had my vagina and clitoris licked, but I love having my ass licked and kissed like as if it were my second lips. I hope this helps abandon more vaginas and clits in favor of anuses. AO rules!

That’s excellent advice, and rimming as an introduction to anal and regular part of the anal warmup/preparation process is a great way to relax and be ready for penetration. It feels amazing, and more women are admitting to liking it more than cunnilingus, which makes it even easier to consider total vaginal abandonment in favor of anal only.

Melissa: Hi everyone, I’ve been happily married for almost 10 years. For the past 12 years, I have only done anal sex. In the last couple of years, my husband and I have been sporadically enjoying double anal with a toy, which I really like.

Recently, my husband started expressing his interest a few times in stepping up to real double anal that includes a friend of his or going to a swinger club, like a “sharing your wife” or “gangbang” event. I told him I needed time to think about it. Internally I was shocked! I was raised in a Christian family, though I am not very religious anymore, but some values from that background still influence me in my world views.

I have secretly dreamed though about being in a double anal gangbang, but this is just a fantasy my husband doesn’t know about.

This is a topic I don’t want to discuss with my friends nor with my husband. I hope to find advice here.

My concerns are these: His request makes me feel as if I’m not good enough for him anymore or wonder if he loves me less. Taking this step makes me feel like I might be betraying him and our marriage or even becoming a “whore” because now I had sex with more men.

Also, what if I like this new experience and it changes our relationship because I want to have it on a regular basis? How do I handle the possible changes?

It sounds like you have a wonderful life and marriage, and it’s so fantastic that you’ve been anal only for the past 12 years. That’s definitely something to be proud of!

It sounds like the physicality of double anal is already something that you enjoy, as is the fantasy of a gangbang, but you aren’t sure if you want to take that step with additional partners. I would suggest making double anal a more regular thing with your husband and toys, leaning into the fantasy together but still with just the two of you, and then after a few months, revisit the idea and discuss together how you would like to approach trying it, and talk through potential concerns. You say that you don’t want to discuss it with him, but communication in the relationship is key with anything, especially something like this.

I will say this: your husband wanting to try this you is not likely a sign he loves you less, but likely that he adores you and wants to try something you both enjoy together along with additional partners. It’s not a betrayal of him or becoming a “whore”, it’s a celebration of what you have together and expanding it to trying an experience that you might both love.

Very likely you will both love the experience and want to do it more regularly. Having that baseline of regular DAP with a toy will help with that as you decide how best to introduce other partners into your routine.

Francesca: Hi everyone, so… what does really qualifies someone as living a double anal only lifestyle?

I’m living with my new partner, and we love watching hardcore porn together, always focused on pure anal and double anal, no pussy at all. The latter annoys me more then my partner. Honestly, I can’t remember the last time I had anything in my vagina, not even a toy. When we have sex, usually about three times a week, we start directly with anal. But I get impatient pretty fast and make my boyfriend take out my beloved artificial dick and put it in my ass too, even if it’s a bit uncomfortable at first. I’m willing to accept that small discomfort to satisfy my craving for double anal.

Does this count as a double anal only lifestyle, even though we usually start with single anal for a minute or two? Or am I missing something? I’d love to hear your thoughts!

Thanks for reaching out! I would classify that as double anal always/mostly, and well on its way to double anal only. A minute or two isn’t much single anal, but it’s still a little bit. Once you get to the point that you don’t consider any single anal fucking as part of sex, and always go straight to sliding one in and then the other to get started, or both together, that’s when I think the pure double anal only mindset kicks in.

That’s not meant to lessen what you’re doing, though, I think it’s wonderful that you’re at this point, and encourage you to keep it up and maybe even consider taking the last little step to pure DAO.

Lilly: Hey everyone, I wanted to get some advice on something new I’m thinking about.

I first found out about anal when I was 16 and with my first boyfriend. Since then, anal sex became kind of my go-to because it was easier sometimes than dealing with condoms or the pill. I’m 23 now and currently with my boyfriend, who’s 28. We’ve been together for almost 9 months.

Sometimes we watch porn together, mostly group sex. It really turns me on. I love to watch it with him and don’t like watching it alone either. Usually, I ask him to search for something rougher, and we stumbled upon some scenes with double anal that I find insanely hot. I think he’s noticed that too.

