Message: Girlfriend Prefers Anal But Doesn’t Want To Admit It
Hello I’ve written to you before about my girl and myself. Yesterday I was catching up on you blog as I usually do and I read the post about anal play for women. It got me thinking about my own experiences and how for the average woman it is all about perception. She’s thinking what will my husband/boyfriend think? What would my friends think? And above all that they don’t want to be seen to be liking anal sex.
Now that we have anal sex often and she admits that she enjoys it she still doesn’t want to admit it is better than vaginal sex. The thing is that I know her better than anyone and I can tell from her behaviour and reactions that anal is better for her. She is so much more passionate and alive during anal sex compared to vaginal. Does she think I can’t see this?
Back to the point: Is (as the article you linked suggests) that women don’t want to be seen as a slut? No way would I think of her like that. But it’s my idea that that’s what is holding people back from wider adoption now.
That’s a big part of it for some people, the idea that it isn’t “normal”, or is a thing “sluts” do, or a fear of judgement from partners. It’s not the only factor, but it is a factor.