Message: Cleanliness and Prep For My First Time Anal
Anonymous: Hi, I love your blog. but I’ve actually never had anal sex. I like to stick the tip of my finger when I am masturbating, but it’s rare. I’ve been thinking about having anal for real, with my boyfriend. Before I talk to him about it, I wanted to find out as much as I can about the whole thing. So I know that we need to start slow and I think I know enough about that side of things, but my worry is cleanliness and prep. When it’s my first time, do I need to prep like you’ve mentioned on ur blog b4
First, I encourage you to explore anal play more regularly while masturbating or even together with your boyfriend. Work on making that a regular part of your sex life, starting small with just one lubricated finger and working up in size as you feel ready, before trying anal intercourse.
Second, there are a lot of different opinions on cleanliness. Some go for all out enemas any time they have sex, but this can end up causing more of a mess and thus be time consuming to resolve. Others use a small anal douche to just flush out the rectum itself, which tends to be mostly empty most of the time anyway, and is usually where anal sex fully takes place. Others just go to the bathroom half an hour or so before and perhaps insert a butt plug, removing it before sex to verify continued cleanliness. If you have a fairly balanced diet with a healthy amount of fiber, the rectum tends to remain fairly clean. But, of course, if you’re going to have anal sex you should always be prepared for the possibility of an accident. As long as you and your partner both approach it in a mature manner, it really isn’t a big deal.