Anonymous: My wife doesn’t like my cum in her butt can give her like a mild case of diarrhea later on or the next day. Otherwise I reckon she’d be open to the idea of more anal sex than we have. Any suggestions how she can lessen the effects? Is it the lube? I would prefer not to use a condom or withdraw. I’m hoping it doesn’t cause any harm when I cum inside other than what I’ve described.

Water-based lubricants that contain glycerin can cause diarrhea when used anally for some people who are sensitive to it. Try silicone lube or coconut oil. (Note that silicone lube cannot be used with silicone sex toys, and coconut oil cannot be used with condoms.)

Some people do have a sensitivity to semen, and it is possible this could cause diarrhea, but it is fairly uncommon. Is it possible that instead of diarrhea it is merely the mixture of semen and lubricant flowing out some time later in the day? It can stay up there for some time if not pushed out shortly after ejaculation.

Aside from a sensitivity to semen, there is no medical harm that can come from ejaculating inside her rectum (assuming you are STD-free, etc., of course).

In time any woman who starts having anal sex will feel like she can do it almost as easily as having vaginal sex.

From this discussion.

For more information about meeting new partners and dating in the anal only lifestyle, as well as everything else relating to anal sex and going anal only, check out our Guide to the Anal Only Lifestyle.

A woman suffering from vaginismus, a medical condition which makes vaginal sex painful for her, wonders about what guys think about this and whether it would prevent them from being interested in dating her if they could only do anal and not vaginal.

I have a condition called vaginismus that basically means having sex in my p-ssy is very painful for me. Penises, fingers, even tampons – putting anything in there hurts too much. My vagina spasms involuntarily and it gets too painful for me to enjoy it. I’ve seen my doctor about it but so far none of the treatments have helped much.

With my ex, I would instead do BJs and let him do me anal while playing with my clit. He liked it, but I’m worried that other guys won’t be the same. What do you think? Could you date a girl who wouldn’t let you in the front door?

She gets plenty of reassurance that this wouldn’t be a problem for most men, that relationships are about far more than purely sex, that they would do whatever she needed to best enjoy herself sexually, and that in fact many men greatly prefer anal sex themselves and consider an anal only partner to be a dream girl and they wish more girls would go anal only like her. This response fairly well sums things up:

Most guys would do anything to have an anal only girlfriend. I can’t imagine it being a problem for very many men at all.

In recent years it has become more acceptable to admit a love of or preference for anal sex, and the truth is that the anus gives much more pleasure to a guy than a vagina. The vagina is, therefore, very much over-rated.

So, to be in an anal-only relationship is a wonderful and fulfilling experience – very intimate, very satisfying. Such relationships are usually strong and trusting, forming a close bond. So it is a win-win.

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Anonymous: I’ve never heard of this lifestyle before. All the same I’m very curious. Is it common? How do you meet others who want this same lifestyle? What made people choose this? Never tried anal so I’m just trying to understand the appeal. Is it really that much better people will give up vaginal forever???

It’s not extremely common, but it is growing as the stigmas around anal sex are fading. While many people love vaginal sex, there are many others of both genders who find anal to be more enjoyable.

Everyone is built differently, and some women have their pleasure center in their clitoris, while others have it in their vagina, and still others in their rectum. Many women cannot orgasm from vaginal stimulation alone and require clitoral stimulation—in this case, replacing vaginal penetration with anal penetration can sometimes make the clitoral orgasm even stronger. Other women can orgasm from anal penetration alone, without clitoral stimulation, while vaginal penetration did not do much for them. These women are more likely to prefer anal and be willing to have purely anal sex if they can find a partner who will do the same.

It can be difficult to express such a desire, not knowing the preferences of others, and fearing ostracization, and so people of both genders who are interested in such a lifestyle do not always tell their partner. Being open to new experiences and possibilities and not negatively judging people for their desires has and will continue to allow more people to enjoy this lifestyle.

Anonymous: Hi I just recently started dating this lovely guy and I don’t want him to think I’m some kind of freak as I’m really into anal sex, whereas I don’t think he’s at all experienced in that way. It’s the truth when I say I’d be very happy with mostly anal sex (and plenty of oral too). I know most guy’s are supposed to love it but I worry he’ll think I’m obsessed in a weird way and blow the whole thing. On the other hand it’ll be tough if I can’t meet my own needs. How should I handle this?

