Michalina: I have been AO since I was 16 when I had my first intercourse. I started my journey because I was afraid of pregnancy and I associated vaginal with pain, which is why I still have my hymen. To be honest, this blog helped me make the decision to remain a vaginal virgin.

Since I was 17, I stopped touching my clitoris. I felt guilty and embarrassed that other girls could only use their anus and completely abandon their vagina, and I wanted to achieve that myself. And I finally did it after many attempts. I remember my first full anal orgasm when I screamed and cried with emotion and happiness. Then I became free of my pussy and clitoris completely.

I admit that despite the temptation and persuasion from other girls, I never had cunnilingus. Instead, I chose rimming and oh my God… the feeling is wonderful. I really wish more girls would try it, because I’m sure that just as anal is better than vaginal, rimming is better than cunnilingus.

But what I’m getting at is that I’m 20 years old today and I’ve noticed for a long time that my vagina is drying up. Slowly, gradually, day after day. I used to have a lot of vaginal fluids coming out of it when I was aroused, but today there is very little. I think my vagina will soon be completely dry.

And I’m a little worried. Is it because my pussy is not being used? Should I be concerned? Should I do something about it? Will a dry vagina be a problem when I want to have children?

Congratulations on choosing to remain a vaginal virgin and go pure anal only, that’s wonderful to hear and something you should be so proud of!

Vaginal dryness is something I hear about pretty frequently from women who have gone strictly anal only, and it makes sense: you are effectively reprogramming your pleasure centers to focus on anal, and your body over time stops producing vaginal lubricant and centers arousal on your anus instead. There isn’t much reason to be concerned about this, especially since you intend to remain anal only. It’s a physical symbol of your commitment to anal only and vaginal abandonment, and I think it’s another worthy milestone to celebrate!

Artificial lubricants can always be used to aid in pregnancy/delivery if needed, after all.

Emma: I love my partner, but our sex just isn’t enough for me. In my past, I had wild orgies, multiple men at once, and intense double anal penetration. That’s when I felt truly alive and satisfied, completely in control and yet so intensely used. Now, with him, the physical connection is deeper emotionally, but it just doesn’t ignite me the same way. I miss this part of my old days.

He doesn’t have the stamina for what I need. I think the only thing that would really satisfy me is a good old gangbang with double anal penetration. I keep thinking about how it feels to be stretched and filled like that; that is what I crave most. I want that kind of intense sex again, but I’m scared to ask for it. I worry that if he knew about my past, he wouldn’t love me anymore.

Sometimes I think about trying something like a gangbang party with him, but I’d probably end up spending the night alone in the orgy, going after my desires because he wouldn’t be able to keep up.

I love him, and I don’t want to hurt him, but I’m struggling with this overwhelming mix of desire and guilt. Am I being selfish? I don’t want to hide who I am, but I also don’t want to lose what we have. I’m caught between my needs and my fears, and it’s tearing me apart.

First of all, your needs are totally valid and you shouldn’t feel guilty or selfish for wanting what you want. That said, it can definitely be a challenge to navigate differing levels of sexual needs and desires in a relationship.

Have you considered incorporating bigger anal toys into your solo play, and seeing about introducing double anal into your routine with your partner with his cock and a dildo? If he’s not open to a gangbang with other men, maybe toys can help you fill your physical needs for a bigger stretch and double anal.

Kasia: I’ve been following this blog for a long time and it’s always been a great motivation for me. I’ve been wondering how to convince more girls to try the AO lifestyle. I’ve come to the conclusion that rimming is what can encourage them to try anal sex.

Many women say that it is the stimulation of the vagina and clitoris with the tongue that gives them the most pleasure and warms them up and prepares them for vaginal sex. Why not try this approach with anal sex? Maybe it’s worth licking the anus of the girl you love, and she’ll be more willing to let you enter her asshole. Take care of her proper hole and in time she will forget about her pussy and clitoris.

I can’t remember the last time I had my vagina and clitoris licked, but I love having my ass licked and kissed like as if it were my second lips. I hope this helps abandon more vaginas and clits in favor of anuses. AO rules!

That’s excellent advice, and rimming as an introduction to anal and regular part of the anal warmup/preparation process is a great way to relax and be ready for penetration. It feels amazing, and more women are admitting to liking it more than cunnilingus, which makes it even easier to consider total vaginal abandonment in favor of anal only.

Melissa: Hi again, thank you for your answer. Double anal with a toy has already become a regular part of our sexual routine, and I really enjoy it. But I find myself struggling emotionally with the idea of having a sex session that includes another person alongside my husband. Why does double anal with a toy feel comfortable and natural, yet the thought of including another man in our sex life feels like a betrayal to my husband or even our marriage? Any advice how I can understand these conflicting feelings and work through them? Last but not least satisfy my husbands needs (and somehow mine too)?

It sounds like you love the stimulation and thrill of the act of double anal but have a strong monogomous nature where you want to stay loyal to your husband only. That’s not inherently a bad thing at all, and it may be a sign that experimenting with including other partners may not fit well for your needs.

