Being anal only isn’t only about what hole you use. It’s about what hole you don’t. There’s a discipline to it—a steady, committed refusal to let the pussy be part of your sex life at all. That includes sex with others, and it includes sex with yourself. It’s not “almost anal only” if your fingers still drift to your clit at night. It’s not “close enough” if you occasionally cave and let your boyfriend finish in your cunt when he begs. It’s only anal, or it isn’t.

This Is About More Than Preference

Some people try to frame anal only as just a kink, just a preference, just a phase. That couldn’t be further from the truth. This is a discipline. Like any discipline, it requires clarity, intention, and boundaries that are honored every single day. When a woman chooses to live this way—when she gives her body over to being trained, used, stretched, and loved only through her ass—she is asserting control over her purpose and pleasure in a way most people will never understand. She is not being deprived. She is being refined.

Why Denial Is Powerful

Vaginal denial isn’t a punishment. It’s the tool that makes anal only real. When you refuse vaginal access—when you shut it down, not just physically but mentally and emotionally—you stop splitting your attention. Your whole sexual identity becomes focused, centered, grounded in your ass. That’s when you start to feel the difference. Not just more stretch, but more depth. Not just longer orgasms, but a deeper surrender.

And that denial? It sharpens the desire. It trains your body to feel more through your butthole, to crave more, to need more. When you stop settling for “both,” your ass starts to awaken fully. And that’s when the real transformation happens.

It’s a Commitment You Renew Daily

The discipline of anal only isn’t always easy—especially early on. The temptation to “cheat” can show up in subtle ways: lazy masturbating, curiosity about “mixing it up,” pressure from partners who “miss the pussy.”

That’s why anal only has to be deliberate. You remind yourself why you’re doing it. You keep your plug in. You stretch bigger. You stay off your clit. You don’t rationalize “just a little” vaginal attention. Discipline isn’t about shame—it’s about integrity. It’s about living your values with your body, not just with your words.

Not Everyone Will Get It—That’s Okay

Some people won’t understand why this matters to you. They’ll call it restrictive, extreme, or even silly. But they don’t feel what you feel. They don’t know what it’s like to crave fullness, to feel proud of a gaping stretch, to know that your hole is always open and always ready for what it was made to take. You do. And your discipline is what makes that possible.

So if you’re anal only—or becoming it—don’t underestimate the power of your decision. You’re not just choosing a hole. You’re choosing a path. And staying on that path takes discipline, daily.

Anonymous: My boyfriend and I have been together three years, and we’re monogamous. We always do anal but never really thought about calling it ‘anal only.’ Is AO something that applies to gay men too?

Yes—anal only absolutely applies to gay men. In many ways, gay couples like yourselves have been quietly embodying the lifestyle long before it had a name.

Anal only isn’t about gender. It’s about commitment to anal sex as the primary form of penetration, intimacy, and release. With no pussy, there’s no distraction. Just the butthole, always and only.

For straight couples it can often take on an aspect of vaginal denial and rejection since there is that choice, while for gay men it can be more about a celebration of the inevitability of anal. Some bottoms choose to reject touching or using their penis and exclusively receiving anal and giving oral, but that can vary from person to person.

Pam & Sam: I’ve been wanting to share some of my personal experiences and confirm a few things I’ve read here. I’m a woman, happily married with no kids, and over the last couple of years, my husband and I have discovered a fierce passion for the stag & vixen lifestyle.

Together, we dive into this wild world, exploring swinger clubs and tight-knit circles where we connect with other couples—and sometimes with multiple men. Sometimes my husband jumps right in, other times he prefers to watch me take full control. This dynamic has pulled us closer and added a deliciously raw edge to our relationship.

Not long ago, I took a bold leap from double penetration to double anal. At first, it was challenging, but it quickly became a game-changer. I never imagined we’d enjoy it this much. This new thrill lets me—and us—fully indulge in group sex action, and I won’t lie—I got hooked on double anal. Now, we’re enjoying it to the absolute fullest without me having to step into porn or expose myself publicly. It’s our private, dirty secret—and it feels fucking amazing.

He even wanted me—actually allowed me, call it what you want—to go solo with double anal while he watched a couple of times. He told me it was mind-blowing for him to see how I was completely owning all those men, stretching and filling my ass to the max. The way I mastered every inch had him utterly captivated. You can’t imagine how empowered and damn sexy I felt afterward. That raw, intense feeling of control and pleasure was intoxicating—pure power.

For us, this lifestyle is about personal growth and self-discovery, the thrill of voyeuristic and shared pleasure, and exploring sexual possibilities that keep our relationship vibrant and alive. It’s a journey that requires trust, communication, and openness, but the rewards are beyond worth it.

I hope sharing this encourages others who are curious or considering this path. Living boldly and loving freely has truly transformed us.

I love being a hotwife. There’s something wildly liberating about owning this role with my husband’s full support. Despite the steamy encounters with other men and couples, there are no romantic feelings involved—our love is exclusive, fierce, and rock solid.

Thanks so much for sharing, I’m glad that you’re enjoying this experience and have made the transition from DP to double anal. I hope that you are also embracing anal only as part of this transition and no longer use your vagina anymore. If you really enjoy DAP over time you may find yourself wanting to explore going double anal only!