Message: No More Vaginal in Vancouver
Even before we married my girlfriend enjoyed anal sex very much. She could never orgasm via her vagina or clit. She never was one to play with her clit either. But once my cock was in her ass, she could orgasm over and over while I fucked her. Nothing else. Nothing in her vagina, no clit stimulation, nothing but my cock in her ass.
By the time we got married, anal had gone from a once-in-a-while thing to every single time we had sex. Even so, we did the whole porn menu; oral, vaginal, anal. By the time we had been married five years it seemed like vaginal sex was just going though the motions; for both of us. Then I stumbled upon your blog and the forums and began reading. It was like a light bulb was turned on. I knew right away I wanted to be anal only. Vaginal sex had become a chore. Even keeping my dick hard enough for vaginal sex was only made possible by the anticipation of sliding my cock into her ass.
I didn’t know what my wife would think of the whole idea. I wasn’t sure she would want to quit having “regular” sex altogether. It took me weeks to work up to tell her about the blog and forums. Before I could even ask her she said, “Why didn’t we think of that? Would you care if we only had anal?“ Of course I told her I wouldn’t mind. I asked her if she thought she’d miss vaginal sex. It blew me away when she told me she only did it because she thought I expected it.
I’m proud to say we’ve now been anal only for nearly a month. What’s amazing is that her sex drive seems to have spiked. I don’t know whether it’s the thought of only having anal sex, or the anal sex itself. We’ve been having anal sex almost every day and agree with what we’ve read: anal sex seems much more intimate. For some reason this seems especially true when you are anal only. Our sex life is better than ever and we look forward to many years of anal only.
So thank you for your blog and the forums. Like my wife said, “Why didn’t we think of that?”
Congratulations on discovering anal only. You’re not the first couple I’ve heard from who both preferred anal and both would’ve been happy going anal only years ago but were afraid what the other might think and so took longer than they would have otherwise to get to that point. I encourage being up front about it early on because of this.
If you’re now a month in, you’re going to find it more and more amazing the longer you go. There are couples who have been anal only together for years, decades even, and it never gets old, it just keeps getting better. So you have a lot to look forward to!
Being anal only is a huge arousal/sex drive booster for most people, especially but not exclusively women. It’s the increase in intimacy, pleasure, and the physical shift of pleasure source. Anal orgasms tend to cause more arousal rather than suppressing it like other forms of stimulation/orgasm.
The original version of this post on Tumblr received the following response.
awesomegromm: It pays to talk about what you want in bed with your partner, instead of just assuming. Honestly. If anything, it was obvious the whole time. I don’t see how there could have been any question in your mind if she was up for it.
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