For some, it is possible to more easily include other partners without emotional intimacy being a factor, while for others it can be hard to separate intimacy, romance and the emotional connection from the physical sex. If you’re able to have a conversation with your husband about this and discuss both of your perspectives, maybe you can come to an agreement on a scenario where you’re more open to the idea, but if not, maybe you can compromise with making double anal with a toy your new full time normal and go double anal only together in that way, or consider getting a sex machine as the second “partner” for a bit more autonomy in motion for thrusting, etc.

Either way, I hope that you’re able to come up with something that is satisfactory for the both of you and allows you to explore what you want!

Melissa: Hi everyone, I’ve been happily married for almost 10 years. For the past 12 years, I have only done anal sex. In the last couple of years, my husband and I have been sporadically enjoying double anal with a toy, which I really like.

Recently, my husband started expressing his interest a few times in stepping up to real double anal that includes a friend of his or going to a swinger club, like a “sharing your wife” or “gangbang” event. I told him I needed time to think about it. Internally I was shocked! I was raised in a Christian family, though I am not very religious anymore, but some values from that background still influence me in my world views.

I have secretly dreamed though about being in a double anal gangbang, but this is just a fantasy my husband doesn’t know about.

This is a topic I don’t want to discuss with my friends nor with my husband. I hope to find advice here.

My concerns are these: His request makes me feel as if I’m not good enough for him anymore or wonder if he loves me less. Taking this step makes me feel like I might be betraying him and our marriage or even becoming a “whore” because now I had sex with more men.

Also, what if I like this new experience and it changes our relationship because I want to have it on a regular basis? How do I handle the possible changes?

It sounds like you have a wonderful life and marriage, and it’s so fantastic that you’ve been anal only for the past 12 years. That’s definitely something to be proud of!

It sounds like the physicality of double anal is already something that you enjoy, as is the fantasy of a gangbang, but you aren’t sure if you want to take that step with additional partners. I would suggest making double anal a more regular thing with your husband and toys, leaning into the fantasy together but still with just the two of you, and then after a few months, revisit the idea and discuss together how you would like to approach trying it, and talk through potential concerns. You say that you don’t want to discuss it with him, but communication in the relationship is key with anything, especially something like this.

I will say this: your husband wanting to try this you is not likely a sign he loves you less, but likely that he adores you and wants to try something you both enjoy together along with additional partners. It’s not a betrayal of him or becoming a “whore”, it’s a celebration of what you have together and expanding it to trying an experience that you might both love.

Very likely you will both love the experience and want to do it more regularly. Having that baseline of regular DAP with a toy will help with that as you decide how best to introduce other partners into your routine.

Francesca: Hi everyone, so… what does really qualifies someone as living a double anal only lifestyle?

I’m living with my new partner, and we love watching hardcore porn together, always focused on pure anal and double anal, no pussy at all. The latter annoys me more then my partner. Honestly, I can’t remember the last time I had anything in my vagina, not even a toy. When we have sex, usually about three times a week, we start directly with anal. But I get impatient pretty fast and make my boyfriend take out my beloved artificial dick and put it in my ass too, even if it’s a bit uncomfortable at first. I’m willing to accept that small discomfort to satisfy my craving for double anal.

Does this count as a double anal only lifestyle, even though we usually start with single anal for a minute or two? Or am I missing something? I’d love to hear your thoughts!

Thanks for reaching out! I would classify that as double anal always/mostly, and well on its way to double anal only. A minute or two isn’t much single anal, but it’s still a little bit. Once you get to the point that you don’t consider any single anal fucking as part of sex, and always go straight to sliding one in and then the other to get started, or both together, that’s when I think the pure double anal only mindset kicks in.

That’s not meant to lessen what you’re doing, though, I think it’s wonderful that you’re at this point, and encourage you to keep it up and maybe even consider taking the last little step to pure DAO.

Welcome to the 13th annual No Pussy November! It’s that time of the year again where we challenge everyone to forego vaginal sex entirely and fully embrace the benefits and pleasures of the anal only lifestyle.

Whether you’re new to the anal only lifestyle or a long-standing devotee, No Pussy November offers a unique opportunity to explore or strengthen your commitment to the anal only path and explore new levels of pleasure and intimacy.

For newcomers to the lifestyle, this month is a great opportunity to try out anal sex and masturbation as your exclusive sexual activities. Commit to daily anal stimulation, either by yourself or with a partner, and see how your body responds. You may just find that it’s an enjoyable and satisfying change!

For our experienced anal only followers, we challenge you to push your boundaries even further. Are you regularly wearing your butt plug? Maybe it’s time to upsize or try to wear it for longer periods. Have you tried double anal yet? This might be the perfect opportunity to introduce this more intense pleasure into your routine.

We’re also continuing our advanced challenge from years past: Double Anal Only November. For those of you who are up to the challenge, try to incorporate double anal in every sexual encounter this month, either with two partners, a partner and a toy, or two toys if you’re playing solo.

So, who’s with us for No Pussy November this year? Let us know what your plans are, and keep us updated with your progress.