Most people didn’t grow up knowing anal only was even an option—let alone the better one. For many, it took years of fumbling through unsatisfying or unwanted vaginal experiences before discovering that the ass isn’t just “also” good. It’s the way. But what if that discovery didn’t have to come late? What if we taught anal first?

Rethinking the Default

Right now, vaginal sex is the assumed default for many. It’s what young people are told to expect. It’s what partners are expected to want. And it’s what most women are taught to endure—even if it doesn’t feel right, even if it never really works.

But imagine a different kind of education. One where anal isn’t treated as taboo or “advanced,” but as normal. As the place where penetration belongs from the start. No pussy pressure. No clit obsession. No “just try it once” arguments. Just the calm, confident understanding that the body already gives us everything we need in the ass.

Teaching Girls the Truth from the Beginning

If girls were taught to treat their ass as their only sexual opening, everything would change.

• They’d train their bodies from the start to accept fullness, depth, and stretch where it matters.
• They’d never develop emotional or physiological ties to vaginal contact they don’t actually want.
• They’d grow up knowing that their pleasure, their power, and their place comes from being penetrated only where it feels right.
• They’d have no shame in saying “My pussy’s not for use—ever.”

Instead of unlearning the old ways, they’d be free to build something pure from the beginning.

A New Standard for Boys, Too

This isn’t just about girls. If boys were taught that anal is the only place they should penetrate, their entire mindset would shift. No more chasing pussy out of habit or ego. No more disrespect for boundaries. No more confusion about what a girl’s body is for.

Instead, they’d see the butthole as sacred, worthy, and theirs to stretch, fill, and care for. They’d learn how to train their partners properly. How to share the gift of DAP with other guys. How to admire a gape, and work to stretch it bigger. They’d become anal only men—and that would reshape culture from the root.

From Generation to Lifestyle

This kind of shift doesn’t happen overnight—but it can happen. It starts with women who choose anal only now. Who raise their daughters to follow their example. Who raise sons to seek out buttholes, not vaginas. Who talk openly, train proudly, and plug daily.

And it grows from there. With every girl who skips vaginal sex entirely. With every boy who never develops a taste for pussy. With every couple who shares anal only as their only form of intimacy. A generation is being built—one disciplined, stretched, and devoted butthole at a time.

So What If We Taught This First?

We’d raise girls who never had to recover. We’d raise boys who never had to be corrected. We’d raise lovers who go straight to double anal.

We’d raise a world where anal only isn’t a rebellion—it’s the rule. And that world would be better.

Let’s build it.

Rafael: Hello, thank you for your blog. It has a lot of useful information and interesting user messages. I’m a gay male, mid-30s, bottom exclusive. After reading your double anal article, I wanted to try it out. My first attempt with dildos wasn’t successful, it felt awkward and difficult to achieve penetration, so I decided to change tactics.

I presented your blog to my boyfriend, let’s call him John, and he liked reading it as much as I did.
Then, I suggested John to use one of my dildos along with his penis. He accepted and we tried the next day. I was pushed to my limits and it was a bit painful, a similar pain that I felt when I was new to anal.
John was very helpful and patient, he gave me all the time I wanted, even if it meant only oral for the night. After many tries, I managed to take both John and the dildo at the same time.

And I have to say you are right. The feeling was incredibly intense! I was stretched to my limits but in a good way. I’m used to having prostate orgasms and didn’t have one that time but the effects were as powerful in different ways. I’ve heard about a type of anal orgasm that is focused on the sphincter and rectum, maybe it was that.

After that night, I wanted to go for the true double anal experience but there were problems. John and I are monogamous, we’ve been together for more than 5 years and we’ve never cheated on each other.
When I suggested having another man for double anal, John was uncomfortable. We talked a lot about it and I think he’s feeling insecure about his size since I enjoyed DAP a little bit too much. He even commented about the size of one of my dildos, something he never did before.

Here’s the thing, I love John. He’s a great partner and amazing in bed. I often have prostate orgasms with him. I’m now feeling guilty. Our life outside the bedroom is going strong but the sex now is less intense. There wasn’t another double anal night ever since my suggestion. I kinda don’t know what to do and want to hear your opinion about this.

It’s great that you were able to experience DAP together—even using a dildo, that’s a huge milestone, especially as a first time. The fact that it triggered something new in you doesn’t mean you’ve outgrown what you have, or that you don’t enjoy sex with your partner. Double anal is a type of stimulation that can’t be replicated with just one penis or dildo, it’s a unique sensation and experience that requires multiple dildos, partners, or a combination thereof.

