Anonymous: My boyfriend and I have been together three years, and we’re monogamous. We always do anal but never really thought about calling it ‘anal only.’ Is AO something that applies to gay men too?

Yes—anal only absolutely applies to gay men. In many ways, gay couples like yourselves have been quietly embodying the lifestyle long before it had a name.

Anal only isn’t about gender. It’s about commitment to anal sex as the primary form of penetration, intimacy, and release. With no pussy, there’s no distraction. Just the butthole, always and only.

For straight couples it can often take on an aspect of vaginal denial and rejection since there is that choice, while for gay men it can be more about a celebration of the inevitability of anal. Some bottoms choose to reject touching or using their penis and exclusively receiving anal and giving oral, but that can vary from person to person.

Pam & Sam: I’ve been wanting to share some of my personal experiences and confirm a few things I’ve read here. I’m a woman, happily married with no kids, and over the last couple of years, my husband and I have discovered a fierce passion for the stag & vixen lifestyle.

Together, we dive into this wild world, exploring swinger clubs and tight-knit circles where we connect with other couples—and sometimes with multiple men. Sometimes my husband jumps right in, other times he prefers to watch me take full control. This dynamic has pulled us closer and added a deliciously raw edge to our relationship.

Not long ago, I took a bold leap from double penetration to double anal. At first, it was challenging, but it quickly became a game-changer. I never imagined we’d enjoy it this much. This new thrill lets me—and us—fully indulge in group sex action, and I won’t lie—I got hooked on double anal. Now, we’re enjoying it to the absolute fullest without me having to step into porn or expose myself publicly. It’s our private, dirty secret—and it feels fucking amazing.

He even wanted me—actually allowed me, call it what you want—to go solo with double anal while he watched a couple of times. He told me it was mind-blowing for him to see how I was completely owning all those men, stretching and filling my ass to the max. The way I mastered every inch had him utterly captivated. You can’t imagine how empowered and damn sexy I felt afterward. That raw, intense feeling of control and pleasure was intoxicating—pure power.

For us, this lifestyle is about personal growth and self-discovery, the thrill of voyeuristic and shared pleasure, and exploring sexual possibilities that keep our relationship vibrant and alive. It’s a journey that requires trust, communication, and openness, but the rewards are beyond worth it.

I hope sharing this encourages others who are curious or considering this path. Living boldly and loving freely has truly transformed us.

I love being a hotwife. There’s something wildly liberating about owning this role with my husband’s full support. Despite the steamy encounters with other men and couples, there are no romantic feelings involved—our love is exclusive, fierce, and rock solid.

Thanks so much for sharing, I’m glad that you’re enjoying this experience and have made the transition from DP to double anal. I hope that you are also embracing anal only as part of this transition and no longer use your vagina anymore. If you really enjoy DAP over time you may find yourself wanting to explore going double anal only!

With some content focusing on encouraging women to maintain their vaginal virginity if they have the choice and go straight to anal only without ever using their pussy, this can lead women who have already had vaginal sex to wonder if there’s a place for them in the anal only lifestyle. And the answer is: of course there is, everyone is welcome in the anal only lifestyle, you just need to commit to going anal only going forward. Anal only isn’t a prize for the untouched. It’s a choice, a commitment, and a mindset—and those are things you can embrace at any point in your journey.

What Matters Is Where You’re Headed

Maybe you’ve had vaginal sex. Maybe it was fine, maybe it wasn’t. Maybe you liked it at the time, or maybe you never did. It doesn’t matter. What matters is what your body and your mind are drawn to now.

Many women find that after discovering anal—real anal, not just a side act—they feel something click. A hunger that’s deeper. A stretch that’s more complete. A connection that’s far more intimate. Suddenly, the idea of going back to vaginal feels not just uninteresting but wrong. And for some, even repellent.

That shift doesn’t invalidate your past. It confirms your future.

A Different Kind of Purity

Pussy-based definitions of purity are outdated and don’t serve you. Anal only creates a new kind of purity—not one about “saving” yourself, but about fully embracing what you really want. It’s not about shame or restriction. It’s about intention. It’s about choosing to give your ass everything, and to give your pussy nothing.

That might mean closing a door you once opened. It might mean gently telling partners that you’ve changed. That from now on, your holes don’t share duties. The ass is for love, for sex, for life. The pussy is off-limits. Not forgotten—just irrelevant.

You’re not late. You’re right on time.

