Message: It Seems Like Every Guy Where I Live Wants Pussy
Anonymous: I don’t know if I’m doing something wrong or if I just live in the wrong place but every time I see anal only girls posting about finding guys who are immediately happy with the idea and always wanted an anal only girl I get so jealous! I was anal only with my first boyfriend for three years and loved it but since we broke up and I’ve been dating I find it so hard to stay anal only now, it seems like every guy where I live wants pussy. What do I do?? I don’t want to start using my pussy.
Part of it is probably the location and the culture where you live influencing what men have experienced and are attracted to, but the way you approach it could be a factor as well.
Be up front, but not too up front that you scare people off. Get to know the guy a bit first, wait until sex as a general topic comes up naturally, and then bring up that you’re an anal only girl.
If you’re a vaginal virgin (it sounds like you are?) you could factor that in as well, telling him you don’t want to lose your vaginal virginity but you’d love to do anal with him as much as he wants. Some guys instinctively think that if they can’t have something, they want it. So try to frame it not so much around the limitation of no pussy but the positives instead: that he can get as much anal and oral as he wants from you.
If you have had vaginal but dislike it or find it painful (which is not uncommon), say so. Tell him that you really don’t like vaginal sex and it hurts you to do it, but anal feels amazing and you love doing it all the time. Most guys don’t want their partner to dislike or be in pain during sex, and if you explain that anal is simply what you need to enjoy sex, he should respect that if he’s a decent guy.
If, after you’ve explained your needs and requirements sexually, he still pushes for your pussy, he’s not a guy you’d want to be dating or having sex with anyway.
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