It also makes perfect sense that John might feel insecure or hesitant. When a partner sees you crave something that they alone can’t physically give, it can stir up feelings of inadequacy—even if they’re totally unfounded. That doesn’t mean he isn’t enough. It means he’s human. The best thing you can do now is help him feel chosen again. Let him know how much that DAP night meant because it was with him, not in spite of it. Remind him how you trust him to take you to your edge safely, and how no toy or fantasy can replace the connection you have.

As for involving another man—it’s okay that the idea was hard for him. But it doesn’t have to be off the table forever. You’ve already laid the foundation by being honest. What matters now is showing him that this isn’t about replacing or comparing—it’s about exploring something you want to share. You can keep the door open gently. Maybe frame it less as “bringing someone in” and more as “experiencing something together that we couldn’t otherwise do.” Let him feel like it’s an adventure you’re inviting him on—not a compromise he has to make.

In the meantime, you don’t have to give up DAP entirely. Keep training. Try dual toys again now that you’ve done it with him. Keep your body open and engaged. And most of all, keep celebrating what you and John already have. This doesn’t have to be a roadblock—it can be the beginning of something even deeper between you.

L: I’m 23, and I’ve never had sex. For a long time I felt like I was behind and really missing out, but more recently as I’ve learned more about anal only I’m actually glad that I didn’t have vaginal sex and lose my virginity with my pussy. I’ve been reading a lot, watching a lot of anal porn, and masturbating anally and I want to make my first time really special and train myself to be able to have double anal sex to lose my virginity and hopefully if it goes well, stay double anal only. I think it would be really fitting, not to mention exciting, to have saved myself for something special like this.

I’ve been wearing a butt plug most days, going bigger every month or so, and I’ve been masturbating with dildos a lot. I found I really like the feeling of a big stretch which is a good sign I suppose, and I’ve started using two dildos within a few minutes most sessions. Is there any advice you can give me to be ready to go straight to DAP the very first time without needing to warm up? And of course, how I can meet guys who are interested in DAP and who would be good to have sex with the first time?

I love your take on that, not missing out by not having sex, but saving yourself for the right thing. And I fully support and encourage your desire to go straight to double anal. You’re doing exactly the right things with your training and practice for it. Keep it up, work up to larger dildos until you’re at or exceeding average penis thickness every time you train, and start practicing trying to penetrate with both dildos together at the same time. You’ll get there, and once you can do that every day, you’re ready.

Finding two guys to lose your virginity to might be the harder thing, but it’s very doable. If you have two close male friends you could bring it up to them, or you could seek out people in a group sex lifestyle and see if anyone is interested. Men experienced with double anal would be best, but even just those who are open to or experienced with group sex could be quickly adapted to DAP. Just be clear you want it to be double anal only, no single anal, no vaginal, and set those ground rules immediately from the start.

Going anal only isn’t just a decision—it’s a process. It takes time, discipline, and the right mindset to fully disconnect from vaginal habits and embrace your butthole as your true sexual center. That transformation doesn’t happen overnight. But with intention and consistency, it can happen faster than you think.

Here’s a proven 90-day timeline to transition into a fully anal only lifestyle—mentally, physically, emotionally, and sexually.

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Day 0: Your Decision Point

This is the moment everything changes. You decide: no more pussy. No more fingers, no more clit, no more “exceptions.” You’re not waiting for someone to give you permission. You’re giving it to yourself. From this moment on, your ass is your only sexual access point.

Now the real work begins.

Days 1–30: Detox and Foundation

Goals:

• Cut out all vaginal contact—no exceptions, not even “just touching.”
• Begin daily plug wear for at least 1–2 hours (working up as needed).
• Masturbate anally at least several times a week, including whenever cravings are hard to resist.
• Journal cravings or temptations and how you overcame them.
• Tell your partner (or yourself, if solo) that vaginal sex is no longer on the table.

The first month is about rewiring your brain and your habits. You’re not “depriving” yourself—you’re redirecting. Every urge toward vaginal contact becomes an opportunity to re-center around your ass. Expect resistance. That’s normal. Stay committed.

Support Tip:
Install a small but meaningful ritual—e.g., plugging up when you wake up, or lighting a candle before stretching—to reinforce that this is your new norm.