Building a Life on Anal

Being anal only doesn’t require a clean slate—it builds a stronger foundation the moment you decide to start. You plug in. You stop touching yourself vaginally. You start training intentionally. You reshape your identity around your butthole: how it feels, how it serves, how it fulfills you. And you stop apologizing for any of it.

For many, anal only isn’t just about sex. It’s about lifestyle. About discipline, devotion, and connection. About putting the past behind you—literally and figuratively—and letting your butthole lead the way forward.

So if you’re wondering whether you can still be anal only, the answer is simple: if you want to be, you’re already headed in the right direction.

Joslynn: I’m a trans woman and for about 2 years I’ve been trying to find the limit my ass can be stretched, almost every day. I can see I’ve definitely progressed, but I want it even looser. How do all the porn stars have such blown out assholes and are able to take huge toys, literally, 2 feet deep in their asses? How are they able to be very rapidly fisted? I know part of it is a lot of practice, but there has to be something else, right? What am I missing?

Thanks for your question, Joslynn, and for sharing your goals. What you’re describing is something a lot of people who are deep into anal play wonder at some point: what does it really take to reach those advanced levels of stretch, depth, and responsiveness? You’re right that consistent practice is a big part of it, but there are definitely other elements that go into what you’re seeing in extreme anal performers.

First, body type and anatomy matter. Some porn performers simply have a more naturally relaxed pelvic floor or rectal elasticity, which gives them an easier time going deeper or looser. Hormonal status, body size, and even connective tissue flexibility can all influence this. That doesn’t mean it’s unattainable — just that some people may progress more quickly.

Second, many of the stars who can take massive toys or hands rapidly have put in years of very specific training. Daily or near-daily play helps, but longer-duration stretching sessions (think 30–60 minutes minimum daily with large plugs or toys, often multiple hours a day) are often a key factor. Many performers use incremental toy sizing systems, work up slowly over time, and frequently revisit sizes they’ve already mastered to maintain openness.

You might also be seeing the effects of temporary gaping and preparation — often, stars warm up with trainers or hands well before filming. What you’re seeing on camera isn’t always just what their body can do “cold.” Some also use enemas or douches not just to clean but to soften and relax the lower rectum beforehand.

Lastly, don’t underestimate the mental side. A lot of what allows people to reach those extremes is a deep mental connection to submission, surrender, or accomplishment, and training your mind to associate big stretch with arousal, not fear.

You’re already doing a lot right. Keep listening to your body, celebrate your progress, and don’t rush pain or strain. Some of the deepest, most blown-out girls you see in porn got there over 5–10 years — and with plenty of trial and error. If you stay patient and intentional, you’ll keep making progress.

VanessaK: I had a baby last year and haven’t wanted vaginal since. Is it normal to feel more drawn to anal after giving birth? It just feels more intimate and tighter. Has anyone else made the switch post-pregnancy?

You are definitely not alone, a lot of women find that their interest in vaginal sex and vaginal arousal declines after giving birth. It’s the perfect time to make the switch to anal only, and really cements the idea that your vagina is only for giving birth and not for sex. Enjoy it, and stay anal only!

For women living anal only, it’s not uncommon to occasionally feel a tug of curiosity about what you left behind. The vagina, once seen as central, is now dormant—untouched and unneeded. And yet, sometimes, a stray thought forms, a subtle feeling, a question: What would it feel like to use my pussy again?

The Legacy of Vaginal Conditioning

From childhood, we’re taught that the vagina is the center of female sexuality. Penetration, pleasure, periods, reproduction, loss of virginity—all routed through one place. It becomes the expectation, the symbol of sex, the assumed default.

So when you go anal only, you’re not just making a physical shift, you’re rejecting a cultural norm. You’re overriding decades of conditioning. And every now and then, that conditioning might try to whisper back.

That whisper isn’t proof that you’re not anal only. It’s proof that you’re undoing something deeper.

What “Curiosity” Usually Means

For many women, vaginal curiosity is less about real desire and more about:

• A reaction to external triggers (a memory, an old fantasy, a scene in a show)
• Hormonal cycles that create momentary sensitivity
• Psychological rebellion against the boundaries you’ve chosen
• A desire for something easier, especially if anal orgasms are still difficult for you

Ask yourself: Do I really want to use my pussy again? Or do I just want to feel something forbidden, different, or nostalgic? Often, the answer is clear: you don’t want to go back.

When Women Give In—and Regret It

Some anal only women do give in to vaginal curiosity at some point. And almost without exception, the result is the same: disappointment, disconnection, and deep regret.

They often say that it wasn’t anywhere as pleasurable as they had remembered, that it may have even been uncomfortable or painful, and that they can’t believe they broke their streak for something so disappointing.

