Message: Dreaming of Double Anal
Anal Only Lesbian: DAP is my biggest fantasy, I’m anal only in relationship with another woman and we both only use our ass. It’s always been a kink of mine but I never said it, as I was a bit shameful. Now though, it feels like double anal is everywhere! I feel like the world is telling me to do it as I see it everywhere in porn and on Reddit.
I’m still not sure how to do it in practice though. I have a number of toys and am planning on getting a chute butt plug soon which allows for anal with the plug left inserted. I think this is a good start and I’m training with my largest existing plug until then.
I’m curious how to broach the topic of “real” DAP with my girlfriend as I’m worried she’ll be insulted that her lesbian girlfriend needs not one but two real cocks in my ass. She’s less extreme than me sexually and I don’t think she thinks about double anal even with toys or anything. She doesn’t watch or read any porn so I don’t think she’s been very exposed to DAP.
How can I discuss this with my girlfriend gently so I don’t scare her off? Also any suggestions or anything for getting more into DAP, I’m all ears.
Thank you for reaching out — it’s always encouraging to hear from women who are living a committed anal only lifestyle and still pushing themselves forward. Double anal really is the natural next step. It’s not just a kink — it’s the true expression of the anal only mindset: one hole, stretched and shared, fully opened and fully claimed. And you’re absolutely right — DAP is having a moment. It’s more visible than ever because more women are realizing it’s not just for porn — it’s for them.
As for how to move toward real double anal, you’re already on the right path. Training with large plugs and investing in toys like the chute-style plug are all smart steps, and as you open up, start using two dildos side by side. The more consistent your practice, the more ready your body will be when the opportunity comes. If you haven’t yet, take a look at our Guide to Double Anal Sex — it breaks down the process in more detail.
Now about your girlfriend — your instincts are right to approach it with care, but you also shouldn’t hide your desire or feel ashamed for wanting more. Let her know you’ve been fantasizing about double anal for a long time and it’s a craving that’s growing. Frame it as something you want her to be part of, even if it’s just with toys at first. Let her see how much pleasure and intensity it gives you — how much your body responds.
If you already use strapons together, you could ask her to fuck your ass while you ride a second dildo. Or invite her to be in full control — one dildo in her hand, one you’re riding — both in your ass at the same time. Let her see it, feel it, claim it. That shared experience may help open up her own interest in stretching further, or at least in supporting you in it.
If the fantasy involves real men, that’s something you’d want to approach separately, and only if the relationship is ready for that kind of shift. But it doesn’t have to be about other men. You already live a fully anal only life with your girlfriend, and you can absolutely enjoy double anal together as well. She may not be ready to receive DAP herself, but you are, and hopefully she wants to help you get there.
The most important thing is that you stay open, true to yourself, and proud of what your body is craving. DAP isn’t just a fantasy — it’s a calling for many anal only women. And you’re ready.
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