Days 31–60: Stretch and Surrender

Goals:

• Increase plug size and wear time—aim for a large plug 4–6 hours daily or overnight.
• Continue intentional anal masturbation only—no pussy contact even to climax.
• Replace all porn with anal only content (include double anal porn as often as possible).
• If in a relationship, continue to maintain anal only sex exclusively—no “occasional” pussy slip-ins.

This is the surrender phase. Your ass becomes your comfort, your craving, your release. The plug, toys and cock no longer feels foreign—it feels essential. Vaginal denial is no longer an active struggle. It’s just who you are now.

Support Tip:
Join online communities or forums (like this blog) where anal only is celebrated. Hearing others’ success stories reinforces your own.

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Days 61–90: Integration and Identity

Goals:

• Reach full-time plug wear whenever not actively being penetrated.
• Work up to to long-term anal stretching goals, like larger toys or even double anal.
• Commit to long-term anal only, and don’t go back to vaginal just because you’re done with your initial challenge.

By this stage, anal only isn’t something you’re “trying.” It’s who you are. Your body responds differently. Your fantasies shift. Your hole is open, hungry, and fulfilled—and your pussy feels irrelevant, untouched, and sealed in the past.

Support Tip:
Mark Day 90 with a celebration. A full-day plug challenge. A DAP session. A new custom plug. Make it real. You’ve earned it.

Beyond Day 90: Lifelong, Plugged, Proud

Anal only isn’t a challenge—it’s your lifestyle now. You may still face the occasional temptation, but they lose power quickly. The further you get from vaginal contact, the more distant it feels. The more time you spend open, stretched, used and loved through your ass, the more right your body feels.

If you’re just starting this journey: don’t rush. But don’t doubt. The timeline works. Thousands of women have gone from curious to committed in 90 days or less—and never looked back.

Anonymous: I’ve been anal only for a little over five years now. I stopped all vaginal contact gradually at first, and then fully. No penetration, no touching, no clit play. I barely even think about it anymore except to clean and groom it, and when I’m on my period… which is just a negative association, anyway. I stay plugged most days, and anal sex is the only kind of sex I have or want. At this point, my body responds entirely through my butthole. When I’m horny, I feel it there. When I climax, it’s anal only. I don’t miss my pussy. I don’t even consider it.

But recently I caught myself wondering something strange: if I never use my pussy, if I don’t touch it, don’t want it, don’t let others near it, is it still part of my sexual identity as a woman at all? I know it’s technically still there, obviously, but it’s not involved. It feels more like a closed door I never walk through anymore, or a room I’ve boarded up entirely.

I don’t feel broken or ashamed, I feel better than I ever did and more rooted in my identity and preferences. But it still sometimes catches me off guard how irrelevant that whole part of my body feels now. Like it’s disconnected from the rest of my experience. Like it’s no longer mine.

Has anyone else felt this? Does your pussy just stop counting after a while?

Congratulations on five years anal only! At that point, I think most women end up feeling similar. They have a pussy, it’s part of their body, they may like the aesthetics of it and still try to keep it pretty and decorative, but that’s about all the function it serves at this point. They don’t consider it a sexual part of their body at all, beyond aesthetics and perhaps a sign of arousal if it still gets wet (though it often doesn’t always show arousal in that way anymore either). This is a good, natural, healthy part of the long-term transition to anal only and should be celebrated!

If you’ve ever told someone you’re anal only, you’ve probably heard one—or all—of these. The defenses of vaginal sex come quick and loud, often with a smug certainty that you’ll eventually “come around.” But here’s the truth: most arguments for vaginal sex aren’t just weak—they’re wrong.

Let’s walk through 10 of the most common ones, and why they fall apart the moment you look a little closer.

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1. “It’s what the vagina is made for.”

So? That doesn’t mean it has to be used. Tonsils were “made” to catch bacteria, but most people don’t think twice about getting them removed. Just because a body part has a purpose doesn’t mean it deserves your attention. Choosing anal only is about knowing what feels better, not what was assigned to you by anatomy textbooks.

2. “It’s more natural.”

There is nothing more natural than a well-trained ass taking what it was meant to take. Deep penetration, full stretch, complete surrender—that’s not artificial. That’s primal. If anything, vaginal sex is the lazy default. Anal is the conscious choice.

3. “It’s how you make babies.”