If you’re unsure what his opinion is on it, but don’t want to give yours away up front, try broaching the subject slowly.

You can initially express your interest in anal passively by wearing a butt plug during oral and vaginal sex—this, in addition to providing you with a form of anal pleasure, demonstrates your like for it without him having to be directly involved. Similarly, if you ever masturbate in front of each other, you could use a dildo up your ass instead of your pussy.

If that doesn’t turn him off, or better yet if it interests and excites him, talk with him. Tell him you really enjoy anal play and anal sex and would like to share it with him. Don’t necessarily say you prefer it up front, just ease into it. A lot of men do love it, or if they haven’t had it yet would jump at the opportunity to experience anal, but not everyone does and so it’s best to take things slowly.

If he’s receptive to anal, guide him through the process of pleasuring you anally and begin to incorporate it into your sex life, occasionally at first and more if he enjoys it. One way many couples who enjoy frequent anal end up is starting each session vaginally and finishing anally. This is an approach you could try once you’ve had anal successfully a few times, if he’s receptive—midway through vaginal sex, ask him to switch to your ass. Just make sure he knows not to go ass-to-pussy.

From there, if he enjoys having frequent (or at least semi-frequent) anal with you, you can try some of the other approaches mentioned here. Plan a special sexy weekend and reiterate how much you love anal and how good it makes you feel and tell him you want him to only fuck you in the ass all weekend. If it’s a hit, do it again sometime, and then try it for longer. Ultimately, if he stays enthusiastic about the idea, tell him you prefer anal and would be happy just having anal all or most of the time because it just feels better to you, and asking if he’d be okay with that.

I understand not wanting to jeopardize a relationship that otherwise you enjoy very much, and I think that’s why it’s good to remain cautious about it. But ultimately you have to decide whether your need for anal sex is important enough that you need it to be a part of any relationship (and there’s nothing wrong if it is).

There is one other possibility—the two of you can use Mojo Upgrade to discover each other’s interests without revealing incompatible ones. Each of you lists your sexual fantasies, fetishes and interests, and if you both list the same ones, it reveals that the other is interested in them as well, but if only one of you does, the other doesn’t see. It covers all sorts of fantasies, but has an entire section on anal sex and play.

On the level of the “feel” of anal, a woman is tighter and has more muscular control, and she often experiences being penetrated in her anus the way guys wished that they did when he sexes her VJ. Most girls will act so much more submissive in anal than they will in vaginal. A guy is free to cum and not worry about getting his girl pregnant, which has always been one of the big reasons for this. Girls often find that anal sex helps them with their regularity….which guys rarely know much about…..but that’s a big plus for the girls.

Source: Do men like anal sex over vaginal sex?

This is the question asked by a young woman who wants to get an idea how different men feel about anal sex.

One man answers honestly:

Anal all the way! Sure it’s dirty, but when you are in a long term relationship and you’ve done the routine things for many years, anal will be better than a good blowjob. With anal, I can stay hard for 3+ hours. Why is it better? Its tighter, it’s warmer, has more texture and if your wife is relaxed, you can go much deeper.

Anal sex is often the best way to go in a long term relationship, where both partners know and understand each other. In time, as they get used to it many couples find themselves drifting more towards anal only.

Of course not everyone is the same but most men have very positive feelings about anal sex. Women should not be alarmed by this, and indeed many feel proud that they are the source of such pleasure and desire and embrace this side of their sexuality.

Anonymous: I wrote in yesterday about my gf not wanting an “anal only” lifestyle. I have to say thanks for your suggestions. I approached her with the idea of anal only during the month of August, as you suggested, and to my surprise, she agreed. That is a big step for her.

I’m glad to hear it!

I try vaginal once in a while, but anal is still much better. The sphincter is tighter and the sensation inside the anus is much more intense for me. I am totally okay with anal farting because that’s caused by me pumping away. Same goes for any residual poop or slight mess :>)…I don’t do vag sex after I’ve started anal sex. I am an average 6″, and when we are in the spooning position, I can tell you I am in heaven when I am fully inside her. Since I’ve been doing anal with my wife, I can manipulate my penis all the way inside, gently into her colon and she doesn’t feel pain.

Source: Do men like anal sex over vaginal sex?