Anonymous: Hey, can I ask something? What would guys think about an anal-only type of girl? (One that can’t have vaginal sex because she’s waiting). Would they freak out? Would they not mind? Answer this, this is very important. Thanks!

Just as different women have wildly differing opinions about sex, so do men. Some men would want vaginal sex more and some would want both, while others would think they were the luckiest guy in the world if they met a girl who was anal only. It’s going to depend on each specific guy and his own preferences.

The best you can do is explain that you only want to have anal sex and remain a vaginal virgin and hope he is understanding and supportive.

However, it sounds like you don’t want to remain anal only indefinitely—only until you meet the right person or get married. That’s not really consistent with the anal only lifestyle, as you’re still prioritizing your vagina long-term and only going anal only in the short-term to “preserve” it until later. My advice would instead be to only do vaginal if and when you plan to have children, and stick with anal otherwise.

I’ve seen a bunch of people who started off vaginal, but then have gone anal only.

Are there any couples who planned to go anal only from the beginning? Like from a virginity fetish, or they did anal only before marriage to preserve virginity, but then decided to stick with it exclusively after marriage?

(Also wonder if there are any girls who started out doing the anal only hetero thing, and then decided they were lesbian and gave up on men).

There certainly are women who started with anal and decided to stay with it and choosing deliberately to avoid losing their vaginal virginity. There are also couples who pledged on their wedding night to go anal only together from that point forward.

Anonymous: my boyfriend is pushing me to have sex with him, i want to, but i don’t want to worry about pregnancy or std. so… how safe is to have just anal/oral without protection? we are both virgins. thanks

If you’re both monogamous and clean, you can safely have oral sex. There is a very slight risk of pregnancy with anal—semen can leak out after and enter the vagina—but it’s pretty negligible if you’re careful, and plenty of people do it without issue. Anal sex has been used for millennia as a natural form of birth control, and there are many people still doing so—even women who were on the pill before and had been having vaginal sex but found it messed up their hormones too much and switched to just having anal sex instead with no pill. The actual act of anal sex cannot lead to pregnancy, it’s only the possibility of leakage afterwards.

I will say that you shouldn’t do anything you don’t want to do even if you’re being pushed to do it. If you do want to do it, great, but if not than your boyfriend needs to respect that.