Message: You’re Allowed to Control Your Own Sexuality
Anonymous: I’m an AO woman and I just wanted to offer this to the ladies you’ve had recently in your inbox: you are allowed to control your own sexuality. If you don’t want to do something (whether it’s anal or vaginal or ANYTHING), you have the right to stand up for yourself and say so. If the person you’re with feels strongly otherwise, that’s also fine: everyone has their own sexual needs (which should be respected). But recognize that you’re incompatible this way, and move on. You’ll BOTH be happier.