How Much Anal is Too Much?
I see this question come up a lot, as people discover that they really enjoy anal but then worry that they can’t have it as often as they would like to. This is one of those things that keeps a lot of people from going anal only, because they feel the need to take time off between having anal sex and do vaginal in between to make up for it.
The reality is that there’s not really any such thing as too much anal sex, and it all depends on you and your body and how much you can handle at a given time.
If you’re getting sore after anal sex every time you do it and need to rest between having sex again, you’re on the edge of what’s right for you at that time. You should find a balance and frequency that just slightly pushes your limits and stick with that for a few weeks to a month, and then gradually start increasing the frequency. If you can do it twice a week at first, try going to three times a week after a while, and so on from there.
If you aren’t getting sore or noticing any problems, then you aren’t doing it too much and it’s perfectly fine for you, and could probably do it more often if you wanted to!
Ultimately, the more frequently you have anal sex, the easier it is to have anal sex frequently, because it helps keep your anal muscles in good shape and ready to have sex. Think of it like exercising, if you work out infrequently, you get sore and are in pain and struggle every time you do it, but if you establish an exercise routine and stick to it regularly, it gets much easier and more enjoyable. The same is true for anal sex.
This is exactly right. This is why, for years, I have encouraged couples desiring to go AO to commit to having only anal sex at least three times a week for a month. The vast majority of couples who did this, even those with little experience with anal sex, reported they planned on continuing AO by the end of the month.
The exercise analogy is true. If you push through any soreness (not pain), anal sex will become comfortable in a very short period of time, usually within two weeks.