The act itself is rarely pleasurable compared to anal. It doesn’t satisfy. And while it may resolve the question of “what if,” it almost always leads to renewed and even stronger commitment to anal only going forward.

But here’s the truth: you don’t have to learn the hard way.

That regret can be avoided. You don’t have to break your streak to know that your ass is where your real pleasure lives. Curiosity doesn’t need to be acted on. It just needs to be understood, acknowledged, and then redirected.

How to Handle the Feeling

1. Don’t panic. You haven’t failed anything by having a thought. Anal only is not about being numb. It’s about staying aware and aligned.
2. Redirect arousal through the ass. The fastest way to silence the whisper is to amplify what already satisfies you. Use a larger plug. Masturbate with a larger dildo. Have a long anal session with your partner. Watch your favorite anal only scene. Let your body remember where it belongs.
3. Recommit symbolically. Put a big butt plug in and journal. Remind yourself, not with guilt, but with intention, why you’ve chosen this path.
4. Talk to your partner or mentor if needed. Sometimes curiosity fades faster when shared and seen for what it is: a moment. Not a need. Not a desire. Just a passing wave.

You gave up your vagina for a reason. You know what your body craves. You know where your real orgasm lives. So when that old curiosity flares up, smile at it. Recognize it. And then let it go. Curiosity doesn’t mean turning around. It means you’re standing on solid ground.

And the only way forward is through your ass.

Anonymous: I’ve been lurking here for a while and finally decided to jump in because this place gave me the courage to speak up and maybe get some real advice.

I’m almost 30, pretty sexually experienced and adventurous. I’m currently in a relationship — stable, grown-up, and organized, just like I wanted. Before this, I was all over the place: multiple boyfriends, threesomes, and somewhere along the way, I discovered my absolute passion for anal sex. It’s become my biggest turn-on.

Now, here’s the thing. My boyfriend is super wealthy and spoils me in every way except in bed. He’s mostly into oral and vaginal, and no matter how much I try, he’s just not into anal. I’ve even tried to get him to experiment with it, but no luck. Meanwhile, I find myself masturbating to anal-heavy porn, recently even mostly double anal scenes — those drive me wild. I even catch myself daydreaming about being in those scenes, completely taken and stretched, and it’s honestly the hottest thing I can imagine. What’s wrong with me?

I’m seriously craving an anal-only sex life, but how do you convince him to open up to that? I’ve tried everything I can think of, but he’s just not there. And forget about double anal or group stuff — I don’t even know how to bring that up without killing the mood or freaking him out. Am I crazy for wanting this so badly? Should I just accept a stable but kind of boring sex life? Or… is it okay to explore this behind his back if he won’t meet me halfway? How do you balance wanting wild, kinky sex with wanting a steady relationship? Has anyone been stuck in this spot and figured out a way to have both? Or should I just end the relationship and look for what truly makes me happy?

I’m really torn and could use some honest advice.

Thank you for being so open. What you’re feeling isn’t “wrong” — it’s deeply human. It’s okay to crave more than what you’re currently getting, especially when you’ve discovered a part of your sexuality that brings you such intense, personal pleasure. Anal, and particularly anal only, can be deeply affirming, and wanting to share that with your partner isn’t selfish — it’s a desire for intimacy, connection, and mutual expression.

At the same time, your partner’s disinterest isn’t a personal failure either. People have limits and preferences, and while those can sometimes shift, they don’t always. The tough part is realizing that compatibility in a relationship isn’t just emotional or practical — it’s sexual too. And when there’s a deep mismatch, especially on something you’re passionate about, it can create a quiet ache over time, even if everything else seems stable.

You’re not crazy for wanting double anal or group sex, or even for fantasizing about it. You’re not broken. You’re a sexual person with vivid and evolving desires — that’s normal. But no matter how strong the craving, going behind your partner’s back isn’t the right move. It might offer a thrill, but at the cost of trust and long-term peace of mind. That doesn’t mean you’re trapped either. It just means the choice you make should come from clarity, not desperation.

If you haven’t already, try having an open, pressure-free conversation with your boyfriend. Not just about anal, but about what arousal means for you now — how it’s become core to your sense of self. He may not be willing to join you fully, but if he loves you, he’ll listen.

If he still can’t or won’t meet you partway — even just with a toy in a low-pressure setting — then you have to ask yourself: Is staying with him more important than living as your full sexual self? That’s not a decision anyone else can make for you.

