A 49 year old man tells about the different anal only relationships he has had. It is another example of how much more common it is than people think to be exclusively anal!

I’m a 49 y.o. man and have had predominantly anal sex with my partners since the age of 18. This includes a marriage of 12 years and 3 other long term relationships.

With my ex-wife, we started anal pretty much straight away and it became predominant in about 95% of our lovemaking, usually starting with oral then anal or occasionally vaginal then anal, but nearly always finishing in her anus. I think my ex enjoyed anal but probably not to the same extent I did, however she enjoyed it more (and encouraged me) to do it hard and fast, and in my experience that is a definite indicator of female enjoyment. She never experienced any ill effects from anal sex and we probably indulged 8-10 times per week.

After divorce and a couple of years alone, I started a serious relationship with a woman of similar age to me who had never engaged in anal and showed no particular interest. Our physical relationship progressed vaginally & orally, but she had the perspicacity to notice that I wasn’t 100% engaged during intercourse, saying it seemed lack-lustre. So, I ventured my anal interest, she tried it and enjoyed it, also enjoying my new-found enthusiasm, and due to some birth control method issues she suffered we found that 100% anal suited us both! It simply became ‘normal’ regular sex for us for the following 3 years, I think she enjoyed that it was unusual to be exclusively anal

Definitely worth reading the rest of the post, where he talks about having no interest in vaginal sex anymore and that he tells all potential suitors that if they’re together, they will be having 100% anal sex only and never any vaginal. It pays to be up front!

As suggested by an anonymous follower, we are launching the Anal Only Lifestyle Forum to allow for more in-depth conversations. A present, nothing will change about the way our tumblr blog is run, and we will continue posting and approving submissions and questions as usual, but if you want to discuss things further and take part in more back-and-forth, head over to the forum, sign up, and start posting!

Anonymous: Have you considered creating an Anal Only Lifestyle forum somewhere so those living the lifestyle or considering it can have more in-depth discussions? Tumblr is really limited and doesn’t allow for back and forth discussion threads. It also requires each post to be really short. Keep up the good work, though! You’re doing a great job of highlighting how much better sex between a man and woman can be and what most people are missing.

Thanks for the suggestion. An Anal Only Lifestyle forum announcement will be coming later today.

I’ve been reading this blog with a great deal of interest recently. This is a topic which, while new to many, obviously attracts a lot of passion. And why not? Sex is a food for the soul and a basic human need.

And I’ve been reflecting how, based on my own experiences, a place like this is a much needed outlet for what I think is suppressed feelings, for many many people.

Mostly men, but that’s just from what I’ve seen in my own life – this is not a subject I’ve broached with many women. If anything, women are more uneasy about the sexuality aspects of anal sex than men. For sure, the anti-anal lobby (for want of a better word) enforced through cultural norms don’t help – but – my theory is other women misinterpret this as all about men wanting control and dominance. As far as I’ve experienced this just isn’t the case at all, and with the exception of my first time it has always been rather sensual and positive.

But to the point!

A few have spoken to the “instinctive” desires of men and in this I think there may be more than a germ of truth. In most of the men I’ve known there was always a definite keen, or learned interest, but in others it seemed almost innate. Hence these men claiming to have no sexual interest in the vagina. I’ve experienced just this.

For myself, who enjoys anal sex it has always been easy (and preferable) to make adjustments to my lifestyle to accommodate those partners. I find some are not able to have fully satisfying sex lives otherwise. You see, I believe this is completely “normal” for them. They are just different from the mainstream, but the difficulty is that with this taboo around the subject it just creates so much anguish. Perhaps this also applies to some women?

My message is this: don’t feel like a freak – you can find someone who shares you own interest or allow you to express it – be open and trust and talk to your partner.

angelinga97: Thursday was my birthday!!

I actually didn’t do anything for it lol. I’m lame like that.

I keep like stats on what sex I do. I do it because I’m a huge dork AND I get off on it. I love reading comments online about how girls should be pure or innocent or save themselves or whatever. I get a huge rush out of it.

I loooove the fact that I’ve now had more guys in my ass than my “normal” hole. I feel like I can legitimately call myself an ass slut. My goal is 100 guys in my ass by Christmas hehe

I’ve always been an anal fiend. I dated a girl for several years who was a virgin. I started playing with her bottom early on. She seemed to really get into me rubbing on her ass while we kissed. One day she was wearing a skirt with no undies, and leaning over my bed to seduce me. I got the vaseline out and started fingering her asshole. She really got into it. I was careful to always play with her clit and get her hot in other ways before during and after playing with her ass. I fucked her ass with all kinds of toys while eating her out. One day she asked for my cock, but not in her pussy. She was the horniest girl I’ve ever met and she came a dozen times every time I fucked her ass.

Eventually she does have vaginal sex, but ends up not caring for it compared to the pleasures of anal.

We broke up for a while, then got back together a few years later. After a few months of “normal” sex, she suggested going back to “anal only”. My heart leapt (and so did my cock!) For the next year we had anal exclusively – no pussy fucking whatsoever. I didn’t even finger her pussy or use toys in it.

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Anonymous: Yesterdays comments have prompted me to wade in. I agree with “boys need to know their instinct to fuck anally is normal, healthy”. Everything I read/hear suggests that nearly all men (if they admit or not) if it were left to them alone would chose anal most of the time. You only have to look at the evidence such as the rise of anal porn, the increasing questions asked about it and so on. What holds men back is peer pressure, social convention, fear of ridicule or shame.

Anonymous: I agree that how I phrased it is too much detail and parents should be more diplomatic. But I think parents should try to influence some of their kids’ choices, particularly if popular culture is misinforming them. Or maybe I just believe too strongly that a very active sex life focused on anal while eliminating vaginal altogether is best. I also think that we need to get people, starting with youth, into the habit of assuming sex means anal. Vaginal should be a kinky fetish.

Anonymous: I think the parents should explain all 3 but focus on the benefits of anal and the downsides to vaginal cause the boys and girl will get a lot of misinformation from pop culture that is pro-vag. The boys need to know their instinct to fuck anally is normal, healthy and desirable and that it’s not wrong to expect it. The girl needs to also understand the serious risks of vaginal (teen pregnancy) and how she needs to train her rectum to loosen for insertion but grip to milk and pleasure.

Personally, I think that might be a bit much detail for parents to get into, and pushing their own views onto the children, but maybe that’s just the result of living in a society that still limits conversations about sex between children and their parents to the bare essentials, and considers it shameful and embarrassing to have to give or listen to “the talk”.

I definitely agree that busting myths about anal, saying it’s fine to like or prefer it, and giving tips on how to do it safely is a good idea, though.

This is in response to the previous post, but the user changed their username since the post was first made.

Anonymous: This is for s-e-x-ual-love. I had to talk my gf into trying anal, and I know your bf will be thrilled that u just tried. Plus if u let him get in and pump, u will give sexual pleasure ten times more gratifying than pussy sex. Just don’t be surprised if he cums harder and faster. Your biggest risk is getting addicted to the unique feeling of pleasure and pain and realizing how unsuited for fucking your pussy really is. Plz let us know how it goes for u and him.