Message: She’s Free To Use Her Pussy With Other Women

Anonymous: We’ve been anal only since early in our relationship. 3 months of true passion, but recently I’ve stopped giving her pussy any attention. No rubbing, no oral. However, I do warm her up with the rest of her body, head to toe. It’s so funny watching her pussy get wet & ready for cock that it’s never going to get! But now she’s really begging for some pussy attention. So I thought about it, and I made her promise her ass to me but she is free to give her pussy to other women only.

I usually advocate methods to move away from dependence on vaginal and clitoral stimulation rather than shifting it to use by other people. It does seem to work for some people, and if it works for you, that’s fine, but a lot of the benefits of being anal only get lost for her if she’s still using her pussy, just not with you.

Message: Chastity Piercings

Anonymous: I just got my chastity piercing, but I only got one set in the center, how many sets do you think are normal to properly close off my vagina? I was thinking two or three more sets

First, congratulations on taking that step! That’s wonderful, and I’m sure you are and will be pleased with it.

The number of piercings used do seem to vary quite a bit by personal choice and aesthetic preference. If you want it to seriously keep out anything, you would want more, but if it’s just a decorative and symbolic piercing, then whatever looks best to you. I seem to most commonly see between 4 and 6.

Message: Want My Pussy and Clit Blocked Off

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Anonymous: I really love the idea of having my pussy and clit blocked off so I can’t touch them even if I wanted to, but I’m not ready to commit to piercings and I don’t find chastity belts sexy at all. Are there any other good alternatives?

Vaginal chastity in combination with the anal only lifestyle is a popular desire (though certainly not necessary if someone doesn’t want it for themselves). It’s totally understandable that you want to explore the idea without committing to something permanent (or expensive), however!

Types of Temporary Vaginal Chastity

Tape is a popular and easy option for quick short-term chastity that covers your pussy and clit and makes them inaccessible. Duct tape and medical tape are the best options here, but even they won’t last too long, as your sweat and vaginal fluids will loosen it over time. All you need to do is carry a roll with out and apply more as needed, however.

Clamps of various forms can be effective in the very short term, while masturbating or having sex. Clothespins and chip clips are easily accessible, but you can’t control their clamping strength. Other clamps, especially those specifically for use on skin, like nipple and clit clamps, may have adjustments so it doesn’t squeeze too tightly.

Numbing creams and gels like Orajel can temporarily eliminate any sensations from your clit or pussy. You want to use a small amount, because these are anesthetic creams and you don’t want to overuse it, but it’s generally safe in small doses. Get advice from a doctor if you have any concerns about their safety or potential reactions or interactions for yourself.

Some use superglue or similar medical grade or body-safe glues, including eyelash glue, as temporary chastity. It can be safe to do, but you should test it in one small spot first, leave gaps between glued sections in order to allow urination, and be sure not to get any glue on your urethra. Glues break down fairly quickly with contact with sweat, urine and vaginal fluids.

Sometimes Mental Enforcement of Chastity is Best

Ultimately, though, these are all temporary and some may prove more trouble than they’re worth to use regularly. It’s worth giving at least some a try, though, if you’re interested. Longer term, you may just find it more effective to achieve a goal of vaginal and clitoral denial through self control and practice.

Or, if you decide you want permanent closure of your vagina, chastity piercings can be effective for that for some people. You’d want to meet with a professional piercer and walk through the steps involved for that.

Message: Anal Only, But Boyfriend Too Eager

assalenaWe have been AO for months, but I still struggle with the stretching, it hurts. I think the problem may be solved with more and better foreplay, but my bf still doesn’t get how to turn me on, he is also rather clumsy and too eager. What can I do?

Foreplay can definitely help—fingering your ass while playing with your clit to relax and gradually open it up, adding a finger every couple minutes. But you can also make things a lot easier by wearing a butt plug regularly for general practice as well as for 15 to 30 minutes before sex to help relaxing and loosening things.

Definitely talk to him and explain what you need. While there are things you can do, communication is key and making sure he understands what you need and how to help you enjoy it better will go a long way to making the experience much better for the both of you.

I Suggested Anal Only Month…

anonymousslaveamongstyou: AND HE LOVED THE IDEA!!! Daddy and I met this weekend and he said he was only going to fuck my ass no matter what I said, he fucked it so hard and called me a whore, that I came to America for his cock, I was so turned on and I begged for him to be more rough and he did! I thought I was about to cry, it was amazing. I’m really enjoying anal and daddy’s so happy I’m enjoying it! He said he’ll eat my pussy even more now ????

Message: Wife Orgasms Too Quickly From Anal

doc201220Hi. Me and my wife are not anal only but we love it. The problem is, she cums really quick from anal and then i cant touch her. Any ideas? Thx and sry for my bad english

I’d suggest experimenting with edging—getting her close to orgasm but then backing away, repeatedly, before finally allowing her to cum. Do this regularly and keep trying to push her longer and longer until she can last longer without orgasm—and with the added bonus of a more powerful, amazing, rewarding orgasm once she finally does.

Message: Should I Let My Boyfriend Fist My Ass?

Anonymous: My boy friend wants to fist my ass and while I know I could do it cause I can take 2 big toys and his cock together should I let him fisting is a big thing I get super turned on by it but i don’t know if I would like it

You’ll have to decide whether you want to or not, and what your hesitation is. There’s nothing wrong with anal fisting if you can safely do it, and you won’t know if you like it until you try. Ultimately, it’s your ass and your choice, so don’t let anyone pressure you into something you don’t want to do, but it sounds like it is something you might like trying—and if you decide you don’t like it, you can stop and not do it again.

Message: Anal Only is Hard But Feels Great

Anonymous: My boyfriend and I really love your blog and we have been going anal-only for a month… Its hard but tbh it feels great and refreshing and different… And well just better :)…. Thanks for making such a wonderful blog and Im sure your fans will love this originality because most blogs are filled with the usual porn 😛

Thanks! I like the anal only porn blogs too (and run some) but I agree it’s nice to have a resource that’s more conversational and information-based. Be sure to join the Anal Only Lifestyle forum for more conversations and opportunities for interaction with like-minded people.

I’m glad you’re enjoying being anal only and are already recognizing how much better it is after even just a month.