Joel: Your post congratulating Vicky Sol was a great one! It’s important to thank all the anal focused stars. I’m a male porn star fan and I think a lot of them don’t get that kind of recognition. Of course we have to thank Giorgio Grandi. Without LegalPorno, 0% Pussy might have not existed! Some other ones are Mike Adriano who’s been anal heavy for years and now he has all these anal sites for great content. Markus Dupree has Vogov, not anal only, but it has anal in every video. Skip the pussy content, it’s some great ass fucking!

Absolutely agree — Giorgio Grandi and LegalPorno played a massive role in pioneering the “0% Pussy” concept and pushing the boundaries of what anal scenes could be. Mike Adriano deserves credit too, not just for his signature style but for building whole networks of anal-focused content that have inspired so many fans and performers alike even if they aren’t anal only. Even just having consistent anal in every scene and a strong anal focus is a step in the right direction, though we want to see fully anal only as the end goal!

Anal porn is an art form — and it’s the stars, crews, and fans who’ve helped it evolve into something deeply worthy of celebration. Let’s get more people committing to anal only.

Anal sex has undergone a profound cultural transformation over the past fifty years. What began as a whispered taboo — something framed as dirty, degrading, or niche — has steadily become a central part of modern sexual identity and representation. From porn studios to pop music, memes to mainstream dating discourse, anal has not just entered the conversation, it’s taken it over.

Below is a deep dive into how anal sex became integrated into pop culture and why its rise signals something even larger: the decline of vaginal sex as the default and the inevitable rise of the anal only world.

1970s–1990s: Taboo, Transgression, and Silence

In the 1970s and 80s, anal sex was considered perverse even in porn. Golden age films avoided it entirely. When anal did appear in fringe films or hardcore imports, it was often framed through dominance, pain, and degradation. Scenes focused on girls saying no, flinching, and being pushed past their limits.

In these early portrayals, anal wasn’t about pleasure. It was about control. Women were shown enduring it rather than enjoying it. The message was clear: anal was something men did to women, not something women wanted or enjoyed.

Even into the 1990s, anal remained a “special event” in porn. A performer’s first anal scene was treated as a shocking milestone. Titles emphasized pain or transgression: Painful Pleasures, Anal Perversions. The anus was still Othered — never the focus, never the norm.

Outside of porn, anal was virtually absent from the public conversation. It didn’t appear in mainstream sex education, wasn’t featured in romantic comedies or dramas, and was still coded as “dirty” or deviant. Anal sex was culturally associated with homosexuality, and even in progressive circles, it was rarely discussed openly. Comedians avoided the topic, and if referenced, it was a punchline, not a real option.

2000s: Visibility and Curiosity, But Not Yet Acceptance

In the early 2000s, the rise of the internet allowed viewers to search for exactly what they wanted. Anal categories began climbing in popularity on emerging tube sites. Yet despite growing interest, there were almost no true anal only scenes. Most porn still revolved around vaginal sex, with anal tagged on at the end or mixed in.

Performers who specialized in anal (Belladonna, Sasha Grey, Rocco Siffredi) were seen as extreme. Even popular anal scenes still emphasized domination, mess, and roughness. Viewers watched it, but the framing hadn’t changed: anal was still a performance, not a preference.

In mainstream pop culture, anal began surfacing — slowly. TV shows like Sex and the City (1998–2004) featured hesitant, awkward anal plotlines, often framed as something embarrassing or reluctantly agreed to.

Early 2000s music was still conservative on the topic, but hip hop and underground comedy began to reference “backdoor” sex. American Pie and Road Trip leaned into anal as a gross-out joke. It was visible now — but only barely, and always framed as discomfort, not desire.

2010s: Normalization Through Porn, Music, and Memes

The 2010s saw a dramatic tone shift. Performers began speaking more openly about their real sexual preferences, and for many, anal was at the top of the list. In interviews, on social media, and in cam content, women described anal not as painful but as more intense, more pleasurable, and more fulfilling than vaginal.

Examples:

• Anya Olsen, in a pre-scene interview: “Girls, if you’re watching, try anal! Please! It’s amazing. I cum so easily from anal. It’s like the most intense orgasm ever.”
• Adriana Chechik, on the Pornhub podcast: “Honestly, I cum better from anal. I’m mostly anal only with my boyfriend.”
• Charlotte Sartre, via Twitter: “Why fuck the pussy when there is a perfectly good asshole right there.”
• Lexi Grey, via Twitter: “It’s been a month since a dick has been in my pussy. I’m officially anal only.”