Recently, during one of those scenes, we started talking, we were joking about DAP and we got somehow to a point he asked if I would ever consider trying double anal with one of his friends as a birthday present for him. I asked him if he was serious and I told him I’d need to think about it.

Honestly, I don’t want to chicken out because this is something I really want to try and I also would like to make him this birthday gift. But I’ve never done double anal play with a dildo or anything, and his birthday is coming up soon. I’m worried I might not have enough time to train and prepare.

So, here are my questions:

1) Since I do anal regularly, how hard is it to train for double anal play quickly?

2) If I do try it but I’m not 100% prepared physically (I can see myself so eager to try it, that I go hard on them and not feel any signals my body might be giving), am I at risk of permanent damage?

3) Also, could doing something like this ruin my relationship or affect how people see me?

Anyone who’s been down this path or has tips, please share. I want to do this safely but also don’t want to miss out on something hot just because I’m scared or overly cautious.

Thanks so much for sharing and reaching out, it sounds like you have a wonderful opportunity to explore a shared fantasy. I would suggest not going too fast with this plan, though, and making sure that you’re actually ready for it first!

Doing anal regularly is a great first step, it means your anus is likely well-conditioned and in a good place to stretch open more pretty quickly and easily without injury. You still want to avoid going about it too quickly and listening to your body, though.

I strongly suggest trying it first with two dildos, or with your boyfriend and a dildo to ease into it, and do that half a dozen times or so at least until you’re comfortable doing it without discomfort/injury, and then try introducing another partner into the mix.

There’s always a chance of relationship strain when introducing new partners, so you should discuss this thoroughly before trying it in reality to make sure you both actually want it and are on the same page and how to deal with potential jealousy before it arises. You may find that you really want to stick with his cock and a dildo instead.

For more specifics, check out our Guide to Double Anal Sex.

Choosing anal only is easy when you’re riding the excitement of discovery. Every plug, every stretch, every orgasm feels like a step toward something bigger. But commitment isn’t tested in the good moments—it’s tested when things get messy, inconvenient, or tempting in the wrong direction.

Here’s how to stay true to your AO life long term, and how to handle the moments that threaten to pull you off track.

Remember Why You Chose This

Your commitment isn’t random—it’s rooted in something. Maybe it’s the deeper pleasure. Maybe it’s the discipline. Maybe it’s the total rejection of pussy and the clarity that brings. Whatever it is, keep that front of mind. Write it down. Say it out loud. If you hit a slump, remind yourself: This is who I am. This is how I want to live.

Recognize That Setbacks Happen

Setbacks don’t erase your commitment—they test it. A missed plug day, a moment of curiosity, even a slip back into old habits doesn’t mean you’ve failed. What matters is what you do next. Treat it like any discipline: acknowledge it, understand why it happened, and recommit immediately.

Have Tools for the Hard Days

There will be days when AO feels harder—when you’re sore, tired, distracted, or when a partner pushes for something you’ve chosen to leave behind. Prepare for them.

• Keep a smaller, comfortable plug for recovery days.
• Have a go-to AO fantasy or video that reignites your focus.
• Keep physical reminders of your goals—plugs, toys, or even AO jewelry—somewhere visible.

Talk to Partners Early and Often

If you share your AO life with someone, keep them in the loop. Talk about boundaries, changes, and goals before they become points of friction. If a partner isn’t fully AO yet, help them understand that this isn’t a phase—it’s your standard.

Celebrate Your Wins

Staying anal only isn’t just about avoiding setbacks—it’s about noticing and appreciating progress. Celebrate anniversaries of AO commitment. Recognize new milestones in stretching or stamina. Share those moments with others in the community. Pride fuels persistence.

Bottom Line

Long-term AO is about choosing, again and again, to keep your ass at the center of your sex life and your identity. Setbacks don’t have to derail you. Every time you recommit, you’re proving—not to anyone else, but to yourself—that you’re serious.

The discipline is worth it. The pleasure is worth it. The lifestyle is worth it. Stay plugged, stay proud.

Davie: I’m 19 and I love anal! I’ve had sex a few times and anal is by far the best. Wish I could have more sex without pussy, but most people aren’t into it. Whenever I bring it up with my bros, they say it’s gay. Is loving anal really gay? What’s wrong with being a guy that loves anal only?

Thank you for reaching out, and I’m glad you’re discovering what you truly enjoy early on. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a guy who loves anal only. You’ve even tried both and you know anal feels better.

