The husband goes on to say:

She told me that “normal” sex is painful, and I can tell she is in pain. She enjoys oral but will only allow me to penetrate her anally.
My question is that we are intimate 2-3 times a week (usually), and I worry that we may be doing damage to her rectum? Even if we use a lot of lube can damage be done?

The doctor starts off well in her reply:

I do know that with proper lubrication and relaxing technique, anal sex isn’t harmful.

However, she then becomes sidetracked by this obsession that this signifies that there must be something wrong with the relationship; that the wife is bored, lacks sexual desire or is somehow repressed.

It  never occurs to her once that maybe the wife chooses to only have anal sex because she enjoys and prefers it to vaginal.

Read the whole story here.

Anonymous: Something else I wanted to ask, but not enough space: I hear all the time about the proper way to do anal is to prepare, and you can’t just dive in there else you hurt her, and obviously sometimes it can’t be done because she has something up there already. Given all that, how do you make it work with anal only, and also kind of spur of the moment sex?

The need to prepare and take things super slowly is more important when starting out. As a woman becomes more experienced with receiving anal penetration, whether it be from penises, fingers or toys, she gains more muscle control over the area (contrary to the ridiculous popular myth that anal sex results in loss of muscle tone) and can relax her sphincter muscles at will to allow easy entry. You still generally need some sort of lube, but with an anally experienced couple you can just drop a little bit on and slowly slide right in, pain-free. It’s good to always err on the cautious side, and you can use a finger or toy up her ass during cunnilingus to help loosen her up before switching to full anal. Lots of women love butt plugs, worn either during foreplay or during the day to stay horny and a bit looser, making impromptu anal more feasible.

Most people can tell if they need to go to the bathroom, and notice it even more as they explore that area sexually. It’s generally not a big deal to go to the bathroom shortly before having anal sex. If you have a good diet, it’s fairly clean inside the rectum unless you need to go to the bathroom right then.

A woman writes about how she and her husband have discovered the joys of anal sex and how they now have anal sex most days:

My husband and I have been having anal sex for about three months now. We tried it after a friend told me she enjoyed it with her husband. I was a little surprised by this. I started thinking about it and asked my husband if he wated to try it. After four or five trys we suceeded. I had the most incredible orgasm I’ve ever felt. My husband said he never felt anything so intense as cumming in my butt.

This is a very special time for many couples, as this often re-ignites a more passionate sex life. It is understandable that some people will think there must be a catch, or a price to pay for this pleasure. For as she continues:

Is it safe to have so much anal sex? What will it do to my butt? Is it safe for him to cum in my butt? It hasn’t made me sick or anything. I just let it come out naturally.

As covered before, no permanent, long-term or irreversible damage can be done to the anus during the course of normal anal love-making, no matter the frequency. A temporary sensitivity, at worst, as would be the case with any sexual activity done within a short space of time.

As for semen deposited in the rectum; this is purely a matter of personal choice. Most people enjoy and would rather finish there, and it does no harm at all, though a small percentage of people do have an allergy to semen, but this would be the same with any contact with seminal fluid.

The many responses to her question confirm the same thing, including from couples who have only have anal sex.

The bottom line is that, as many couples have found, there is no such thing as ‘too much anal sex’. It needn’t be reserved for special occasions or rationed, but can be a totally satisfying and valid replacement for vaginal sex.

Read the whole story here.

Once you and your partner have become comfortable with regular anal sex there are some different techniques you may want to try.

Some of these may even be beneficial if you are considering going anal only and wish to enhance your lovemaking.

The article includes this useful tip:

Don’t always use the bedroom. With practice and repetition, you may find you don’t need to go through as much preparation for anal sex. Some women, with a fair amount of experience, find they only need to apply some lubrication to their partner’s penis and they are ready. Keep small packets of lubricant on you at all times since you never know when your partner may want to “bend you over.”

For it really is a myth that anal sex requires that much more preparation time or is in any way more difficult to perform. The rectum is generally clear and clean, and even without ‘proper’ lube even saliva is sufficient for a woman to admit her lovers penis should the situation demand it. You really can have anal sex any time, anywhere, just as you would have done vaginally.

Read about this woman, with her all too frequently asked question, caused by a popular misconception:

…the question is this: will frequent anal sex ruin my muscle

Like many women she naturally wants to indulge in regular anal sex with her partner for their mutual enjoyment, but is anxious that she may be doing long term damage.

As the good doctor herself replies, this is very unlikely to happen; millions of people across the world, and throughout history have enjoyed anal sex, yet anal incontinence remains very uncommon.

It is unfortunate that this myth which does not stand up to scrutiny stands in the way of so many enjoying a life of anal sex to the full.

Be assured that you can begin practising anal only today and no harm will come of it, provided you follow the usual precautions such as use of adequate lubrication and stopping at any point you feel discomfort—anal sex done properly is about pleasure.