Discussion: Wife Suddenly Prefers Anal
A user on dearcupid.org asks:
Hi. Been married for 10 years and wife said was virgin.
Regular sex was painful with her to start with and she seemed really not to know hot to handle it.
However, very recently she started initiating anal sex without even me asking. I guess she probably got to knwo that men fanatsize about it. She was the one who suddenly positioned her body and “guided” me inside without any lube to start with and she orgasmed right away. It did not seem to hurt her and was the one saying to keep on “pushing” in. After a few months she got into a routine of lubing her asshole before even foreplay so we can do anal and she orgasms pretty strongly as I feel her anal muscles spasms incontrolably after a few pumps. Only issue is that she wants me out RIGHT AWAY after she orgasms.
Question I have is this: How come she wants anal sex so suddenly and easily? Many of my friends say they only dream their wives let them do anal with them and I was wondering how I was so lucky and/or what advice I can give my married friends.
The reason I could simply not ask her is because she already said she was a virgin before marriage..and any further investigations would only embarass her.
While it’s certainly fair to want to know why the sudden change, it’s unfortunate that he is unable to communicate with his wife about it. Communication is key to so many things, including sexual compatibility and happiness, and it’s essential that partners in a long-term relationship are able to communicate effectively about sex in order to understand each other’s desires and preferences and do their best to satisfy those for each other in the most effective way. Fortunately, this is what a lot of the other participants in the discussion say as well.
Barring that, it’s a fairly obvious situation to infer. She doesn’t enjoy vaginal and gets more pleasure from anal, and likely found that out through masturbation to discover that anal is more enjoyable for her and makes her orgasm better than vaginal does, and so wanted to switch to anal instead of vaginal. This is not at all an uncommon thing. So many women get better pleasure from anal, and would be much happier and more sexually satisfied anal only, so it really should come as no surprise when something like this happens.
Where the communication would benefit the both of them is in her expressing to him how much more she enjoys anal and that she really needs it instead of vaginal, and him expressing that he enjoys anal with her but would like to be able to have sex longer than just however long it takes for her to orgasm and then be done, and they could then work together to make it more mutually enjoyable and be able to enjoy a long and happy anal only relationship together from that point forward.
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