Unfortunately, while we’ve made a lot of progress away from it, a lot of guys still cling to this idea that anal is “gay,” as if any kind of sex involving the ass is somehow gay because gay men often do it. Never mind that both women and men have buttholes! That’s insecurity talking, not logic. Do they think blowjobs are gay too?

If you’re a man who enjoys anal sex with women and prefers it over vaginal sex, that’s not gay. That’s just your taste. Just like some people love giving head or using toys or only doing it in certain positions, many—most—guys prefer the way it feels to fuck a woman’s ass.

Keep owning what you prefer, and find women who share that preference and will go anal only with you. It’s well worth it to stop fucking pussy altogether.

Rafael: Hello, thank you for your blog. It has a lot of useful information and interesting user messages. I’m a gay male, mid-30s, bottom exclusive. After reading your double anal article, I wanted to try it out. My first attempt with dildos wasn’t successful, it felt awkward and difficult to achieve penetration, so I decided to change tactics.

I presented your blog to my boyfriend, let’s call him John, and he liked reading it as much as I did.
Then, I suggested John to use one of my dildos along with his penis. He accepted and we tried the next day. I was pushed to my limits and it was a bit painful, a similar pain that I felt when I was new to anal.
John was very helpful and patient, he gave me all the time I wanted, even if it meant only oral for the night. After many tries, I managed to take both John and the dildo at the same time.

And I have to say you are right. The feeling was incredibly intense! I was stretched to my limits but in a good way. I’m used to having prostate orgasms and didn’t have one that time but the effects were as powerful in different ways. I’ve heard about a type of anal orgasm that is focused on the sphincter and rectum, maybe it was that.

After that night, I wanted to go for the true double anal experience but there were problems. John and I are monogamous, we’ve been together for more than 5 years and we’ve never cheated on each other.
When I suggested having another man for double anal, John was uncomfortable. We talked a lot about it and I think he’s feeling insecure about his size since I enjoyed DAP a little bit too much. He even commented about the size of one of my dildos, something he never did before.

Here’s the thing, I love John. He’s a great partner and amazing in bed. I often have prostate orgasms with him. I’m now feeling guilty. Our life outside the bedroom is going strong but the sex now is less intense. There wasn’t another double anal night ever since my suggestion. I kinda don’t know what to do and want to hear your opinion about this.

It’s great that you were able to experience DAP together—even using a dildo, that’s a huge milestone, especially as a first time. The fact that it triggered something new in you doesn’t mean you’ve outgrown what you have, or that you don’t enjoy sex with your partner. Double anal is a type of stimulation that can’t be replicated with just one penis or dildo, it’s a unique sensation and experience that requires multiple dildos, partners, or a combination thereof.

It also makes perfect sense that John might feel insecure or hesitant. When a partner sees you crave something that they alone can’t physically give, it can stir up feelings of inadequacy—even if they’re totally unfounded. That doesn’t mean he isn’t enough. It means he’s human. The best thing you can do now is help him feel chosen again. Let him know how much that DAP night meant because it was with him, not in spite of it. Remind him how you trust him to take you to your edge safely, and how no toy or fantasy can replace the connection you have.

As for involving another man—it’s okay that the idea was hard for him. But it doesn’t have to be off the table forever. You’ve already laid the foundation by being honest. What matters now is showing him that this isn’t about replacing or comparing—it’s about exploring something you want to share. You can keep the door open gently. Maybe frame it less as “bringing someone in” and more as “experiencing something together that we couldn’t otherwise do.” Let him feel like it’s an adventure you’re inviting him on—not a compromise he has to make.

In the meantime, you don’t have to give up DAP entirely. Keep training. Try dual toys again now that you’ve done it with him. Keep your body open and engaged. And most of all, keep celebrating what you and John already have. This doesn’t have to be a roadblock—it can be the beginning of something even deeper between you.

L: I’m 23, and I’ve never had sex. For a long time I felt like I was behind and really missing out, but more recently as I’ve learned more about anal only I’m actually glad that I didn’t have vaginal sex and lose my virginity with my pussy. I’ve been reading a lot, watching a lot of anal porn, and masturbating anally and I want to make my first time really special and train myself to be able to have double anal sex to lose my virginity and hopefully if it goes well, stay double anal only. I think it would be really fitting, not to mention exciting, to have saved myself for something special like this.

