Eva & Michael: Hey folks, just wanted to pop in and share a little slice of our delightfully naughty life from somewhere in Europe. Happily married with kids, we stumbled upon this blog a while back that helped us open some pretty wild doors, so thought it’d be only fair to give a little something back.

It all started innocently enough when our kids were little and we enjoyed loads of couple time at home, often surfing the porn waves together. Slowly but surely, we veered into anal centric territory. We discovered double anal. She liked the look of it and we dived headfirst into DAP (with a toy), and… my wife downright fell in love with it. These days, she’s pretty much “Double Anal Only” and proud of it.

Now that the kids have outgrown the baby stage, we get to ditch them with their grandparents for a couple of days and hit the swinger clubs about once or twice a month to fortify our relationship, to recharge and play a little.

My wife’s a force of nature: bold, brash, sometimes cocky and chose to be on a to disrupt old-school thinking. She targets “couple nights” at the clubs, gets chatting, and susses out which women are stuck in the “pussy only” mindset versus those who might dare to try max anal. We usually end up in a fun little orgy with one or two of those more conservative couples.

Always condoms, naturally.

When things get hot and heavy, my wife either taps me or another guy in the group to get the party started in her ass… and that’s when she hits full ecstatic mode. The men get the real full DAP thrill, and the women? Well, some get envious and want to jump on the bandwagon and try it out, but most blush hard. BUT all of them head home with their partners confronting some new and very intense bedroom expectations. Either way, she’s pumped when her plan works.

So yeah, this blog helped us explore and embrace things many shy away from, and we hope sharing our little happy marriage receipt inspires a few more to open their minds and, well, their horizons.

That’s so great to hear, anal only and double anal evangelism really go a long way in encouraging more people to try. Have you had many AO/DAP converts as a result? It’s also awesome to hear that your wife is basically double anal only at this point herself! Any plans to make that full strict DAO in the future?

Lilly: Hey everyone, I wanted to get some advice on something new I’m thinking about.

I first found out about anal when I was 16 and with my first boyfriend. Since then, anal sex became kind of my go-to because it was easier sometimes than dealing with condoms or the pill. I’m 23 now and currently with my boyfriend, who’s 28. We’ve been together for almost 9 months.

Sometimes we watch porn together, mostly group sex. It really turns me on. I love to watch it with him and don’t like watching it alone either. Usually, I ask him to search for something rougher, and we stumbled upon some scenes with double anal that I find insanely hot. I think he’s noticed that too.

Recently, during one of those scenes, we started talking, we were joking about DAP and we got somehow to a point he asked if I would ever consider trying double anal with one of his friends as a birthday present for him. I asked him if he was serious and I told him I’d need to think about it.

Honestly, I don’t want to chicken out because this is something I really want to try and I also would like to make him this birthday gift. But I’ve never done double anal play with a dildo or anything, and his birthday is coming up soon. I’m worried I might not have enough time to train and prepare.

So, here are my questions:

1) Since I do anal regularly, how hard is it to train for double anal play quickly?

2) If I do try it but I’m not 100% prepared physically (I can see myself so eager to try it, that I go hard on them and not feel any signals my body might be giving), am I at risk of permanent damage?

3) Also, could doing something like this ruin my relationship or affect how people see me?

Anyone who’s been down this path or has tips, please share. I want to do this safely but also don’t want to miss out on something hot just because I’m scared or overly cautious.

Thanks so much for sharing and reaching out, it sounds like you have a wonderful opportunity to explore a shared fantasy. I would suggest not going too fast with this plan, though, and making sure that you’re actually ready for it first!

Doing anal regularly is a great first step, it means your anus is likely well-conditioned and in a good place to stretch open more pretty quickly and easily without injury. You still want to avoid going about it too quickly and listening to your body, though.

I strongly suggest trying it first with two dildos, or with your boyfriend and a dildo to ease into it, and do that half a dozen times or so at least until you’re comfortable doing it without discomfort/injury, and then try introducing another partner into the mix.

There’s always a chance of relationship strain when introducing new partners, so you should discuss this thoroughly before trying it in reality to make sure you both actually want it and are on the same page and how to deal with potential jealousy before it arises. You may find that you really want to stick with his cock and a dildo instead.

For more specifics, check out our Guide to Double Anal Sex.

DAP Anal Slut: Curious what everyone’s views on multiple partners is for those who frequently have DAP with two partners? Do you feel part of existing communities like swinging groups, fetish groups or poly communities? How about thoughts on monogamy as someone who has DAP with two partners?

I’m curious about the shift in attitude on these things as we societally shift towards being anal only and in turn more heavily DAP and TAP focused. I’m in a lesbian relationship and have DAP with toys but would love to have it with two partners however the logistics of this is a barrier versus a store bought friend. Interested if similar DAP fantasies have changed your relationships over time after bringing in other partners, either just for sex or romantically.

I welcome more input from other DAP/DAO people in the comments, but in my experience a lot of DAP-focused and double anal only women have either embraced the lifestyle with a current partner plus a dildo, or by seeking an additional partner and at first just including them intermittently but then over time if things work out, adding them as a full-time part of the relationship. My sense is that MMF relationships will become much more common as DAP becomes the norm.

Plugged Anal Whore: What happened to the old Anal Only October posts? I think we should bring it back with a Double Anal October month.

Obviously anal is the new standard so makes sense we don’t need to make general anal only a challenge but for the people who aren’t already—double anal only is the clear next step.

For those of us already proficient, I think Triple Anal October could be a good one…

We never really had an Anal Only October, but we have promoted Anal Only April, Anal Only August and No Pussy November. We also have done a Double Anal December challenge month in the past. At this point we mostly formally feature No Pussy November each year, while encouraging people to do their own challenge month outside of that for whatever goal they have.

100% agree that Double Anal Only is an important challenge for anyone already anal only and interested in going further!

sdfa: Amazing how many people find excluding pussy from sex attractive. While other way around, nobody. Even if some people don’t like anal, nobody is interested in 0% asshole category.

I’m sure there are some silly prudes out there who want 0% anal, but those people are being left behind as the world moves away from vaginal to anal only. The reality is that anal is better for most people, and the more people experiment with it, the more they go anal mostly, anal only, or double anal only. People who are anal only rarely experiment with vaginal, and if they do, it usually makes them even more devoted to go back to pure anal only.

Judy & Ben: Hi, we are regular visitors of your blog. Are you OK? There have been no updates for a prolonged period of time. We hope to read soon something new here…

Things are good, life and work has just been distracting and there hasn’t been a ton of reader engagement in the blog community for a while so it’s been hard to stay motivated to keep posting regularly. There is a good queue of reader submissions right now, though, so expect a lot of new posts in the coming weeks.