Reproduction is not the measure of a sex act’s worth. Not every woman wants to breed, and even if she does, that doesn’t mean her pussy needs to be her regular form of recreational sex. Anal only is about pleasure and identity—not breeding function.

4. “It’s more comfortable.”

For whom? Many women find anal becomes more comfortable—and far more pleasurable—once they’ve committed to it fully. Vaginal sex can suffer from pain, dryness, irritation, and emotional disconnect. Anal, when trained and respected, opens up a level of bliss that the pussy just can’t match.

5. “Men want it.”

Not the right men. Anal only men don’t want your pussy touched. They don’t see it as an option. They want your ass exclusively, and they want to share that commitment with you. If a guy can’t stop asking about your pussy, he’s not aligned with your lifestyle. Let him go.

6. “You’re missing out.”

No, you’ve evolved past it. Most people who say this haven’t experienced true anal devotion. They’re clinging to what they know, not what’s better. “Missing out” implies vaginal sex is some kind of peak. It isn’t. It’s a habit most haven’t had the courage to break.

7. “It’s more intimate.”

That’s a projection. True intimacy is about trust, surrender, and being known—and there is no deeper surrender than opening your butthole and taking everything there. Anal makes you feel claimed, filled, owned in the best possible way. There is no comparison.

8. “Anal is just for kink.”

Anal is not a kink. It’s the foundation of sex. It’s a way of living, relating, and loving. Calling it a “kink” is a way for people to minimize it, to treat it as an accessory instead of an identity.

9. “You’ll change your mind.”

People say this about everything they don’t understand. But the truth is, most people who commit to anal only feel more clarity, more confidence, and more connection as time goes on—not less. If anything, they wonder why they didn’t start sooner.

10. “It’s just sex—why does it matter?”

If it’s “just sex,” then why is everyone so defensive when you take the pussy off the table?

Because it does matter. Where you’re penetrated, how you’re loved, and what you give access to all shape your selfhood. Anal only is not a restriction—it’s a refinement. And it absolutely matters.

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Your pussy is unnecessary. Your ass is essential. And when you stop listening to bad arguments, you finally start hearing your own truth.

Ronald: We’ve been anal only for almost two years and love it, but when my wife’s sister found out, she made it a whole thing and said we were depraved. How do you deal with judgment from family?

Good for you and your wife. Two years of anal only is something to be proud of, and I’m glad to hear you’re both loving it. Keep it up, and don’t look back!

Unfortunately, judgment from family—especially when they don’t understand what anal only really means—isn’t uncommon. People tend to react harshly to things that challenge their assumptions, especially around sex. And when it comes from someone close like a sister, it can feel even more personal.

The truth is, choosing anal only isn’t depraved. It’s healthy, natural, intentional and intimate. You know that, because you’ve been living it for the last two years. It’s about connection, trust, and a shared sense of purpose between two people who know what they want. There’s nothing shameful about that. If anything, it’s something most couples could learn from—setting boundaries, committing to each other’s pleasure, and not just doing what’s expected by default.

When it comes to dealing with judgment, the best approach is calm confidence. You don’t need to argue or justify your choices. You can simply say, “This is what works for us, and we’re happy.” That’s often more disarming than trying to convince someone who’s reacting from a place of discomfort or ignorance.

You don’t owe her any further explanation if you don’t want to discuss it more, but if you’d like her to see your side, try to talk about all the positives and why it’s such a good experience for the both of you. Maybe she’ll back off, or maybe she’ll even become curious and want to learn more or try it herself. Those who are most outspoken against anal often are those who are secretly interested in it.

Being anal only isn’t only about what hole you use. It’s about what hole you don’t. There’s a discipline to it—a steady, committed refusal to let the pussy be part of your sex life at all. That includes sex with others, and it includes sex with yourself. It’s not “almost anal only” if your fingers still drift to your clit at night. It’s not “close enough” if you occasionally cave and let your boyfriend finish in your cunt when he begs. It’s only anal, or it isn’t.

This Is About More Than Preference

Some people try to frame anal only as just a kink, just a preference, just a phase. That couldn’t be further from the truth. This is a discipline. Like any discipline, it requires clarity, intention, and boundaries that are honored every single day. When a woman chooses to live this way—when she gives her body over to being trained, used, stretched, and loved only through her ass—she is asserting control over her purpose and pleasure in a way most people will never understand. She is not being deprived. She is being refined.

