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Forum: What Sent You Down the Anal Path?

My first proper boyfriend got me into anal a very long time ago. He was 5 years older than me and I would have done anything for him. During my period I would keep him happy with blowjobs. I’ve always loved sucking cock so it wasn’t a bother for me. After a few months he asked to fuck me in the ass when I was on. I wasn’t sure at first but he said his ex used to really like it. I’ve no idea if that was true, but I didn’t want to let him down. It really hurt to begin with to the point I wasn’t sure I’d made the right decision. I asked an older girlfriend about it and she gave me some tips. I learned to relax, and once I stopped worrying that it might be painful I began to enjoy it. By the time we split up I was having anal-only orgasms and asking for it at any time of the month.

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Article: How to Prepare for Anal Sex, According to Experts

Before jumping on the butt sex bandwagon, you should know what is anal sex fact vs. fiction. Look no further than this how-to guide for beginner-friendly anal action.

What do Lady Gaga, platform sneakers, and anal sex have in common? They’re all having a moment.

This morning, in the span of one hour, Truffle Butter played at my fave coffee shop (if you don’t know what that has to do with anal, two words: Urban Dictionary), an email about the launch of a new butt plug popped into my inbox, and my pal texted to ask which position—missionary or doggy—was a better position for first-time anal sex.

Still, the sex act seemingly everyone’s intrigued by—and in some cases trying—is still shrouded in mystery. And, to be fair, butt sex can be kind of intimidating. Here, sexperts break down anal sex facts vs. fiction to deliver—drum roll please—a first-time anal sex how-to guide. To replace some of that confusion with clarity, read on for tips and tricks on how to prepare for anal sex that will make it as pleasurable, safe, clean, and orgasmic as possible.

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Message: Anal Help

Sue: 3 questions.

1. How can I ensure a clean anal session!?

2. How to prepare my butthole!?

3. What kind of plugs would you suggest!?

Thanks open to all advice:-)

Hi Sue, thanks for the questions. We actually have a Guide to Anal Sex and the Anal Only Lifestyle which answers all of these in detail.

Hope that helps, and please follow up with any more questions you might have if there’s anything not answered there!

In Support of Vaginal Virginity

It will come as no surprise to frequent readers of this blog that I am a strong supporter of women who have not yet had vaginal sex choosing to retain their vaginal virginity indefinitely and go anal only before even trying vaginal.

Not only am I noticing a growing trend of women making that deliberate choice for a variety of reasons—which we’ll get into in a moment, but I’m also noticing more and more women who are making the switch to anal only later in life expressing their regret for ever losing their vaginal virginity and wasting so much time on vaginal sex when they could have stayed anal only all along and been happier.

So, if you’re on the fence or considering the idea of staying a vaginal virgin and focusing your life on pure anal only, here’s a list of some reasons why you should.

  • Anal sex is natural birth control and by going anal only you hardly need to worry at all about other forms of birth control and can enjoy sex naturally and without the baggage of unwanted pregnancy. Hormonal birth control can also cause negative side effects for many women, and using anal as birth control instead avoids that. This is one of the most popular reasons young women start out having anal sex only, but in many cases later shift their focus to vaginal for various reasons. Rather than doing that, choose to stay anal only and keep vaginal purely for getting pregnant later in life. Note that if you’re having sex with untested partners, you should still be using condoms to avoid risking sexually transmitted infections, and some women need hormonal birth control for other purposes than birth control.
  • Anal sex is more pleasurable for most women than vaginal sex, when done right. The common myth that still goes around, unfortunately, is that women don’t enjoy anal and suffer through it for their partners. This can be true if it’s rushed into without preparation—but that can be true of vaginal as well. And when done right, the reality is that most women enjoy anal pleasure more than vaginal and can orgasm more intensely and easily than from vaginal. By skipping vaginal entirely, you can focus all your sexual experience around anal pleasure and cut out vaginal as a transition to the best way to have sex.
  • It’s really fun and sexy, both for yourself, and for future partners, to know that you’re a very sexually experienced individual who absolutely loves anal sex and pleasure but who has zero interest in vaginal sex to the point that you’ve never used your vagina for sex even once. It shows a lot of confidence in what you want and need, and that’s kind of awesome.

So if you’re considering having sex for the first time, make it anal, and make sure it stays that way. It’s time for vaginal sex to die out and be replaced fully with anal. The more people who make the decision to go purely anal only, the faster that will happen, and the sooner an anal only generation will form.

If You’re Mostly Anal Only, It’s Time to Let Go of Vaginal

A common thing, possibly even more common than people already actively practicing anal only, is for someone to prefer anal sex to the point that it dominates a majority of their sexual activity. This isn’t at all surprising—when done properly, anal is consistently more pleasurable, enjoyable, exciting and intimate than vaginal sex, and among women who have regularly done both, most say they prefer anal.

But even still, many don’t take the final step to move past vaginal for good and decide to focus purely on anal going forward. Some simply haven’t considered the idea yet. Some feel they still need to have vaginal sex occasionally for some vague, undefined reason, or some sort of rejection of their femininity to not do it. Some think they still want or need it on occasion, or have a partner who does.

The reality is that anal only people and couples are consistently happier and more satisfied with their sex lives and find that excluding vaginal and focusing entirely on the anal pleasure that they prefer amplifies and improves everything and makes it more fun.

If you prefer anal, you owe it to yourself to try going anal only. You don’t have to commit to it fully up front, just try it for a few months at first and see what you think about it after that. Chances are you’ll find that you don’t miss vaginal at all and that you’ve enjoyed being anal only and want to stay that way.