Message: Penis/Clit Denial Increases Anal Pleasure for Everybody
Samy: Hello! Even though I’m a gay bottom, I’ve always loved your blogs. A few months ago, reading on clitoral denial again, I thought: “hey, why wouldn’t I try it myself?” So, I did exactly like you recommend here: I asked my partners not to pay any sort of attention to my penis any more, I stopped touching it altogether, I started playing with my ass more often, and whenever I felt the urge to masturbate my penis, I masturbated my ass instead.
And it works! Little by little, the urge for penis stimulation decreased, and the pleasure I’m getting from my ass went through the roof, both during sex and during solo play! My partners also noticed a HUGE improvement, they say my ass feels much better, more reactive to the fucking it gets, and they find me much more submissive and slutty and eager to please.
Now I regret not having done this way sooner. Even psychologically, I now perceive my ass as my only sexual organ. I really recommend anal sex and penile/clitoral denial to anybody who likes being penetrated, it’s a life changer! Thank you so much for your blogs!
It really is a life- and game-changer. The challenge is getting started and getting past old habits, but if you stick with it, excluding non-anal stimulation, whether it be penile or clitoral, really does make anal that much better, as you’ve discovered.
I’ve heard from a lot of different people over the years who have taken the same step and moved to pure 100% anal stimulation only, whether by simply stopping all non-anal stimulation, or through physical chastity or even more permanent options such as surgical removal of their clitoris, that all arousal shifts to their ass and their sexuality becomes completely centered around anal penetration rather than their genitals.
Just as there’s a huge difference between having anal sex regularly and excluding vaginal penetration to be anal only, there’s a similarly large difference between being anal only with clitoral or penis stimulation and being truly anal only, where anal penetration is the exclusive source of pleasure. It’s hard to understand without having tried it, but it significantly boosts arousal and unlocks new pleasures and anal desires and abilities you didn’t know were possible for yourself before.
If someone doesn’t feel ready to take this step or is happy with a combination of stimulation and doesn’t find that it interferes with their long-term pleasure or commitment to being anal only, that’s certainly fine, and you can absolutely be anal only without giving up penis or clit stimulation, but if you want to dive deeper into the anal only lifestyle and experience it even more fully, this is a great way to do it and I highly recommend it for everyone to at least try for a while.
I’ve pretty much retired my sore, tired little penis from active duty. I may find myself doing some reflexive squeezing and stretching when I’m sitting around naked–but no more stroking. Stroking just brings out the soreness, it’s too difficult to reach even an unsatisfying orgasm, and weak orgasms are very depressing. However, if someone else wanted to play with it, I certainly wouldn’t slap their well-meaning hand. The sexual area in my brain is very responsive to external voice and touch and they can quickly bring me to very pleasurable orgasm and ejaculation.
My penis does, I assume, still have some value for exhibition and display, but it never had much because of it’s small size.
So, by considering anal as a new, inviting option, I’m making a virtue out of necessity–but also a virtue out of a long-repressed tendency. I’m not a person with a fully-functioning erectile system and high male hormone levels who’s purposefully switching over from penile to anal only from strong conviction.
Most of the anal receptive testimony here is from women, and they don’t even have prostate glands which makes me even more hopeful. And my experience with brief digital examinations has been very positive. During a recent such exam, I was overflowing with newfound anticipation, enthusiasm, and satisfaction.
In the future, my penis will still be a conduit for the happy ejection of warm semen, but the motivating forces, hopefully, will be applied inside my anus and against my golf-ball-sized prostate gland.