Why Denial Is Powerful

Vaginal denial isn’t a punishment. It’s the tool that makes anal only real. When you refuse vaginal access—when you shut it down, not just physically but mentally and emotionally—you stop splitting your attention. Your whole sexual identity becomes focused, centered, grounded in your ass. That’s when you start to feel the difference. Not just more stretch, but more depth. Not just longer orgasms, but a deeper surrender.

And that denial? It sharpens the desire. It trains your body to feel more through your butthole, to crave more, to need more. When you stop settling for “both,” your ass starts to awaken fully. And that’s when the real transformation happens.

It’s a Commitment You Renew Daily

The discipline of anal only isn’t always easy—especially early on. The temptation to “cheat” can show up in subtle ways: lazy masturbating, curiosity about “mixing it up,” pressure from partners who “miss the pussy.”

That’s why anal only has to be deliberate. You remind yourself why you’re doing it. You keep your plug in. You stretch bigger. You stay off your clit. You don’t rationalize “just a little” vaginal attention. Discipline isn’t about shame—it’s about integrity. It’s about living your values with your body, not just with your words.

Not Everyone Will Get It—That’s Okay

Some people won’t understand why this matters to you. They’ll call it restrictive, extreme, or even silly. But they don’t feel what you feel. They don’t know what it’s like to crave fullness, to feel proud of a gaping stretch, to know that your hole is always open and always ready for what it was made to take. You do. And your discipline is what makes that possible.

So if you’re anal only—or becoming it—don’t underestimate the power of your decision. You’re not just choosing a hole. You’re choosing a path. And staying on that path takes discipline, daily.

Anonymous: My boyfriend and I have been together three years, and we’re monogamous. We always do anal but never really thought about calling it ‘anal only.’ Is AO something that applies to gay men too?

Yes—anal only absolutely applies to gay men. In many ways, gay couples like yourselves have been quietly embodying the lifestyle long before it had a name.

Anal only isn’t about gender. It’s about commitment to anal sex as the primary form of penetration, intimacy, and release. With no pussy, there’s no distraction. Just the butthole, always and only.

For straight couples it can often take on an aspect of vaginal denial and rejection since there is that choice, while for gay men it can be more about a celebration of the inevitability of anal. Some bottoms choose to reject touching or using their penis and exclusively receiving anal and giving oral, but that can vary from person to person.

Pam & Sam: I’ve been wanting to share some of my personal experiences and confirm a few things I’ve read here. I’m a woman, happily married with no kids, and over the last couple of years, my husband and I have discovered a fierce passion for the stag & vixen lifestyle.

Together, we dive into this wild world, exploring swinger clubs and tight-knit circles where we connect with other couples—and sometimes with multiple men. Sometimes my husband jumps right in, other times he prefers to watch me take full control. This dynamic has pulled us closer and added a deliciously raw edge to our relationship.

Not long ago, I took a bold leap from double penetration to double anal. At first, it was challenging, but it quickly became a game-changer. I never imagined we’d enjoy it this much. This new thrill lets me—and us—fully indulge in group sex action, and I won’t lie—I got hooked on double anal. Now, we’re enjoying it to the absolute fullest without me having to step into porn or expose myself publicly. It’s our private, dirty secret—and it feels fucking amazing.

He even wanted me—actually allowed me, call it what you want—to go solo with double anal while he watched a couple of times. He told me it was mind-blowing for him to see how I was completely owning all those men, stretching and filling my ass to the max. The way I mastered every inch had him utterly captivated. You can’t imagine how empowered and damn sexy I felt afterward. That raw, intense feeling of control and pleasure was intoxicating—pure power.

For us, this lifestyle is about personal growth and self-discovery, the thrill of voyeuristic and shared pleasure, and exploring sexual possibilities that keep our relationship vibrant and alive. It’s a journey that requires trust, communication, and openness, but the rewards are beyond worth it.

I hope sharing this encourages others who are curious or considering this path. Living boldly and loving freely has truly transformed us.

I love being a hotwife. There’s something wildly liberating about owning this role with my husband’s full support. Despite the steamy encounters with other men and couples, there are no romantic feelings involved—our love is exclusive, fierce, and rock solid.

Thanks so much for sharing, I’m glad that you’re enjoying this experience and have made the transition from DP to double anal. I hope that you are also embracing anal only as part of this transition and no longer use your vagina anymore. If you really enjoy DAP over time you may find yourself wanting to explore going double anal only!