Month: July 2015


What’s So Bad About the Pussy?

Anonymous: what’s so bad about the pussy?

ass-the-new-vagina: Spoken like someone who’s never experienced the joy of ass!  Aside from the nagging pregnancy risk, it’s not that pussy is bad so much as it is that ass is just BETTER, superior in every way.  Tighter, hotter, dirtier, better orgasms for the man and the woman… sure, you could eat a plain frozen hamburger patty you heated up in the microwave every day, but wouldn’t you rather have a chef fix you a filet mignon?

Message: Anal Only Statistics

Anonymous: Any numbers for those women who are anal only, as to how often in the month they enjoy it?

In general, I do not have insight into other people’s sex lives, no. From the anal only couples who share such things, it seems 3 to 5 times per week is not uncommon, but some are more frequent and some less. Everyone is different and should do what works for them. This will vary depending on level of experience/training with frequent anal sex, and sex drive.

Message: Backless Panties For Anal

the-filthiest-mind: Have you found any semi-crotchless panties that keep the cunt covered and the asshole accessible? I keep hoping to come across some. I want to keep the lube-generator from drying out and at the same time make sure the fuck hole is always on display!

Look for “backless panties” and “cage back panties”—there’s quite a wide selection available, perfect for the anal only lifestyle.

Going to Try Going Anal Only

Anonymous: Since vaginal is so taboo to you, are considering going anal-only?

analarousal: I’ve been considering going anal only lately. I think I’m going to try it out for a set period of time to see if it’s for me. I am at anal only masturbation though and have been for a while.

I definitely recommend going anal only (not that that’s any surprise). What duration are you thinking of to try initially? If you feel the need to ease into it, I’d suggest a week to start, but given that you already love anal, a nice anal only month to begin would probably work out well. That’s been a good period of time for a lot of people to realize that they want to stay anal only.

analarousal: I was thinking a few weeks and if I feel like it’s going well I’ll push myself and double the time and see how it goes. I’ve been very curious about anal only because I’m just so obsessed with it and when I masturbate I’m anal only. I just have a difficult time finding a sexual partner who is as into anal as I am.

Message: What is the Purpose Behind Anal Only?

Anonymous: What is the purpose behind anal only? My girlfriend an I have been testing the waters and its great. She loves mixing anal and vaginal together. I am just curious on why you believe in anal only?

The purpose is simply that it’s what some people prefer and are turned on by. While it does offer other advantages, outlined throughout this blog and elsewhere, that’s the primary motivation behind it. For many people, anal is more pleasurable, and for some vaginal can be unsatisfying, so eliminating it in favor of just anal and oral results in a more pleasurable and rewarding sex life.

Going anal only can cause a boost in arousal, pleasure and intimacy, compared to doing both, which is why it has such popular support once people try it for a while.

Message: Can A Man Orgasm From Anal Without Ejaculating?

Anonymous: I feel kind of silly asking but can a guy orgasm from anal stimulation without ejaculating? My man is interested in trying pegging.

Everyone is different, and different people experience different things from anal penetration, but some men seem to be able to have an anal orgasm that is entirely anal and gives waves of pleasure but without ejaculation. There are also prostate orgasms, which generally are accompanied by ejaculation (but it may be less forceful of an ejaculation).

Message: Would All Girls Be Natural Anal Lovers if Introduced to It First?

Anonymous: Do you think that, if introduced to anal before vaginal or otherwise taught anal as the standard form of sex when they are still new to sexuality, all girls would turn out to be natural anal lovers and to prefer it over vaginal?

I think there’s more involved than just that, including physical differences that make some women prefer vaginal, some prefer anal, and some enjoy both equally. Experiencing anal before vaginal would certainly offer an anal advantage, though, and I wouldn’t discourage someone from having anal sex first or from choosing to become anal only without having yet had vaginal sex.

Anal is Like the Purest Form of Pleasure for Everyone

Anonymous: Isn’t it so satisfying to have the large plug stuffed in your asshole? It’s like it immediately turns your cunt into a faucet! I love that feeling!

scaredfeminist: Haha yes that’s so true! Just a moment of discomfort shoving it in, and then my brain scrambles and my mouth waters and my cunt swells!! It’s amazing the effect it has. Honestly anal is more pleasurable than vaginal in many ways. It’s like vaginal was just pushed on us for puritanical purposes and anal is like the purest form of pleasure for everyone.

alexamindslave: i completely agree. ANAL is the purest form of pleasure. it is literally the best sex. you should ALWAYS masturbate with something inside you. if you keep doing it, you will eventually actually crave that moment of discomfort because your body and brain will know what pleasure is just about to happen.  i am so addicted to anal i keep something inside me almost all the time. sleeping. work. all. the. time. i literally cannot imagine going a day without something inside me. anal forever!

Message: Feeling Dry and Raw Even With Lube

Anonymous: So my husband and I started anal play a few months ago and it’s been wonderful! Some of the best orgasms I’ve ever had. But there are times, more often then not, that it feels dry and raw but there’s plenty of lube and spit. It can make it really uncomfortable. I was wondering if there is a certain type of lube the works to prevent this? Or if I’m doing something wrong myself? Thanks!

It’s somewhat odd to feel dry if using enough lube. Be sure that both of you (or you and the entire surface of a toy being used) are well-lubricated so that the lube gets deep enough inside to reach everywhere important.

A raw, burning feeling can sometimes arise from certain materials—jelly toys and some others can cause a skin reaction for some people and should be avoided in favor of pure silicone, glass or stainless steel. If fingers are causing the sensation, calluses or sharp edges from fingernails can be unpleasant, and sweat, dirt or certain soaps on fingers can cause a burning sensation or raw feeling.

You can and should certainly try other types of lube as well. Coconut oil, silicone lube (never use along with silicone toys!), a wide variety of water-based lubes, and others. Some people can react negatively to certain lubes, sometimes resulting in a burning sensation, so it’s definitely worth experimenting with that as well.

Good luck! I hope you are able to figure it out and can keep up the awesome anal fun and the fantastic orgasms that result from it!

Message: Sanitation Before Anal?

Anonymous: So, I’ve never tried anal. But I was wondering if there’s anything you have to do before taking part in anal? Like, for sanitation purposes haha

If you eat enough fiber, the rectum generally stays pretty clean and empty on its own except for right when you feel the need to go to the bathroom. So, as long as you go to the bathroom about half an hour before, you should be clean. I suggest experimenting on your own in the shower to familiarize yourself with that part of your body and to provide an easy way to clean in the event of any unexpected mess.

Some people choose to use an anal douche to flush out their rectum with warm water, but this isn’t strictly necessary for everyone and can take some practice to use just enough water to clean the rectum but not enough to go deeper into the colon. I suggest starting without this and only using it if you feel it’s necessary.