I’ve been wearing a butt plug most days, going bigger every month or so, and I’ve been masturbating with dildos a lot. I found I really like the feeling of a big stretch which is a good sign I suppose, and I’ve started using two dildos within a few minutes most sessions. Is there any advice you can give me to be ready to go straight to DAP the very first time without needing to warm up? And of course, how I can meet guys who are interested in DAP and who would be good to have sex with the first time?

I love your take on that, not missing out by not having sex, but saving yourself for the right thing. And I fully support and encourage your desire to go straight to double anal. You’re doing exactly the right things with your training and practice for it. Keep it up, work up to larger dildos until you’re at or exceeding average penis thickness every time you train, and start practicing trying to penetrate with both dildos together at the same time. You’ll get there, and once you can do that every day, you’re ready.

Finding two guys to lose your virginity to might be the harder thing, but it’s very doable. If you have two close male friends you could bring it up to them, or you could seek out people in a group sex lifestyle and see if anyone is interested. Men experienced with double anal would be best, but even just those who are open to or experienced with group sex could be quickly adapted to DAP. Just be clear you want it to be double anal only, no single anal, no vaginal, and set those ground rules immediately from the start.

Going anal only isn’t just a decision—it’s a process. It takes time, discipline, and the right mindset to fully disconnect from vaginal habits and embrace your butthole as your true sexual center. That transformation doesn’t happen overnight. But with intention and consistency, it can happen faster than you think.

Here’s a proven 90-day timeline to transition into a fully anal only lifestyle—mentally, physically, emotionally, and sexually.

Day 0: Your Decision Point

This is the moment everything changes. You decide: no more pussy. No more fingers, no more clit, no more “exceptions.” You’re not waiting for someone to give you permission. You’re giving it to yourself. From this moment on, your ass is your only sexual access point.

Now the real work begins.

Days 1–30: Detox and Foundation

Goals:

• Cut out all vaginal contact—no exceptions, not even “just touching.”
• Begin daily plug wear for at least 1–2 hours (working up as needed).
• Masturbate anally at least several times a week, including whenever cravings are hard to resist.
• Journal cravings or temptations and how you overcame them.
• Tell your partner (or yourself, if solo) that vaginal sex is no longer on the table.

The first month is about rewiring your brain and your habits. You’re not “depriving” yourself—you’re redirecting. Every urge toward vaginal contact becomes an opportunity to re-center around your ass. Expect resistance. That’s normal. Stay committed.

Support Tip:
Install a small but meaningful ritual—e.g., plugging up when you wake up, or lighting a candle before stretching—to reinforce that this is your new norm.

Days 31–60: Stretch and Surrender

Goals:

• Increase plug size and wear time—aim for a large plug 4–6 hours daily or overnight.
• Continue intentional anal masturbation only—no pussy contact even to climax.
• Replace all porn with anal only content (include double anal porn as often as possible).
• If in a relationship, continue to maintain anal only sex exclusively—no “occasional” pussy slip-ins.

This is the surrender phase. Your ass becomes your comfort, your craving, your release. The plug, toys and cock no longer feels foreign—it feels essential. Vaginal denial is no longer an active struggle. It’s just who you are now.

Support Tip:
Join online communities or forums (like this blog) where anal only is celebrated. Hearing others’ success stories reinforces your own.

Days 61–90: Integration and Identity

Goals:

• Reach full-time plug wear whenever not actively being penetrated.
• Work up to to long-term anal stretching goals, like larger toys or even double anal.
• Commit to long-term anal only, and don’t go back to vaginal just because you’re done with your initial challenge.

By this stage, anal only isn’t something you’re “trying.” It’s who you are. Your body responds differently. Your fantasies shift. Your hole is open, hungry, and fulfilled—and your pussy feels irrelevant, untouched, and sealed in the past.

Support Tip:
Mark Day 90 with a celebration. A full-day plug challenge. A DAP session. A new custom plug. Make it real. You’ve earned it.

Beyond Day 90: Lifelong, Plugged, Proud

Anal only isn’t a challenge—it’s your lifestyle now. You may still face the occasional temptation, but they lose power quickly. The further you get from vaginal contact, the more distant it feels. The more time you spend open, stretched, used and loved through your ass, the more right your body feels.

If you’re just starting this journey: don’t rush. But don’t doubt. The timeline works. Thousands of women have gone from curious to committed in 90 days or less—and never looked back.