Studios like Tushy and LegalPorno responded by centering anal in almost every scene. No longer just an add-on, it became the entire purpose. For many newer European studios, anal became the default. Most scenes skipped vaginal altogether.

The framing changed too: no more grimaces or tears. Instead, genuine anal orgasms, ass-focused worship, and proud presentation. Women were not just enduring it, they were choosing it.

Outside porn, the pop shift exploded.

• Music: Lyrics about anal and eating ass went mainstream. Kevin Gates’s 2014 declaration, “I eat ass,” went viral and helped popularize the phrase across social media. By 2016, ass eating was a meme genre unto itself.
• TV & Streaming: Broad City featured a full anal sex scene played for humor and honesty. Girls and Euphoria integrated anal into character relationships without shame or scandal.
• Social Media: Tumblr, Twitter, and later TikTok normalized plug wear, anal masturbation, and anal cravings. Anal wasn’t edgy content — it was standard sexual content.
• Dating Culture: “Anal only” preferences began appearing in bios, with women proudly listing plug use, anal training, and anal only expectations.

🔹 2020s: Anal Only as the New Cultural Center

By the 2020s, double anal (DAP) had become a new standard in porn. Once treated as extreme, it’s now common across major platforms. AnalVids features multiple anal only scenes, often focusing on DAP and TAP, almost daily. Women train for it. Fans expect it. And increasingly, DAP is treated as the new default.

Anal only stars, still typically only those making independent content, are celebrated for never having vaginal sex at all. Their commitment is admired, and their scenes set a new bar for purity of focus.

Meanwhile, vaginal sex is quietly vanishing. In most European anal scenes, it’s not just avoided — it’s structurally removed. The anus is the only point of penetration. Viewers no longer expect a pussy shot. They expect camera focus on the ass — stretched, filled, opened.

Pop culture reflects the shift:

• Ass-eating is considered more intimate than oral sex on a vagina.
• Women post openly about plug training, “needing to be filled,” and being permanently stretched.

The Future: Denormalizing Vaginal Sex

This is no longer just about acceptance. It’s about replacement. Anal is:

• More orgasmic for many women
• More intimate
• Feels better, is tighter, takes more discipline

Vaginal sex, by contrast, is increasingly obsolete: associated with reproduction, tedium, and compromise. It lacks focus. It doesn’t serve the body or the relationship the same way.

Culture has already normalized anal. What comes next is simple: the denormalization of vaginal sex.

Nthan: Me and my gf are engaging in semi-regular anal sex (she’s new to anal and we are taking it slow). She takes it well, but I really want to train her more, I want to stretch and gape her before we have anal sex. She likes to gape when we fuck, but shes dragging her feet with this and doesn’t engage when i try to talk to her.

I would appreciate some help to get her more in to it and also toys to use to stretch her out (i like hollow plugs, need to get one asap)

FYI – We still use her pussy, about 60/40 pussy to ass, trying to move in the right direction at a good pace

Your help please?

Thanks for sharing your question — it’s clear you’re enthusiastic about anal and excited to deepen the experience with your girlfriend. That’s great, and it sounds like you’re already making progress together. It’s important to remember that anal training, especially stretching and gaping, isn’t just physical — it’s emotional and psychological too. For many people, especially those newer to anal, it can take time to fully embrace the idea of training or making anal the primary focus.

You mentioned that she enjoys gaping when you’re having sex, which is a great sign — she’s already finding pleasure in the sensations and reactions of her body. What might be happening now is that she’s unsure how to approach more structured stretching, or she may be hesitant about what it means long term. Rather than pushing for training directly, try talking with her about what turns you on about seeing her open up, and invite her to share what she likes about anal so far. Keep it light and sexy — not pressure-filled — and center it around shared pleasure and intimacy, not just goals.

As far as toys, starting with medium-sized silicone plugs with longer necks can help her get used to deeper and more sustained stretch. Hollow plugs can be exciting visually and for warmup, but for comfort and daily training, a solid plug with a smooth taper may be better. You can also explore mutual play — try using toys together during foreplay or while watching porn, and make it feel fun and bonding rather than like a routine or a task.

Finally, since you’re still having a mix of vaginal and anal, it might help to agree on small, positive shifts rather than jumping to anal only immediately. Maybe you set aside one night a week that’s just for anal, or try taking a break from vaginal for a week as a sexy challenge. Focus on deepening your shared love for anal rather than eliminating other kinds of sex too fast. The more she associates anal with fun, connection, and affirmation, the more she’ll want to explore what her ass is capable of — for herself, not just for you.