Month: April 2015

Message: Anal Only Women Submissive?

Anonymous: Are many anal only women submisive, does it have correlation with that? Are there also dominant anal only women? Or many that have no intrest in sub/dom play?

As I’ve posted about before, there are a lot of approaches to anal only. Many do approach it from a submissive standpoint, and there is a lot of appeal for anal only for submissive women. However, there are also plenty of couples who have simply replaced vaginal sex with anal sex because it’s just what they prefer and they find anal more romantic, intimate, better for their relationship, etc.

Quote of the Day: Why Women May Prefer Anal

An excellent summary of why anal sex can be just as pleasurable, if not more pleasurable, than vaginal for many women.

A woman’s sexual pleasure does not come from her vagina, it comes from her clitoris. People often fail to realize this, because there are plenty of women who enjoy and get off from vaginal penetration, without even touching their clitoris. Or so they think. There is far more to the clitoris than meets the eye. What you see is just the very tip of the iceberg. The rest of the clitoris consists of sensitive erectile tissue throughout the pelvic floor, part of which wraps around the vagina (called the corpus cavernosum clitoris), and another part of which extends back to the anus when erect (called the crura). The vagina does not have many nerves at all, because it is set up for babies to be able to pass through. However, the internal tissue of the clitoris that surrounds the vagina contains the nerves that are stimulated through vaginal penetration. These are the nerves that make sex pleasurable for a woman, under the right circumstances. It is important to note that these nerves are not in the vagina, but merely stimulated through the vaginal wall. And in many women, the nerves of this sensitive clitoral tissue can be stimulated just as effectively, perhaps even more effectively, through the rectal wall during anal penetration.

Furthermore, anal penetration can make orgasms more intense for both men and women because the sphincters clench and unclench rapidly throughout an orgasm, and having something there for these muscles to clench on is how anal penetration intensifies an orgasm.


Message: Going Anal Only Keeps Women More Aroused

Anonymous: I’ve found anal is the best way to keep a woman’s focus where it should be, on pleasing you! My current girlfriend has recently made the transition to vaginal chastity and while it’s been a rough road, she’s starting to get the point. I make sure to fuck her hole nightly and while she’s cried a couple times, she knows her job is to make me cum. She’s liked it so much that she convinced one of her friends to try it and soon I might have two anal sluts to play with! This blog has been a big help!

For those who are into denial and get off on serving others, this can be a great approach to anal only. Anal orgasms can be very pleasurable—more than vaginal for some women—but often are less sating, and the recipients of an anal orgasm may remain somewhat horny after. Going anal only often results in a higher sex drive and the resulting benefits of such.

Message: Historic Precedents of Anal Only

Anonymous: I know that in Ancient Greece, especially on Cretes and in Sparta, anal sex was preferred to vaginal. What are other historical precedents of going AO or mostly anal?

Anal sex has been commonly used as a contraceptive across cultures and throughout history, because it was the most reliable way to have sex without getting pregnant. The fact that it’s just as pleasurable for most, and more pleasurable for many, than vaginal sex was no doubt an added bonus.

The Moche culture of modern-day Peru is a famous example—their artwork almost exclusively depicts anal sex with little to no examples of vaginal.

Message: Prefer Anal, But Don’t Want to Give Up Pussy

arrogantvolcanoAs an old fucker who has some experience; I really like double dipping, pussy, ass, pussy mouth, ass, mouth, pussy, ass, mouth. That sort of thing. I love anal best, but I’m not sure I’d ever be happy to skip the vagina entirely. Thoughts?

Anal only isn’t necessarily for everyone. If you want to keep doing something, keep doing it. But I suggest trying a week or a month or some period of time anal only to see what it’s like for you. Most who think they’ll miss pussy find that they don’t after sticking with just anal for a while.

And it’s not a good idea to go from anal to vaginal without cleaning first.

Message: Long Term Cons of Anal Sex

Anonymous: so my boyfriend wants to try anal sometime. he has brought this up quite a bit so obviously it is something he is interested in. i guess i would be up for it but my main worry is the long term cons that come from doing it. you know like anal prolapse, it becoming too loose and not being able to hold things leading the diapers, anal tearing, anal cancer… etc. so how do you keep from getting all these things (especially the whole anal prolapse thing)?

Most of those cons are myths, or if they have a shade of truth, they aren’t in any way universal.

Anal prolapse is not caused by anal sex, even if it is regularly practiced. It is possible that it can be caused by extreme anal play at large sizes, but most “prolapse” in porn is a deliberate act resulting from a conscious pushing out after warming up to have a loosened anus, and is not something that happens involuntarily like the true medical condition of anal prolapse. True prolapse is much more likely to be cause by a predisposition to that condition rather than safe anal sex and play.

Looseness/involuntary muscle control leading to incontinence, etc., are caused by muscle damage, not anal sex. Regular anal sex with proper warmup and lube do not cause damage to the anal sphincters, they actually strengthen them and help develop greater muscle control. Read up on how to warm up properly for anal sex and never “push through” pain and you’ll be fine. There can be temporary looseness during and after anal sex, but you will tighten up again naturally after, usually within several hours or less.

Anal tearing can be a concern, and you should always warm up a sufficient amount and use plenty of lube to avoid it. With the right practices you can avoid it completely.

Anal cancer is not caused by anal sex, it’s caused by having sex with someone infected with HPV. There is nothing anal specific about this—HPV can also cause cervical cancer.

Message: My Vagina Hasn’t Been Touched In Three Years

Anonymous: When we got married, my husband made it clear that I would only get my cunt fucked once so he could take my virginity. Ever since then he’s made my asshole his primary fuckhole. My vagina hasn’t been touched in three years. I haven’t learned to anal orgasm yet, but I really enjoy knowing how much my body pleases him! So long as he uses me, I don’t care if I never cum again!

That’s the right attitude to have. I have nothing against orgasm as long as it’s an anal orgasm, but remaining anal only with or without orgasm is essential for women. It boosts their sex drive, brings them closer to their partners, and just generally improves their lives. Good for you for being willing to do this and learning to enjoy it.

Message: We Never Use Lube For Anal, But It’s Very Comfortable

Anonymous: my boyfriend and i have tons of anal and we never use lube, but its very comfortable and rarely ever hurts, is that normal?

It’s not common, but it’s not abnormal or entirely unheard of either. Many people use alternate forms of lubrication, and some simply produce more anal mucus than others, which acts as natural lubrication. A few have even reported a correlation between sexual arousal and increased anal mucus production.